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could I have passed it to him
My doctor says that the bump I found may be hpv. I am devastated and tormented. If it was just about me that could be manageable but I am worried about the person I slept with. We slept together once and before the bump appeared. I don't think it's from him because he has been married for close to twenty years and neither of them have been with other people. I am careful. Not promiscuous but it's more likely to be from me. A guy I went on a date with approximately a month before I slept with this guy was very forceful. I managed to stop him but it was close and wondering if was from him due to timing and how easily it is transmitted. I am looking for confirmation that I have to tell this guy. He is trying to make his marriage work so I think I need to warn him. I just feel so scared to tell him
Thank you so much. I have decided to focus on looking after myself as soon as I have sent that email. Was just already heartbroken and now this. Was a really quick encounter so hopeful they will not be affected.
Well, if wife gets a bump or has a bad pap result, her doctor will tell her that statistically, it is probably a recent infection. There is always a chance it is from their past (pre-marriage) but this is isn't the usual suspect. Questions will come then. We've had some people come to this forum asking if their spouse cheated on them or not. No one can definitively say yes or not but the stats always point to a more recent encounter than 20 years ago.
Don't feel down. It isn't the end of the world or the end of your sex life. After your bump is removed and you are wart-free for 3-12 (could be 24) months, your doctor should say that you have cleared it. Hopefully forever. A strong immune system helps recovery. Avoid unsafe sex during recovery as latex condoms are proven to reduce chances of more warts. Avoiding all sex during recovery is also an option. Right now, your top priority is you and your health. Forget that dude.
Don't feel down. It isn't the end of the world or the end of your sex life. After your bump is removed and you are wart-free for 3-12 (could be 24) months, your doctor should say that you have cleared it. Hopefully forever. A strong immune system helps recovery. Avoid unsafe sex during recovery as latex condoms are proven to reduce chances of more warts. Avoiding all sex during recovery is also an option. Right now, your top priority is you and your health. Forget that dude.
Thank you so much for your reply. I am going to tell him. Just in case. Doubt he will tell his wife. Feel so down.
There are no definite answers here. The virus is more infectious when a genital wart (your bump) is present however it takes most people 2-8 months to produce a wart post infection. So you could have been infected months before you slept with that guy. Or years before.
He has to assume that he has what you have, If he doesn't, then he can go on hoping for the best. Some people have really strong immune systems and don't get warts. This doesn't mean that they don't have the virus in their body. BTW, HPV was around before 20 years ago and if he or his wife slept with others, they could have picked it up then. Or his wife could have slept around too. You cannot tell who has it if there are no visible warts.
He could have given it to you depending on the timing. Or you could have given it to him. No one can play detective here. Having as few partners helps but all it takes is just one. Men cannot be tested for it like women can. His wife should get tested and depending on her age, she will get tested as a routine test.
It is not easily transmitted. It requires considerable genital skin rubbing like one does when having sex. It is possible that a quick rubbing can pass it but not likely. There are always exceptions to every rule.
Besides your concern for your friend, you should have concern for your own health. The sooner that bump is gone, the better it is for you.
He has to assume that he has what you have, If he doesn't, then he can go on hoping for the best. Some people have really strong immune systems and don't get warts. This doesn't mean that they don't have the virus in their body. BTW, HPV was around before 20 years ago and if he or his wife slept with others, they could have picked it up then. Or his wife could have slept around too. You cannot tell who has it if there are no visible warts.
He could have given it to you depending on the timing. Or you could have given it to him. No one can play detective here. Having as few partners helps but all it takes is just one. Men cannot be tested for it like women can. His wife should get tested and depending on her age, she will get tested as a routine test.
It is not easily transmitted. It requires considerable genital skin rubbing like one does when having sex. It is possible that a quick rubbing can pass it but not likely. There are always exceptions to every rule.
Besides your concern for your friend, you should have concern for your own health. The sooner that bump is gone, the better it is for you.
I need to know if I could have given it to him
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