For those who have been a victim of an affair and are trying to get their life back on track. This group can discuss the feelings and emotions behind it and also support those who are trying to recovery from it.
i really do not know were to start . my husband and i have been married for 4 yrs now. last oct while i was at work he moved out taking his children. he told he he had a affair and she was pregant and he had to do what was right for the baby. in nov he asked for my forgiveness and if they could move back home. i forgave him . the women also moved back with her husband. things were going good taking it day by day. april his son was born . we would get him on sundays it was great. feel in love with that lil guy. may my husband got a second job . she started holding back on letting us have him for the day.end of aug she moved in to her own appt. sept, oct, nov she will not let him have him because of me . she does not want him around me. wed nite he tells me he has been doing alot of thinking in his head . he does not know what he wants and he must do what is right for his kids. he does not know if he loves me or does he the love the other women the mother of his son? he is thinking about moving out to get his head on staight . he says right now they are only friends. that he would stay there til firures this out and he would be close to his sonand it would show him that i do trust him. i do not know what to do. my world is spinning and i can not stop it . i love him very much and his kids. they have became my world .
Oh my goodness ...you must be going through hell.I do not think whatever we say on here you are not thinking clearly right now so it wont make much difference.. but I know you will get the support that you need right now.
Well here is my opinion! this man cares for only one person in this world and that is himself.The mother of his child wants him back and is using the baby as a bargaining tool.
I feel sorry for his other children and of course you.The trouble is this woman is not going to go away,if i was you i would run as fast as I could away from this brute.
I will tell you now he will be having a relationship with this woman if he isn't already.
You must get on with your life and forget him.If you don't you will spend the rest of it in misery waiting for him, a door mat to be used when he feels like it.
YOU MUST NOT WAIT FOR THIS LOWLIFE he does not love you.
Find someone to love that has not got the morals of a RAT.(sorry rat )
Get out now you are still young enough to start afresh before its too late.
You need to tell yourself something this man is one of the luckest men in the world,he had an affair which resulted in a child and you still took him back and excepted the baby too you are a hero because i would never have been able to do that,and now after all this time he dont know if its you or the other woman he wants,make his choice for him this man will never make you happy he has caused you so much upset already break free move on and when the hurt has faded you will meet someone who will treat you with the respect you sooooo deserve,dont be dragged down by this man and his children any longer.
Sorry you are going through this. Just a few things to be aware of: Unless you have been proven to be a danger to her child, I do not believe she can decide that he, as the acknowledged father, cannot have his child in his home with his family, including his wife.
In terms of the other issue: If my man is not sure who he wants to be with -- I make the decision for him (which I did last time around). The only man I will EVER be with in this lifetime is one who can't imagine life without me. Now that I have that -- wow, what a difference!! Don't you deserve that?
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