Sorry you are going through this. Just a few things to be aware of: Unless you have been proven to be a danger to her child, I do not believe she can decide that he, as the acknowledged father, cannot have his child in his home with his family, including his wife.
In terms of the other issue: If my man is not sure who he wants to be with -- I make the decision for him (which I did last time around). The only man I will EVER be with in this lifetime is one who can't imagine life without me. Now that I have that -- wow, what a difference!! Don't you deserve that?
You need to tell yourself something this man is one of the luckest men in the world,he had an affair which resulted in a child and you still took him back and excepted the baby too you are a hero because i would never have been able to do that,and now after all this time he dont know if its you or the other woman he wants,make his choice for him this man will never make you happy he has caused you so much upset already break free move on and when the hurt has faded you will meet someone who will treat you with the respect you sooooo deserve,dont be dragged down by this man and his children any longer.
Oh my goodness ...you must be going through hell.I do not think whatever we say on here you are not thinking clearly right now so it wont make much difference.. but I know you will get the support that you need right now.
Well here is my opinion! this man cares for only one person in this world and that is himself.The mother of his child wants him back and is using the baby as a bargaining tool.
I feel sorry for his other children and of course you.The trouble is this woman is not going to go away,if i was you i would run as fast as I could away from this brute.
I will tell you now he will be having a relationship with this woman if he isn't already.
You must get on with your life and forget him.If you don't you will spend the rest of it in misery waiting for him, a door mat to be used when he feels like it.
YOU MUST NOT WAIT FOR THIS LOWLIFE he does not love you.
Find someone to love that has not got the morals of a RAT.(sorry rat )
Get out now you are still young enough to start afresh before its too late.