cheating cousin

My husband cheated on me with my cousin, he says it was just a stupid mistake. They are friends and he should be able to talk to her once in a while.  I think its just a way to say connected.  What do you think?

[mami1323]

There can be no contact with the other person.  After something of that magnitude occurs there is no friendship.  Out of respect for you, if you are working it out than he needs to respect your feelings and cut off all ties.  This is your family member and they crossed that line, now they have to do whatever it is that makes you comfortable.  If you can deal with them still being in contact with eachother than that is your decision, however, I feel like you don't want that.  Demand him that you want his number changed and that you want him to cut off all contact.  If he can't do that, then he is unwilling to go above and beyond to rebuild the trust and to nurture this relationship.  Healing from this type of heartbreak is long and hard and its especially hard if you are trying to work it out and repair the relationship.  Forgiveness doesn't come easily but it can be acheived as long as your husband respects your wishes and does whatever he can to heal your heart.  Good luck.

[younggrandmother]

There should be nothing that they need to talk about. They both crossed the line, now it is time for him to start thinking about YOU and how this makes you feel. He is LUCKY you didn't kick him to the curb. They are FRIENDS give me a break does he think you are that gullible. Do you think that you can trust again? How is the relationship between you and your cousin ? Can you tell us how this happen and how you found out?
Best of Luck with this one.

[specialmom]

I agree.  Once cheating has taken place----  all "privilages" are over.  Friends talk---  they don't sleep together.  Once you sleep with someone, you are forever more than friends.  Sorry this happened to you.  That stinks----  double betrayel!