For those who have been a victim of an affair and are trying to get their life back on track. This group can discuss the feelings and emotions behind it and also support those who are trying to recovery from it.
Man, things have been so busy around here. Something completely different from the old topic of discussion here on this board has stumbled into our lives, but everything seems to be going really well. Dee Dee and I would love to hear from some of you!
My life is actually pretty good at the moment. I've been in my new home for about 2 1/2 months, still busy re-decorating but it feels like home. Still managing to get on well with my ex-. The kids have been spending almost half their time with me so the time split has been working out pretty well, and they seem happy at my place and amazingly un-traumatised by the split. I put that down to them having plenty of warning to prepare for me moving to my new house, and to the fact that my ex- and I have remained good friends and there hasn't been any arguing or bitterness or anger for the kids to witness.
Given that it was my wife who initially said she no longer wanted to be married, and her continued infidelity which made the marriage eventually beyond rescue, I think, oddly, I've coped with the final separation better than her. She definitely seems to be missing me, both for company and emotionally as well as the practical benefits of us being together. I've mostly been fine, busy getting on with redecorating my new house, got a busier social life than I'd expected, enjoying my new life. For her it hasn't helped that she's lost several people in quick succession - first me moving out, shortly afterwards she finally split from her "boyfriend" (or whatever you'd call the male equivalent of a mistress?) when she realised he was the totally selfish inconsiderate a-hole that everyone else had known for months, her male best-buddy is moving to a city far away as well, and one of her closest female friends has been un-friended when my ex- found this friend had been saying mean things to her other friends behind her back.
I hope everyone else here is coping / recovering / heading in a positive direction for them.
Glad to hear that things are going as well as they are, and it is awesome that the kids have adjusted as well as they have. Kids are relatively durable when it comes to things like this, but yet fragile at the same time. I think them handling this as well as they have is a testament to the type of father that you have been. Kudos!
Kind of interesting that things are turning out the way they are for your ex. Not that I am wishing anything bad on her, but it's interesting how things tend to come full circle. Honestly, I do not find it too far off pace that you are taking this better than she is. I think she thought she had you where she wanted, and when the walls came crashing in and you moved on.... she felt a bit alone after her boy toy betrayed her. Excuse the expression, but it ***** to be her right now.
So glad to read you are doing well. I was thinking about you and hoping all was going good in your new life. I'm not surprised at all that your ex's new "boyfriend" is an a-hole. They usually are. I mean it takes a real POS person to engage in a relationship with a person who isn't available. It usually doesn't end well. I'm sure that helps to make you feel a bit better.
I'm doing good. Richie and I will be getting married in June. We have had our ups and downs for a while now but all in all we've stuck it out. We do love eachother and I think that we are meant for one another. Hopefully we have learned a valuable lesson from all of our experiences. There really are no guarantees in life so we have to make the best of it. I actually have been wanting to have another baby so I'm hoping this is in our future.
Hi guys, been off for a bit, things are great for Joe and I. He has gone above and beyond to prove his love and faithfulness to me. Things have not been so well with the kids. Our Youngest has been ill and the doctors believe it is the same thing that Kaitlin our daughter has. We decided to pack the kids up and go away for a week to Va to see Joe's family it was great but of course Kate and Josh both got sick. So since we have been home we have been in and out of the hospital.
Its great to see you are all doing well ......that is very rare in this mad sad world.
I am fine except for fibromyalgia returning... went and had a look a couple of mins ago on their forums well.......they must all be dead or cured because nobody has posted on there for a long time lol.
I am so happy with my wonderful guy BUT he is spoiling my dogs something rotten and they are fast becoming prima donna's and I thought no body could be soppier than me with them.
Its good that you all are still around I will have to come back more often and maybe try to give support to others ...after all we have had such a high success rate.lol
One thing is certain and that is the importance of being able to share your hurt and pain with others who understand what you are going through and help you how to deal with it.
I know it really helped me to talk it through with you guys.
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