Looking for Expert Guidance and answers on HPV

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I have had many sex partners in the past maybe around 15, but have always used protection, ALWAYS, including some sex workers. Nothing ever happened I always got tested for STD's and it was all in the clear. I recently starting a dating a very nice girl that I was getting along with very well and did have unprotected sex with her- first time ever. I am 27 years old and about a month ago I saw a little unusual bump on the bottom of my shaft, It was too small to notice and think anything of it. Fast track to 1 week ago it got larger and another bump grew went to the doctor and he said it was genital warts and I had HPV, this has been the most difficult time in my entire life, and I feel the past is haunting me for the bad things Ive done. Also my girlfriend broke up with me because of this saying I ruined her life even though it could have been her who gave it to me but unlikely because she's had very few partners.

My questions are...

1. Once I get warts removed from a dermatologist and don't see any warts for lets say 6 months can I pass this on to my future sex partner considering she is a virgin?

2. I live with a family, and have brothers, can they catch this from the toilet seat? or anything else you can think of, I am so paranoid I cant even eat went into depression.

3. I feel so dirty all the time, Im so paranoid about touching things, I can even focus at work, Im losing so much sleep and having nightmares, is this really that awful as I think it is? It doesnt seem accurate that 80 percent of this, everyone always goes EW HPV?? which means they dont have it.

4. I grew the warts at the bottom of the penis shaft which would suggest the condom protected my penis except that area which was not covered by the condom, is there something as catching a small amount versus a large amount of the virus?

5. In the future will the warts only grew from the area of exposure or can grow from anywhere?

6. I dont want to pass this on to anyone, does this mean I can only have PROTECTED sex/ vaginal and oral in the future? can i still be safe to not pass on the virus engaging in unprotected sex with my future wife if she was a virgin or will she get it for sure?

7. give me more guidance, I cant sleep or eat, I cant even function at work, I always lived in a dream thought I wouldn't catch anything because I was being safe, but that is WRONG. .... should I get checked out for other STD's? does warts usually mean I might have something else more serious?


I just need to know more about this, this virus stays for life, but I've also heard that once the warts are gone and dont reappear you CANNOT pass the virus onto your sex partner. I just need some solid advice and answers. Also I feel so depressed I cant even look my mom in the eyes.

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So many questions....?

1. No one knows the answer to this question. You may never be infectious again or you may be infectious years or decades from now.

2. No.

3. No, it is a cosmetic issue caused by a virus. Half of the people who have it do not know they have it. If they have been sexually active (4 or more partners in their life), they probably have it. Each partner is a 20% risk and at 80%, the CDC says you should have been exposed to it.

4. Nope. Not you know why condoms don't provide much protection. They don't cover the bottom of the shaft, the scrotum, thighs, buttocks, etc. There is no such thing as "a little of the virus",

5. They can grown anywhere.

6. See #1, 90% of the infected never become infectious again. No one knows who is and isn't in this 90%.

7. Always get tested for STDs at least once a year. Herpes is also a STD that condoms don't protect good enough. Take the 8 panel or 10 panel test for the top 8 or 10 popular STDs.

There is no one size fits all answer for everyone who has HPV. Most of us think that with a strong immune system, you have a lesser chance of becoming infectious again. Smoking cigs, alcohol, stress, lack of sleep, bad eating habits, no exercise, no vitamins, etc can lead to more warts. For sure, use latex condoms during your recovery phase (3-6 months) as they have been shown to prevent more warts. Or wait until your recovery is over. Unfortunately since men cannot be tested for it, you won't really know when your recovery is over. Most people never become infectious again. You may become one of those. Or not.

Now you know what we know - There is no such thing as SAFE SEX. There never was. The only safe sex is no sex. Your bumps could have come from the unsafe sex or from the safe sex you had. You won't ever know which or when. No one can point to any sex act or sex partner and definitely say this was the one where you got infected or where you infected someone. But for sure, if you see a genital wart - avoid sex.