I NEED HELP....QUICK..

I am 33 yrs. old with two kids,my daughter is 14yrs. old my son is 7yrs. old.I am a single parent and I have alot of health problems cause I am big..I weigh 360lbs. and I am afraid for my life and I have two small kids.I have sugar,high blood pressure,I have asthma,and my heart rate is constanly going up and down cause I need to lose weight.I have tried evertything that I know including diet pills all kind and attending weight class and nothing is working,I am so afraid for me and my kids I really need the lap band surgery, if I am able to get it done..I am so upset with my self for getting like this..please help me. I am just tried and in need of some serious help,I have been praying for something to come alone or somebody,I need help quick,I will coniute to pray..I need the surgery bad and I need to try to find a doctor..help I do want to live.oh, my height is "5 6' please tell me something quick..this is really not a question it is just the facts..

[Ranaesheart]

My Dearest Rena ~

Your post was brought to my attention by a very kind and caring woman who forwarded me the link; I am most grateful to her!

The desperation in your words and your story has sincerely touched my heart and I hope you will allow me to reach out to you with an option other than surgery.  You see, my dear Rena, I know exactly where you are coming from and what it's like to be so afraid of where you are and what is going to become of you ... to want to lose weight so desperately that we try every diet pill, weight class and diet we can find ... all in an effort to lose the weight that holds us prisoner.  

27 months ago, I weighed 330 lbs and was wearing a size 30/32.  My health was declining rapidly and I suffered from high blood pressure, high triglycerides, high cholesterol, sleep apnea and knee instability.  In addition, I had low self-esteem and had given up ... I resigned myself to being morbidly obese until it took my life.

The GREAT news is, I changed my beliefs and began to take charge of my life ... baby step by baby step.  I stopped focusing on a quick fix and realized I had to make a lifestyle change.  You see, Rena, I knew I ultimately needed to address the reasons behind my eating behaviors and why I had this unhealthy relationship with food.

I stopped focusing on how much I had to lose and focused simply on 2 lbs or 5 lbs or 3 lbs.  I'd meet that goal, celebrate my success and then set another small goal.  I couldn't begin to think of losing 176 pounds (my ultimate goal).  To date, I have lost 152 pounds by journaling my food, counting calories (not all that hard), making healthier choices in food (quite flavorful) and moderate exercise.  Initially, I could hardly exercise for 5 minutes, but each day I vowed to go a few seconds beyond the day before.  It doesn't come off overnight, but it's not supposed to.  It didn't go on that way.  But slowly and surely, and safely and healthily, it comes off.  I lovingly refer to it as "turtle power".  You know .. the story about the tortoise and the hare .. lolll  This is something you can do with your children as well and just think what a wonderful foundation you will be laying down for them!

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!  And, if you're willing to commit to making some changes ... very do-able ones ... I'll stand beside you and share the knowledge I gained on my journey and help support you throughout what may become the most remarkable journey of your life!  

Hope you'll consider joining me in the Weight Loss & Dieting Community.  Here at MedHelp ... we're definitely here to help and the WL & D Community members are Awesome!!!  They're supportive, positive and have a great wealth of knowledge to share!!  In addition, we've got a fairly big surprise coming soon that I believe will help you get started.  

Here's a story that helped me when I tried to decide what decisions to make for myself ... I chose to "feed the good wolf" ...

ONE evening, and old Cherokee told his grandson about the eternal battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My boy, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.”

“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.”

“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, tolerance, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The boy thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee replied, “The one you feed.”

In other words ... do this for you ... be kind to you.  There is only one person like you in the whole entire world; that makes you rarer than a diamond and ohhhh soooo precious!!!  In addition, you are the world to your little ones!

Here's another quote that helped transform my life ....

Our worst fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? Nelson Mandela

Please know that I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!  The member in the WL&D Community BELIEVE IN YOU!!!  The lady who sent me your link BELIEVES IN YOU!!!!  Won't you come and join us and together we can share the path to your success???  

Take special care of you ... YOUUUUU ARE WORTH THE EFFORT!!!   Many caring (((HUGGGSSSS!!!!))))

Ranae