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Wished I Never Had Sex
Sad to say that i am in the age group (over 18 under 21) where it is very common for us to have HPV. Although Im very intelligent obvisously my decisions weren't. I just had my first paps test a few months ago...one stupid mistake. I've had unprotected sex...stupid mistake number two well it couldnt be that stupid since it was with a total of three people over a 4yr term at least thats what i thought. Ok thats done and over with. So here is the story my very first paps test came back abnormal. My doc referred me to a GYN to repeat the paps. The GYN told me that I have LSIL and mild dysplasia and scheduled me for a biopsy. I got the biopsy done and she tells me that I have high risk HPV and will schedule a LEEP. By this point there was little room for crying and getting upset since I was being hard-headed and not using protection all the time rather 92% of the time or just being abstinent. So the procedure takes place on the 18th of this month. Can you advise me what I have in store after this process? Well really my main concern is the pain? I cant even step into a doctors office or hospital without thinking what goes on behind closed doors. And do I really have it that BAD? You know the LSIL, mild dysplasia, high risk HPV, and the LEEP surgery.
I really need to step in here. HPV is practically unavoidable for anyone who has sex. Everyone gets HPV at some point unless they are both virgins and have never touch another human being. People will have sex. That's what we do - we have to in order to pro-create and to feel a connection with another person. Stop beating yourself up over this. You are at an age where the HPV will probably go dormant at any moment. Still you need to get paps and if necessary have treatment to any abnormal cells. The facts are that 95% of the people with HPV will have no ill effects. Only 5% do. And LSIL reverts back to normal in most cases. It's HSIL that has to be watched more closely however even with LSIL, I would still watch that closely too so that it doesn't progress on to something worse.
Until the medical community learns how to deal with telling their patients about HPV in a way that won't make them feel like they are "dirty" or "******", people will continue to treat HPV like it's some sort of obscure virus, which it most certainly isn't.
And this is especially for women here - men sleep around more b/c there is less social stigma to do so. They don't feel guilt like women. The chances of you meeting a man who doesn't have HPV is slim to none.
The HPV test only tests for "active" hpv. When the virus goes dormant, it will test negative on an HPV test but that doesn't mean that you don't have HPV.
Until the medical community learns how to deal with telling their patients about HPV in a way that won't make them feel like they are "dirty" or "******", people will continue to treat HPV like it's some sort of obscure virus, which it most certainly isn't.
And this is especially for women here - men sleep around more b/c there is less social stigma to do so. They don't feel guilt like women. The chances of you meeting a man who doesn't have HPV is slim to none.
The HPV test only tests for "active" hpv. When the virus goes dormant, it will test negative on an HPV test but that doesn't mean that you don't have HPV.
did u have a large area of ur cervix burned off?Its only been 2 months...u need time 2 completely heal...what does ur gyno say?
well i had the surgery done on nov. 7 2007. it was a lil painful but not really....i am just fine, but i having a hard time conceiving......
See?all done and out of way.U go back for follow-up..that is a must young lady!:)))))take care of urself an dfollow post-op directions for the best healing time!
Good girl! Everything is going to be fine, just a blip on the radar screen of your life. Don't forget to take a good multi-vitamin and extra folic acid daily. Let us know how it goes!
CONGRATS to me. I did it. I got my LEEP done and out the way. FINALLY. It went very well. The only problem I had was when they couldnt find a good vein for the IV and kept pricking me. They asked me to take 4 deep breaths and before I know it I was out like a light. Then they woke me up and was like you're done. I will go back on Jan 8 for a follow up if it dont interfere with my job.
they must be putting u 2 sleep because of ur high anxiety over this!I was fully awake and it really was no big deal.No caffeine they told me the morn off!2day is ur big day!Girl u need to calm down and let them do their thing....c'mon now!Ask the doctor about the sex thing...the literature sez 6 weeks none...u do not want to mess up ur healing time with this.It is wise to not use tampons..they will bump against the cervix..can cause irritation,mess up the surgery and possible infection.Taking blood sample is common hospital procedure...mine was done outpatient.So RELAX breathe deep cooperate and the best of luck 2 u!I will b thinking of u at 9am Ohio time!
They told me that they will put me to sleep and the procedure itself shouldnt take no longer than 20 minutes. But they will hold me in recovery for 2 hours. I cant eat or drink after 12 which is like in 30 minutes and im parched. lol. Im excited to get this done and over with. But when I went to the hospital today I was extremely nervous. I just hate the environment, even if all the staff is trying to be my friend. Im not having that. One thing I didnt understand was why they had to take a blood sample for blood work. I hate needles and girl they had to have 3 nursing staff to hold my arm down. I think that pissed them off but hey thats their job and thats just me. They asked me to be back in the morning at 8:30. Im going to get there earlier so we can get this done sooner.
