Thank you very much. I feel much better about the situation
First off, oral HPV is not that easy to pass as genital sex. High risk HPV does not always lead to cancer, maybe 4-5%. Given that this gal wasn't your first partner, what makes you think you didn't already get exposed to it? The CDC says each partner is a 20% risk and 80% (4 partners) is the point where you were probably exposed to it. Have you been with 4 or more women in your entire life? Your chances are low from a one time event, but its not zero.
Passing HPV via cigs or joints or cups or kissing is always possible but not probable. If your friends aren't virgins, they may already have it.
As a man, all you can do is get tested for every STD that a man can get tested for (Herpes is very popular too) and inform your future partner of your results. Informing future partners of past lovers issues is optional. Doctors think that 8 out of 10 sexually active people have been exposed to HPV. Meaning its difficult to find someone who doesn't have it. What are the odds that you are going to date someone who hasn't slept with 4 or more men in their entire life? Probably very low.
If necessary, educate future partners of what this is and why they probably have it. http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm
Your only other choice is to join a STD dating site and find someone with HPV too. The virus never leaves the body and so anyone who has a positive diagnosis, has it for life. Women who have procedures done and are told that they "are clean" could become infectious again years or decades later. Should you join a STD dating site, you will see that there are very few women who admit to having it. Meanwhile 80% of all sexually active adults have it. Which mean the majority of infected people aren't saying anything. For a good reason. People don't know (men can't get tested), people refuse to admit or its pointless to admit since the alternative (celibacy for life) is impossible. BTW, most men are carriers since they can't get tested for it.
Hello, I have high risk hpv as well, you are at risk of getting it through oral sex as well as actual sex.