HPV (warts) & HSV

*Sexual History

I first had sex when I was 21 years old.  We were both virgins and were in a monogamous relationship for 7 years. We broke up after 7 years, and I started talking to another guy.  I asked this guy many questions including if he had any STD's.  He said he HAD condyloma (genital warts).  Well, in my mind I was thinking, 'How can you "HAD" condyloma?'  I asked him how did you get rid of it and he told me that they froze it off.  At any rate, I was pretty ignorant about viral STD's and continued to be interested in him.  He told me he was diagnosed with Condyloma in 2005 and it was 2009 when we started talking.

One day we met up with each other and things got pretty heated.  He had his boxers on and only exposed his penis.  I saw and felt no visible bumps, lesions, or sores.  We had close body contact (in other words, touching each other), but I had on some thin pants (for it was summer time and it was hot) and some thong underwear.  With this being said we grinded (rubbed) on each other.  I never took off my pants or underwear.  In fact, I had on all of my clothes.  We did touch each others genitals (him only touching the clit part of my genitals and nothing else).  Nothing further happened (no oral sex, vaginal sex, or anal sex).

Well, 3  to 5 days later (can't remember specifically because it has been since 2009 since the incident) I started experiencing sensations I have NEVER experienced before.  Itching, burning, and tingling all over the vulva (including the anus).  I was pretty upset.  There I was at 26 years old and never in my life have I had any vaginal problems until 3 days after I had contact with someone who I knowingly "had" an STD.  I didn't know what was going on.  I went to a health departmet soon after and got tested for all STD's and all of them came back negative.  My problem was not fixed and I scheduled an appointment with my OBGYN a couple of months after going to the health department & getting tested.  My OBGYN diagnosed me with Bacterial vaginosis (I had all the symptoms of BV WITHOUT any odor).  I cried in relief knowing that it was only BV.  I was treated for this bacterial infection.

12 months later BV re-occured and was treated once again.  Then, 6 or 7 months later (which is now), I'm now being treated for my third BV occurence (I went to the OBGYN this past Thursday).  She also found two small Nabothian cysts on my cervix near the cervical OS.  

I met another guy in 2009 and we have been sexually active for two years (monogamous relationship.  Of course, I asked him questions concerning STD's before any intercourse had occured) and nothing has showed up (as in bumps, lesions, sores).  I haven't told him about the incident because when I was treated the first time, my nurse practicioner told me that I should not be worried about it b/c it is usually transmitted via sexual intercourse.  She also told me that HSV & HIV testing was not necessary as well (because I was considering getting both of the tests).

My nurse practitioner told me that she thinks that I should just let it go (my thoughts and anxiety about maybe having a viral STD).  My mind battles the fact that I had a perfectly normal vagina before I had contact with this guy and mysteriously got BV a couple days after contact without ever having sex.  

In conclusion, I still have a fear that the virus MAY have been transmitted to me.  Everytime I get a BV diagnosis, I suddenly become a hypercondriac and I start self-diagnosing myself....not good at all because it only escalates my anxiety!  Help put my mind at ease.

*QUESTIONS:

1) I can't help but think that ever since I had close contact with that guy, why am I having so many vaginal problems, WHY!? Could it be that I have somehow gotten the virus (or who knows what other things he could have had...maybe even HSV) from this incident?

2) Could the virus have gotten transmitted to me through my clothing if I wore my clothing overnight?

3) Could hand to genital & genital to hand contact have transmitted the virus (in other words, if he touched his genitals and then proceeded to touch mine)?

4) Is BV commonly a symptom of venereal warts?

5) Does HPV & HSV have similar modes of transmission?

6) Based on the incident, what were my chances of getting the virus from this guy that had a previous diagnosis of condyloma?

P.S.  Any other input you might want to add to help put my mind at ease??