Ok you know how they tell you dont wear tampons and have sex for a month after the procedure. Well I was talking to my ex last night and today about him making a visit to come see me. Im moving out of my parents house again on Feb.1 and he wants to "do the do"...of course using protection...on valentines which is the week he is coming down here. Do you think that will be a good idea? So thats basically giving me 2 months to heal down there. I would ask my gyno but I dont want her to look at me like girl you just had surgery and calm ur fast *** down. lol.
Ok you know how they tell you dont wear tampons and have sex for a month after the procedure. Well I was talking to my ex last night and today about him making a visit to come see me. Im moving out of my parents house again on Feb.1 and he wants to "do the do"...of course using protection...on valentines which is the week he is coming down here. Do you think that will be a good idea? So thats basically giving me 2 months to heal down there. I would ask my gyno but I dont want her to look at me like girl you just had surgery and calm ur fast *** down. lol.
thank u dear..its 2 day at 1pm!will have to wait 10 days for results from Labcorp.I will b thinking of u 2 morrow-prayers..u'll do fine..breathe deep and relax during it..i did and it came out fine!
Keep me posted about your follow up tomorrow. thats if you dont mind. thanks.
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Im going for my pre-op at 9am. Tuesday is almost here and im so ready to stop thinking about the prodecure and stop talking about it to my homegirl. I mean she is behind me 100% but she can barely relate. Well she will be alright lol.
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Im going for my pre-op at 9am. Tuesday is almost here and im so ready to stop thinking about the prodecure and stop talking about it to my homegirl. I mean she is behind me 100% but she can barely relate. Well she will be alright lol.
the surgery will remove the bad cells from ur cervix.a follow-up pap will be rescehduled in a few months to see if it came back.The virus itself will clear from the body in time and yes lies dormant.
I thought the surgery was only to clear my dysplasia? And I thought HPV doesnt clear, that it just lies dormant? I need some luck anyway. Thanks!
Your HPV will probably clear after the surgery. My doc said I would have a 95 % success rate with surgery. I had mine at 25 and I'm 36 now, and I never had an abnormal pap again. Good luck.
yes u r young and have ur whole life ahead of u!cooling it is wise...but cool his concern for u!i did not receive that from one who gave me HPV.One of the many reasons he is my X!
He's about 4 hours away. I dont get to see him at all anymore. The last time I seen him was before my colpsy. I mean we still talk every other day but we're just on friend terms right now. We still love each other but I guess being young and in a serious relationship we decided to "cool-it" for awhile.
that was cool of him and seems like from ur words he showed a concern for u....didn't deny it was him....i hope it works out 4 u...and him...and that he'll support whatever medical treatment u need and b there 4 u....how faraway is he?how often u get 2 c him?
He acted as if he was fine...I couldnt really tell how he was feeling over the phone "long distance". I quote him, "...babe if you got it, I got it. I still love you" When we were at school last semester we both got tested for HIV and both came out negative. He stated he got tested for std's before he met me but never saw the proof. I did inform him on everything that I research from HPV to cancer to surgery to health. I broke it down for him and he understood. I also advised him to do research and maybe call his doctor for himself. I know for a fact he isnt with anybody else since we just broke up about 3 weeks ago. I understand the hole being concerned about the health thing. And from here on out it will just be me, myself and I or my ex. I dont feel like being with anybody else.
He acted as if he was fine...I couldnt really tell how he was feeling over the phone "long distance". I quote him, "...babe if you got it, I got it. I still love you" When we were at school last semester we both got tested for HIV and both came out negative. He stated he got tested for std's before he met me but never saw the proof. I did inform him on everything that I research from HPV to cancer to surgery to health. I broke it down for him and he understood. I also advised him to do research and maybe call his doctor for himself. I know for a fact he isnt with anybody else since we just broke up about 3 weeks ago. I understand the hole being concerned about the health thing. And from here on out it will just be me, myself and I or my ex. I dont feel like being with anybody else.
i know how u feel...we all do...getting back with x.....how did he handle it when u told him bout the HPV?is he with other partners?does he have any std's?been tested?yes i'm nosey but its concern for ur health...and u must be the stern gatekeeper of it from here on out!
