I messed up. Please advice

A few years back I found some weird growing "things" on my penis, and had my partner then help me see a doctor.
All I could make out then was "You got a dirty thing from sex" (I did not understand the language as foreigner).
Having to deal with the humiliation and blame, for some reason I never got to research what I had (yeah, genital warts)
A short, painful, but successful treatment cleared it up and I *thought* whatever I had is gone forever.

Years passed on and the episode forgotten.  

About 6 months ago my fiance started develop genital warts.  (I still had no clue about HPV....man, I'm dumb).  Obviously I passed it on and only then found out what de heck I have done.

I can tell you how it feel to have an STD.  But no words can describe the feeling of passing it on to a loved one.

Anyhow, I promised her I will take care of it, and will take her to a good hospital in a week  (she refused before, and we tried home treatment using Aldara..not much luck there).  Lately we realized there are something growing inside her vagina canal (can feel it) and the big obvious one on her urinal opening  (scuse my lack of knowing the correct words)

In mean time I read that a healthy lifestyle can help.  So we both quit smoking, started eating healthy (more healthy..we had a pretty healthy diet before), started gulping down litres of green tea.

I was hoping if you could give me some advice / tips / pointers  (and critic....I know I deserve it).

I can see the poor girl is so shocked and disappointed. Even so young, she does not directly blame me, but I can imagine what must be crossing her mind.  What I have done I will always regret, and if anyone ever read this.....what can I say.  Be so so so careful, cause nothing is worse than passing it on.  

[alexdelong]

Getting HPV is part of a normal sexual lifestyle. Almost everybody who has had 3 or more partners will contract one or more strains of this virus. For most, the virus is cleared before presenting any problems. Some people get warts, others have more serious complications. The strains that cause warts, cause only warts, nothing more serious. They are ugly, and an inconvienence. Nobody wants genital warts, but most people come to realize that they really aren't a big deal. They can be treated and the immune system will eventually clear the virus with no complicaitons.

I understand that you feel guilty about spreading HPV, but you thought that the virus had cleared, and it hadn't. This happens. If everybody with HPV knew they were contagious, infection rates would be much lower. Your fiancee seems to understand, and I think you should follow her lead.

Note: It is also possible that your fiancee contracted HPV from a previous partner.

Both of you should see a doctor. You should be examined for warts, and she should get a diagnosis and treatment. It is not surprising that treatment without the aide of a professional is ineffective. Don't be ashamed to have such a common virus, and allow a doctor to help you!