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others opinions of your bump size..
Ugh! Can't people just let a prego be a prego?! I have had two girlfriends comment on how big I am for how far along I am.. they have only seen me in photos, and people I see in person keep saying "oh you're so tiny!" Its annoying.. just let me be! I love my bump and think its perfect. Do I really need these sizing assessments from other people? I think NOT."you look cute" is enough, why can't they just leave it at that.. :)
And of course this does not apply to my march babies ladies, I just wanted to vent!
And of course this does not apply to my march babies ladies, I just wanted to vent!
I have a lot to say, but only a few minutes so i'll keep it short. I think it's great to love the way you look right now and for some women being pregnant truly does make them look even better. I don't think I'm one of them, but it's great if you are :) As for losing weight after baby is born it's different for everyone. With my first I breast fed and I was back to prepreggers weight only 3 days postpartum and then i actually continued to lose and additional 20 lbs more with out deing anything other than bfing. I know I have some friends who are having a harder time losing it though, but like Natasha said it takes 9 months to gain it so it may take that long to lose it!
yes yo0u can lose it!
i followed the weight watchers diet at home as i couldn't get out to any of the meetings, everyone was so shocked but i had been told that you lose weight BF its a load of cobblers! i was soooooo hungry whilst BF it defeated the object, so i knew that the basic minimum was 20 points a day and i stuck to them unless i wanted a treat and if i had points left over i used them instead on my treat days, it only tyook me 6 months and i can tell you i felt FAB, as for hubby well he'd always said he loved my changing shape but when id lost it the cheeky bugger said, well i prefer you like this you were quite fat and i didn't want to upset you! so basically i know now that for my sanity ie buying clothes and knowing they'll fit, to pleasing the hubby i need to lose it, i must add tho i started only when my children were 9 months old...i know its a long time to keep the baby fat but i totally agree with 9 months up then 9 months down, your body goes thru so much its not worth the stress trying to be a posh becks before your body can recover so just enjoy your baby and think, your baby wont care what you look like she/he will love you for you xxx
i followed the weight watchers diet at home as i couldn't get out to any of the meetings, everyone was so shocked but i had been told that you lose weight BF its a load of cobblers! i was soooooo hungry whilst BF it defeated the object, so i knew that the basic minimum was 20 points a day and i stuck to them unless i wanted a treat and if i had points left over i used them instead on my treat days, it only tyook me 6 months and i can tell you i felt FAB, as for hubby well he'd always said he loved my changing shape but when id lost it the cheeky bugger said, well i prefer you like this you were quite fat and i didn't want to upset you! so basically i know now that for my sanity ie buying clothes and knowing they'll fit, to pleasing the hubby i need to lose it, i must add tho i started only when my children were 9 months old...i know its a long time to keep the baby fat but i totally agree with 9 months up then 9 months down, your body goes thru so much its not worth the stress trying to be a posh becks before your body can recover so just enjoy your baby and think, your baby wont care what you look like she/he will love you for you xxx
Good for you! :)
you can do what ever you put your mind to.
alot of people say that it's hard loosing the pregnancy weight.. (and i wont know for sure cuz this is my first) but really is it? i mean if your eating healthier and working out, shouldn't you loose weight eventually?? i mean everyone knows its so much easier to gain than it is to loose, and it's almost impossible to get a good work out in with a new baby, but at least the effort is there..right? it will take a while but it will go away eventually :)
maybe those negative nancies just aren't trying hard enough ? lol
i know what you mean about being put off about the weight though...as im really trying to get used to my changing shape, and sometimes you just feel the way you feel no matter what other people tell you - Hubby tells me he loves it everyday, but sometimes i just feel like a fat mess! LOL.
and i agree, these hormone are crazy! LOL
you can do what ever you put your mind to.
alot of people say that it's hard loosing the pregnancy weight.. (and i wont know for sure cuz this is my first) but really is it? i mean if your eating healthier and working out, shouldn't you loose weight eventually?? i mean everyone knows its so much easier to gain than it is to loose, and it's almost impossible to get a good work out in with a new baby, but at least the effort is there..right? it will take a while but it will go away eventually :)
maybe those negative nancies just aren't trying hard enough ? lol
i know what you mean about being put off about the weight though...as im really trying to get used to my changing shape, and sometimes you just feel the way you feel no matter what other people tell you - Hubby tells me he loves it everyday, but sometimes i just feel like a fat mess! LOL.
and i agree, these hormone are crazy! LOL
hey wow good for you, i think im just put off by my weight becuz my hips are as big as my stomach and butt and there's no definition anymore. I put on so much wieght after my son but i lost 5.5 stone on the weight watchers diet and it only took me 6 months, i had my pikkie in a mag and everything so i know i can do it again!
as i bought chips for lunch today i was eating them with a friend and the cheeky woman said that ohh after a first baby you'll find it hard to lose weight it wouldnt be anything like losing it before being pregger so i said actually this is my fourth baby and i did itafter the first and second baby and didn't put much on with my third so i can do it again and proudly left the chippie with my bag of chips!
yikes i still can't believe i did that must be the hormones
as i bought chips for lunch today i was eating them with a friend and the cheeky woman said that ohh after a first baby you'll find it hard to lose weight it wouldnt be anything like losing it before being pregger so i said actually this is my fourth baby and i did itafter the first and second baby and didn't put much on with my third so i can do it again and proudly left the chippie with my bag of chips!
yikes i still can't believe i did that must be the hormones
some people are just ignorant! i dont really care what people say.. i mean ya, it kinda pissed me off- but that's becuase i can't beleive how insensitive and stupid people can be..
