lung cancer stage 1

Hi,
I am new to the community. My father had a wedge resection for stage 1 cancer.
He is doing ok physically, however, mentally he is not doing so well.
He is very anxious and scared all the time
He calls me every day to ask in what order he should take his medication.
He also sleeps with the lights on because he said he feels scared.
I don't live with him, however, when I leave i feel awful, like I should be with him 24/7
I cry every day thinking about him.
He does not live alone, he has my mom (who hates him), my sister who help him, and two brothers who are not helpful
Is there anything I can do to help my father?
Is there anything I can do to prevent myself from showing him I am upset-he said he does not want to bother me because he sees it making me upset.
Since he is 75, the people around me say, well he is 75.
But he is still my father! I dont want to see him suffer or die.

[HeinrikMD]

Hi,

Talk to his doctor and find out how the operation went. Patients who have stage 1 cancer have fairly good outcomes, the anxiety you are describing does not seem to be compatible. Try to find out if his expectations from the treatment are realistic. Other avenues to consider are counseling, as the disease may only raise other issues such as interpersonal relationships, money matters, etc. People with a cancer diagnosis tend to feel a sense of abandonment, if you cannot give your time, you could also see about support groups for patients with cancer. You could start again with his doctor, some support groups are based in hospitals.