I HAD A PAP SMEAR/HPV TESTING THE BEGINNING OF MAY 2008, I MET MY BOYFRIEND ON MAY 16TH, 2008 , HAD NO OTHER SEXUAL PARTNERS SINCE WE MET AND WHEN WE BROKE UP LAST WEEK, AND JUST BEFORE THE BREAKUP HE HAD ACTIVE STD, BUT WITH ALL THE COMMOTION AND SADNESS NEVER WAS CLEAR ON WHAT STD IT WAS OR IF I WAS AT RISK.
DURING THE BEGINNING OF OUR RELATIONSHIP – WE TALKED ABOUT NOT USING CONDOMS AND BEING IN AN EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP….I TOLD HIM I HAD JUST GOT MY RESULTS FROM MY YEARLY EXAM AND ASKED MY DOCTOR TO BE TESTED FOR ALL STDS, INCLUDING HPV WITH MY PAP SMEAR, (A FAMILY MEMBER IS ONE OF THE LEAD SCIENTISTS FOR DIGENE, THE COMPANY THAT DEVELOPED THIS TEST, SO I ALWAYS MADE A POINT TO ASK FOR IT.) – I TOLD MY BOYFRIEND THAT ALL MY RESULTS CAME BACK NORMAL, AND HE SAID HE WAS CLEAN TOO. HE STATED HE HAS NEVER TOUCHED OR EVEN KISSED ANOTHER WOMEN SINCE WE MET IN MAY 2008.
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WE HAD A HORRIBLE BREAKUP AROUND MAY 29TH – JUNE 1ST (LAST WEEK) AND HE FINALLY TOLD ME HE HAD AN ACTIVE STD A FEW DAYS BEFORE THE FIGHTING STARTED, HIS BDAY WAS THE 24TH AND HE DIDN’T HAVE ANY SORES THEN AND WE WERE GETTING ALONG GREAT, I THINK AROUND THE 26TH HE STARTED USING ALDARA CREAM AND BETADINE TO HEAL THE SORES.
HE NEVER ONCE OVER THE ENTIRE YEAR SAID HE HAD HPV or any STD – BUT WHEN I LOOKED AT HIS PRESCRIPTION IT WAS DATED 2/12/07 AND SINCE HE DEVULGED HIS ENTIRE SEXUAL HISTORY TO ME, I SUSPECT THAT A YOUNG GIRLFRIEND COULD HAVE GIVEN IT TO HIM, OR WANTED TO KNOW IF I HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW WHEN HE WAS FIRST DIAGNOSED AND WHY HE DID NOT TELL ME THE ENTIRE YEAR WE SLEPT TOGETHER.
RIGHT NOW WE ARE NOT SPEAKING, HE TOOK OUT A TEMPORARY RESTRAINING ORDER ON JUNE 1ST TO GET ME OUT OF HIS HOME (WE WERE LIVING TOGETHER) JUST TO BE MEAN, EVEN THOUGH I WAS IN THE PROCESS OF MOVING THAT DAY, I FILED A CROSS TEMPORARY RESTRAINING ORDER TO LET THE JUDGE DECIDE WHO IS TELLING THE TRUTH.
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SO TECHNICALLY I CANNOT TALK TO HIM ABOUT THIS STD HE HAS GIVEN ME. I WOULD LIKE MEDICAL INFO ON THIS OR ANY OTHER DISEASE I SHOULD HAVE CHECKED OUT.
SINCE HE WAS STUPID ENOUGH TO GIVE ME DETAILED INFORMATION ABOUT HIS LIFE HISTORY OF SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS INCLUDING HIS LESBIAN THREE SOMES WITH HIS EXWIFE, NOT SURE WHEN HE WAS DIAGNOSED FOR THIS FIRST TIME WITH HPV. DO I HAVE A RIGHT TO REQUEST THIS INFORMATION, OR DO I HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE COURTS?
IT IS NOT MAKING ME COMFORTABLE AFTER LAST WEEKEND WHILE HE HAD this OUTBREAK, HE CALLED HIMSELF A ***** AND MADE OFF LIKE EVERYONE HAS A STD. HE NEVER SAID HPV, BUT LAUGHED IF OFF LIKE THE WHOLE WORLD HAS IT, I WAS VERY UPSET AND BROKEN HEARTED ABOUT THE BREAKUP SO I DIDN’T START RESEARCHING HIS MEDS, SYMPTOMS AND SEXUAL WHORING AROUND TILL I STARTED SYMPTOMS THE LAST 2 DAYS.
SINCE WE CANNOT SPEAK TO EACH OTHER DIRECTLY OR CRAZY MAN WILL CALL THE POLICE HOW DO YOU SUGGEST I CAN GET SOME OF MY MEDICAL QUESTIONS ANSWERED? IS HE LIABLE FOR DELIBERATELY NOT TELLING ME THIS THE ENTIRE TIME WE WERE TOGETHER?
I DON’T HAVE A JOB OR HEALTH INSURANCE RIGHT NOW, BUT MY FAMILY MEMBER IS MAKING ARRANGEMENTS THIS WEEK TO HAVE ME TESTED FOR FREE THROUGH DIGENE. IT’S VERY EMBARASSING TO TALK ABOUT TO FAMILY MEMBERS – IS THERE ANY FREE CLINIC THAT WILL TEST ME SINCE IT IS CLEAR THAT I HAVE BEEN EXPOSED TO THIS?
I AM HAVING SYMPTOMS SO I KNOW I HAVE A STD, I JUST DON’T KNOW IF THERE IS ANY OTHER DISEASES HE MIGHT HAVE GIVEN ME. ANY ADVICE OR HELP WOULD BE APPRECIATED. THANK YOU.
SLEEPLESS IN SD
(P.S. I AM NOT YELLING WITH THE CAPITAL LETTERS, JUST DIDN'T WANT TO RETYPE THIS WHOLE THING)