Losing my life to Hysterectomy

[TeacherWic]

My fiance had a hysterectomy 2 months ago.  She lives in Thailand and I had to return to the USA to take care of personal business with my family.  I have been away from her for about 4 months.  I was not there when she had the surgery because I could not change my travel plans.
In the last month her attitude toward me had made a 180 degree turn.  She does not respond to my messages or calls.  When she does it is to confront me about past issues that we have already dealt with and resolved.  Now they have become issues again.  I have tried and tried to understand what is happening and I know that she is going through a major major change in her anatomy that affects how she feels and thinks.  
My problem is that I am so so afraid that this will destroy our relationship.  That she will decide to break with me and push me out of her life.  This thought is devastating to me.  I love this woman more than myself... but I am totally at a lose as to what I can do to save our relationship.  This lady is my life and it is breaking my heart to see her suffer like this.  And the thought of losing her is destroying me.  

Please help me to understand what I can do if anything.

[Caryopteris]

She may be feeling very bad and insecure and she needs reassurance and doesn't know how to get it.  She may be starting fights when what she really needs is your time and attention and reassurance.  The changing hormones may have her questioning her body and whether she will be attractive to you.

You should spend time with her and hold her and let her know she is important to you and nothing will change it.  Be strong and don't get your feelings hurt if she says ugly things.  Be the calm and strong one.  You may object to her words and say you are sorry she has been going through a lot and you have been away at a bad time, but she doesn't have permission to be verbally abusive.  And then hold her and love her.  

[thatquietgirl]

It may have always been an issue that she let slide by because she felt she couldn't talk about it or any number of other reasons.  The hormones and the distance might just be helping her have a voice.  The distance probably has her missing you, and depending how she deals with emotions such as missing someone, she may be looking for something to overshadow the sad emotion.

I'd definitely talk through the issues as dismissing them is going to make you look bad.  So will saying, "I thought we already dealt with that!" because, to her, it may be "obvious" that you really haven't and comes across as either ignorant or dismissive.  So long as you handle this with care and consideration for her feelings, I don't foresee any problems being added to those in the past.