coping mentaly and spiritually with genital warts

I recently found out I have genital warts and I am so devestated. My partner left me bc he is positive I gave it to him and now I'm nothing but a dirty raunchy skank. I'm trying to find comfort but I can't even talk to anyone without risking humiliation the rest of my life . I am religious and I pray about it . I tend to live normal but at the end of the day I am crying over the fact that I am 20 and infected forever and having a partner in my life seems
Out of the question. I feel like I could never forgive myself if I gave it to him because I ruined his life but
I wish he would understand I had no idea so now I'm all alone trying to find peace within myself and the situation I am in. Being a pretty girl and having this be the downfall of a beautiful relationship I find it hard to live life normally. I need help please thank u

[alexdelong]

I hppe you don't mind. I will post your second post here and we can deal with them both on one thread.

If u r dating someone and u both catch genital warts and they both break out but let's say female breaks out worse first then male shortly after. Well male says that the female gave it to him since she broke out first but his breakout wasn't as bad . This was the females first breakout too . Can u be the first one to show symptoms and not be the initial carrier . Do u think the grl passed it to the guy because she had the breakout first or what ?

[alexdelong]

The guys sounds like an ***. It is impossible to determine who gave hpv to who. The timing of symptoms, and the severity of symptoms aren't good indicators. This is a common virus and almost everybody who is sexually active has been infected with at least one strain. If your ex can't understand that and wants to call you names or label you, you are really better off without him. Godd riddence!

It is important to remember that HPV isn't a lifelong problem. Your immune system should handle the infection within a few months. At that point you will be symptom free and unable to transmit the virus. If you have six wart free months in a row, consider yourself cured.

Also, if you need to talk, find someone you trust and share your feelings. People are a lot more understanding than you would think. Sexual activity is a normal part of a 20 year olds life, and HPV should be considered an expected consequence of this activity. Most people with STDs keep the diagnosis to themselves, so when we are diagnosed, we often feel like we are the only one who has been through this. This isn't the case.

You will date again, but hopefully you will find someone who treats you with more respect than the last guy.


Since my diagnosis, I have been in a short relationship. I told her about HPV upfront and it didn't change her desire to persue a relationship. We just decided to put sex on hold for  a bit. That was fair and reasonable. I don't think this reaction would be all that uncommon.


Anyway, it won't be too long until you are clear of the virus and you can put it behind you.

Best of luck.