How to tell oral sex partners

I am a gay male with anal warts. I’m getting treated but it’s taking a while and I would like to start having sex again. I was just looking for advice on how to tell future partners.

I don’t do anal sex, only oral. And I know that oral warts are extremely rare. The expert on this site told me I don’t need to tell oral sex partners as it is a personal decision. But I would rather be honest. I had oral sex with two guys already and didn’t tell. I felt so guilty afterwards!

But how much detail do I need to go into when I tell my partners? I will obviously tell them that oral warts are extremely rare. But how likely is asymptomatic oral HPV? Could somebody get HPV in their mouth from having oral with me and then pass it on to somebody else through kissing or oral, without even knowing they have it. I know it’s unlikely but do I need to tell my partners that it’s a possibility? Or should I just say that oral warts are rare and leave it up to them whether to take the risk or not?

Thanks for any help. This is driving me nuts!

[Mags370]

I understand your view, I share it. I feel that HPV is part of my sexual history.

This post will help with some of your questions:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Oral-HPV-Cancer-Risk/show/1512873

I have found in telling people that more people than you know already are aware of HPV and have either had their own experiences with it or know people who have. I don't know why we are so embarrised about having something that almost all of us will get. Basically it is a skin condition, just as warts on the hand is. I went to a ENT doc who told me not to worry at all about HPV issues due to oral sex. When telling someone you want to be intimate with I would suggest you just be open and not make it something scary. Offer that you have researched the subject.

Now as for your safety. Even though HPV has very little risk orally you are at risk for a few other STD's. Consider buying flavored condoms. There are lots of flavors and they seem to be thinner than reg condoms so it's still fun. I found the sex shops have a good variety and cheaper than a drug store.

If you are ever in a committed relationship the you can practice unprotected sex.