I can't have a wonderful relation with my wife

[LoveStory]

hi Doc,

you might consider this as a silly thing but it's really destroying my marriage.  When i'm on a relation with my wife, she dosn't lubricate much .  which means her vagina is almost dry...the lubrication is also thicker than the normal maybe because it's little ? ...she doesn't have any bacterial infection but i guess it's a hormone problem i just don't know what to do..is there a specific vitamin to make things normal? like any other girl?

[John Kim, M.D.]

I suggest that your wife see a gynecologist to see if there is any infection. (I presume that you are spending enough time for foreplay, and that your wife is not menopausal.) If there is no evidence of a vaginal infection or problem then you can use various lubricants that often helps. You may select different ones and find the one that suits both of you.

[LoveStory]

hi,

no regular medication ...she takes kidney pills just when there's pain so no big deals.

[debramac]

i was wondering if she is on any medication?  some anti-depressents and other meds have similar side effects?  even sinus meds, cold meds.

[LoveStory]

hi

i do foreplay but the problem persists ,,, the discharge is always sticky and pasty always thick don't know why...and not enough ...my wife doesn't like the KY jelly at all... u know how women feel regard this issue.  I will still also see what the Doctor says

Thank You so much and plz if you find anything else that could help just post it

[aim7407]

Hey, I'm not the doc, but I am a woman, and I saw your post.  Just so you know, being somewhat dried out, in terms of vaginal lubrication, is not all that unusual for women. If she is an older woman, then it is very normal, and even if she is young,  there are times of the month when a woman is wetter, or dryer.  If you have sex before or during her ovulation period, (fertile period) then she is much more likely to be wetter. If you have sex after she ovulates, then she will likely be very dry, and the discharge will be sticky and pasty, almost like glue. Having said that, there are women who have trouble lubricating themselves.  And you also might have to consider the possibility that you are not taking sufficient time to turn her on? Do you spend a good amount of time with fore play? And touching/caressing? Do you have a problem with oral sex, because that can really get a woman going if you are okay with that. I would first make sure, by talking intimately with your wife, that you are turning her on, and that she is ready to be with you when you are ready to enter her. And if that is not the issue, and she just can't seem to get lubricated no matter what you two try, then there is always  stuff you can buy in the store, such as KY Jelly. It can work wonders, and is not at all something to be embarrassed about buying. I personally would consider using that,  even if I did have a hormone imbalance,  as an alternative to taking hormones that might cause health problems. Then again, her doc might decide that she does in fact have a medical issue and that it can be helped with hormones. So, talk with your wife, and then if you guys aren't comfortable using KY jelly, or another personal lubricant, then call her   Gynecologist.  I hope this helped you some.  Good luck! And don't forget,  women Love, lots of kissing, touching, and intimacy.