Im really not beating myself up as bad as I make it seem. I have a little more than week to operation. I cant wait, im so anxious not really all that scared anymore. Im glad in a way because this could of been something much worst. Im also glad that you all are here sharing thoughts and insights. Im really not looking for a man unless I get back with my ex. He wants to get back together and he is ok with the hole HPV thing...either I got it for him or he got it from me who knows? But we are taking time off...its a guarantee we will get back together. But anyway I will start being more healthy again...I used to play sports year-round in high school and first year of college. I will definately keep you all posted on after my LEEP. And the hole thing about telling your closest friends. I told my 2 closest home girls and they were both like "I never told anybody this but I had..." amazing isnt it?
Really like and agree with both ur comments.I'm always reminded how fortunate I am.Took my good friend out 2 birthday lunch today.She told me her good friends sister who is close to 60 got divorced after a miserable marriage and began to date who she thought was a good man.Lo and behold he neglected to tell her (and i know she didn't ask for her hub was the only man she'd been with) that he had HSV-2!And now she has it!This woman is devastated...i know u both can imagine how she feels!My heart goes out to her!It will be hard for me to trust someone again... i will have to know them a long time!That woman will also be in my prayers as are all the women here!
Sweetheart, most people have this. Even your best friends probably have it as well as the guy you are seeing (especially if he has been with 3 or more women). You can even get this if you fool around with someone and don't have sex. It's been found under fingernails. Ever wondered why they say the vaccine is most effective when given to girls 9 - 13? Because around 13 or 14, people start heaving petting.
I felt the same way as you when I first found out. My dr. was really bad too and didn't help matters. When I told her that 80% of the women have been exposed by the time they are 50, she said "I don't think it's that high". I fired her immediately and when her nurses called me to schedule a follow up, I said that she needed to get herself educated and found another dr. Once I found out, and started researching it, I realized how many of my friends have had LEEP or bad paps or cone biopsies....
Just know that you can still have a normal sex life, have children (my best friend has 2 little girls and she had LEEP in her early 30's) and this will soon become something you rarely think about.
Make sure you find a good gyn, get regular paps, eat right (fruits & veggies), take extra folic acid (it's cheap, you can buy it at any CVS or health food store), and otherwise keep yourself healthy. You'll be ok. You both will.
I felt the same way as you when I first found out. My dr. was really bad too and didn't help matters. When I told her that 80% of the women have been exposed by the time they are 50, she said "I don't think it's that high". I fired her immediately and when her nurses called me to schedule a follow up, I said that she needed to get herself educated and found another dr. Once I found out, and started researching it, I realized how many of my friends have had LEEP or bad paps or cone biopsies....
Just know that you can still have a normal sex life, have children (my best friend has 2 little girls and she had LEEP in her early 30's) and this will soon become something you rarely think about.
Make sure you find a good gyn, get regular paps, eat right (fruits & veggies), take extra folic acid (it's cheap, you can buy it at any CVS or health food store), and otherwise keep yourself healthy. You'll be ok. You both will.
Thank you so much for your posts. HPV does make me feel dirty and like my life has just been turned upside down. I know there are many worse things that could have happened to me, but this was sure a blow to the system. I am slowly learning more about it everyday, and I definitely didn't know that the hpv test would come back negative if you had it and it was dormant.
It is scary how many people have this and don't know, not to mention how easily it is spread. After I found out, I started seeing a guy, and we read that not even condoms can help, so sex went out the window.
Nonetheless I am glad to hear from other women. It has been such a dirty secret for me that I haven't even been able to share with my best friends.
It is scary how many people have this and don't know, not to mention how easily it is spread. After I found out, I started seeing a guy, and we read that not even condoms can help, so sex went out the window.
Nonetheless I am glad to hear from other women. It has been such a dirty secret for me that I haven't even been able to share with my best friends.
I know what you mean, I thought I was the only one with HPV until I came to medhelp. This forum has been great for me. Learned so much from everyone and made some nice friends in the meantime. It does suck that women carry the brunt of the issues with HPV. The sad part is that most men don't even know they have it. There is no test for them.
I think if you want a man, you'll get one. You just need one who is going to treat you right and have it be someone you can respect and admire. He will be a hellava man!!!!
My guy has a great sense of humor which to me is the most important thing anyone can have. We laugh all the time but know when to be serious too. He's smart (University Professor) and has his own consulting business on the side. Very well off but also knows how to have fun. I've been serious for way too long and have decided that now is the time to have some fun in my life.
I think if you want a man, you'll get one. You just need one who is going to treat you right and have it be someone you can respect and admire. He will be a hellava man!!!!
My guy has a great sense of humor which to me is the most important thing anyone can have. We laugh all the time but know when to be serious too. He's smart (University Professor) and has his own consulting business on the side. Very well off but also knows how to have fun. I've been serious for way too long and have decided that now is the time to have some fun in my life.
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