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Where are you all ???
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For those who have been a victim of an affair and are trying to get their life back on track. This group can discuss the feelings and emotions behind it and also support those who are trying to recovery from it.

Founded by mami1323 on October 7, 2009
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Where are you all ???

I see you are a bit down Passion Flower whats up ??? All of you seem to dissapear ,this is a shame as I think so many of you are so suppotive of each other.I would love to know how everyone is going so please keep in touch with each other as we do not want to see this forum go back and back.

Anyway the weather is glorious at the moment in Benalla.... cant keep my dogs out of the dam ,the yabbies would be breeding like crazy in there, hope they dont give my dogs a nip on the bottom as they are big sooks.

There is enough for a good feed but cant put the poor little things in boiling water.... so they go forth and multiply.
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Hi seeana,
It's my guess we all get quiet as we are taken up with the weekend but I have noticed mami and deedee have been somewhat silent lately.  Mami seems to have things pretty much together for HerSelf but deedee is newer to the situation (I gather), and I do wonder if She's okay.  Brice has been rather silent also - maybe they are all busy (I hope) - I certainly wish them well and hope we hear how they are soon.
You say Your weather is wonderful at the moment - when do You get winter?
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I don't post as much but I'm always watching.  I have a lot of stuff going on.  I've been writing and so I've been quite busy with that.  I've started a blog about my journey through infidelity, however I don't know if MedHelp will allow me to post the link to it so that's why I haven't.  If all of you are interested in reading it, then PM me and I will give it to you.  I only comment if someone posts.  I've noticed that people disappear and then come back when they are struggling with something.  So that's when I respond.  I am always willing to give support but when it's needed.  I've been supporting a lot of women besides on here but other websites and getting people to be aware of the affects so I'm always pulled really thin.  I also have my own family drama going on, separate from the infidelity.  I'm about to post a journal about it.  So don't think I'm not around.  Being silent doesn't mean I've gone away.  
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Hey folks, things are fine here.  Dee Dee and I are both plugging away at it.  Its beginning to be far easier to just talk about the affair, and its not always leading to an arguement....so thats real good if you ask me!  

Hope all is well with you folks.  The weather here has turned.  Should be good for hunting, but I am not much of a fan of the snow anymore.  It used to be beautiful, now its a cold hinderance.... I assume that's age catching up with me.
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Oh heck, I wasn't mentioned but am chiming in to say I am always here.  I've got two sick children at the moment and now have what they do . . . so am a bit under the weather.  But am always available for comfort and care.  

We've had beautiful Fall weather here in my neck of the woods but ugh . . . been in the house for 4 straight days with illness.  We sit out on the patio for some fresh air but it seems once we step off of it, someone starts to cough up a lung and the fun is ruined.  I'm hoping it is not full blown winter before we are well again!
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HI,

Thank you for asking about me. I am here. In general I am ok. But I seems to feel a little sadness often-but still I'm here, still living and learning. I am just dealing with life.

My husband is trying to convince me that nothing happened. I just tell him, that what "happened" was the wrong way he treated me. But I can see he is trying. It just hurts-and is hard to forget.

It is good to read and  hear from everyone.
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Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers, kids are real sick and Joe and I have hit a road block. I found some things out that I was not aware of. I just wish he would have been 100% honest with me from the start ( Brice had it right) I guess it does not change things but I hate the fact that I feel like I have been living a lie! I really do not know what to do. I love him so much and we have really come so far but It makes me wonder what else he has lied about and what he may be hiding. I really do not want to leave him yet part of me wants to just to scare the crap out of him. But I am stuck. Kate is real ill and I can not leave her. I have asked him to consider moving in with a mutual friend for a time but do not want him to go as of yet b/c we are running back and forth to Children's hospital with Kate and it is really hard on the boys and I do not know what this will do to them and yet the more time we spend together the better I feel about us but I do not want to be a door mat. I always seem to forgive and then get devastated once again.
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Hey!  I'm still here - some rough spots, and sometimes, I just can't talk about it anymore.  Especially reading fresh situations from new posters.  But things are going well.  Brice is being wonderful, and I am beginning to believe we will be better than ever on the other side of this, and that's getting closer!  Thanks again to all of you for your support!
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I'm here!  Doing OK.  I complete the purchase of my new house at the end of this week, although it'll be a LOT of work before it's in a fit state to move in to, probably another 4-6 weeks or so.  Looking forward to it, but I'm way busy with work and having to fix the house up too is going to stretch me really thin!

My wife (ex-wife?  I'm not sure what we are right now, or if there is even a term for it) are still getting on very well, so I have no problem continuing to share a home with her while I do my new place up.  A week or two ago she got very sad and emotional one evening, I think she's maybe regretting how things have panned out, she doesn't want me leaving or to lose me (and not just for the convenience, stability, help with house & kids etc.).  But her behaviour that lead to me having to leave is not going to stop, so I have to go.

Keep strong everyone, I know my contributions are somewhat sporadic, but I really value this place.
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This is great that you all came on here ! I knew I was right about all of you.I really do think that when someone goes through something terrible in their life it makes them more in tune to others around them and the pain that they experience because they have been there.

They gain a very  important sense to other peoples pain Empathy ...the very fact that we have been there and the pain is nothing like we have been through before ....it seems we cannot bear for anyone else to go through it like we have and if they do we want help them as much as we can.

We belong to this special club...... born out of betrayal of the one we trusted and loved the best of all, our lives are changed never to be the same again no matter what.

It is often said a marriage is often made  much stronger if deep regret and honesty come through as feelings are stripped to the core.....Brice and Dee Dee are getting there thank goodness.

I only hope that others go the same way,It takes someone with a lot of guts to say I was wrong  !!  forgive me I made a big mistake, more so for the male of the species as pride looms large in their makeup.

My ex could never do that .....in fact sorry was never part of his vocabulary as he was never wrong.That is not strength its a huge weakness.

I am so sorry that a lot of the pain is still eating away for some, if it cant be resolved walk away, cut it adrift ....if you don't you will never heal, you must be the strong one.
I couldn't and I wasn't the first time...so many yrs wasted.

Anyway Special mom and Love my kids similar names and problems !! both of you with your children ill ....oh my gosh I do hope they get better soon and non of it is related to what is going on in your lives right now as those ripples just keep getting wider.

Love to all of you.        Joan.
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Love, I'm always here if you want to talk.  PM me if you need me.  We've had similar situations, so I understand.  You still have my number?
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Thanks Mami,
I am better today. After all our company left and Kate is now back in school,( still have one home sick) We have decided to take it day by day. I really do not want him to leave I just want him to know I am not a doormat and I will not continually be taken for granted. I told him be sure your sins will find you out. Sometimes I think he is so stupid but I will not tell him that. He is not smart enough to get rid of evidence lol! Even though this was a past situation he told me there was no more lies everything was out but I stumbled upon some pretty important things on his old cell phone ( he gave it to me b/c mine was not working) that he forgot to delete. So when I found them I was pretty mad. Yes it was over a year ago but  to think that I had all the info and find out There was more out there makes me wonder what else he has not told me.
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