HPV fingering, receiving oral

Hello Dr,

Thank you for the excellent service you provide out here.

My concern is oral and finger transmission of HPV. I am not at all proud of my actions but it’s another alcohol related strip club experience. I was at a strip club a few months ago and fingered a few of the dancers. From one I also received very brief (~20 sec) unprotected oral sex.
My concerns are the risk of me contracting HPV from these events.

1.) What is the risk of me contracting HPV from fingering?
2.) Is it possible only my finger could get infected and I could transfer that to my wife?
2.) What is the risk of me contracting HPV from the brief oral encounter? Can someone have a genital HPV infection (even asymptotic) in their mouth and then transmit that to their partner who is receiving the oral sex? Or do only the oral HPV types infect the mouth?

I’ve read some of the other posts in the archive and this topic doesn’t always seem clear. It seems as though these are low risk activities but then some posts seem to indicate these transmissions are frequent. I’ve been married for 20 some years and this is not typical behavior. Thus please understand my concerns.

Thanks