I'm growing a baby! :) i'm going to be a mom!! that has to be the best thing on this planet.
as long as Dr. says me and baby are fine then i dont really give a rats a$$!
i put on 10lbs in 4 weeks!!!! kind of suprising... a little lol i mean i "feel" like i put on weight, but i didnt' think it was that much!!!
i was never a thin person to begin with, and i think i look the same.. except for my belly of course.. and it shouldn't really matter what the scale says.. i look in the mirror everyday, and LOVE what being pregnant is doing for me :) i'm glowing! my hair is AWESOME! my skin looks fresh! my nails are strong and long :) i'll fit into my pre-pregnant clothes eventually :)
i know comments like that hurt tho, but all you have to do is think about how wonderfull and blessed your life will be once this baby arrives!
that's what i do... and all those weird strangers with their insensitive comments can look at my big pregnant butt when i walk away (more like WADDLE) after i tell them how stupid they are! LOL
I'm growing a baby! :) i'm going to be a mom!! that has to be the best thing on this planet.
as long as Dr. says me and baby are fine then i dont really give a rats a$$!
i put on 10lbs in 4 weeks!!!! kind of suprising... a little lol i mean i "feel" like i put on weight, but i didnt' think it was that much!!!
i was never a thin person to begin with, and i think i look the same.. except for my belly of course.. and it shouldn't really matter what the scale says.. i look in the mirror everyday, and LOVE what being pregnant is doing for me :) i'm glowing! my hair is AWESOME! my skin looks fresh! my nails are strong and long :) i'll fit into my pre-pregnant clothes eventually :)
i know comments like that hurt tho, but all you have to do is think about how wonderfull and blessed your life will be once this baby arrives!
that's what i do... and all those weird strangers with their insensitive comments can look at my big pregnant butt when i walk away (more like WADDLE) after i tell them how stupid they are! LOL
wow thats cruel i know cuz ive had it too.
i don't nessecarily mind the tummy rubs or pats, tho it would be nice to be asked, i guess i just put that down to people loving pregnant mums to be however ive been told by more than one person...wow how many have you got in there? and other really hurtful comments like are you carrying one in your backside too!
i used to goto step aerobics once a week, cycle 5 miles from my home with a trailer bike on the back carrying my 4 yr old and her 9 yr old sister (she's still not off her stabilisers so a bit of a liablity in our narrow lanes) inside, the trip from my home to the park is 5 miles up and down narrow lanes and steep ones too so when i hurt my back in august 2009 whilst decorating the house and was on crutches then had a walking stick until march of this year i understandibly put on 2 stone after all i couldn't even walk properley let alone excersize so i was no longer a trim size 12 but a size 16, now you wouldn't think that would matter but like many, many prego ladies out there ive gained weight ALL OVER! hips bum arms you name it i have that round blossom look but my bump according to the midwife is fine.
now don't get me wrong i do feel fat, especially today when i had trouble with a parking space! (see my journal) but do i really deserve these awful comments? ive had such terrible sickness that ive survived on toast..one thing i know im sort of intolerant to and will guarantee me putting on weight but im pregnant and the way nature is, it makes us retain weight to help with breastfeeding ettc, so i guess altho i might look fat and feel it, im not sure im quite ready for a WIDE LOAD sticker to be plastered across my arse. xx
i don't nessecarily mind the tummy rubs or pats, tho it would be nice to be asked, i guess i just put that down to people loving pregnant mums to be however ive been told by more than one person...wow how many have you got in there? and other really hurtful comments like are you carrying one in your backside too!
i used to goto step aerobics once a week, cycle 5 miles from my home with a trailer bike on the back carrying my 4 yr old and her 9 yr old sister (she's still not off her stabilisers so a bit of a liablity in our narrow lanes) inside, the trip from my home to the park is 5 miles up and down narrow lanes and steep ones too so when i hurt my back in august 2009 whilst decorating the house and was on crutches then had a walking stick until march of this year i understandibly put on 2 stone after all i couldn't even walk properley let alone excersize so i was no longer a trim size 12 but a size 16, now you wouldn't think that would matter but like many, many prego ladies out there ive gained weight ALL OVER! hips bum arms you name it i have that round blossom look but my bump according to the midwife is fine.
now don't get me wrong i do feel fat, especially today when i had trouble with a parking space! (see my journal) but do i really deserve these awful comments? ive had such terrible sickness that ive survived on toast..one thing i know im sort of intolerant to and will guarantee me putting on weight but im pregnant and the way nature is, it makes us retain weight to help with breastfeeding ettc, so i guess altho i might look fat and feel it, im not sure im quite ready for a WIDE LOAD sticker to be plastered across my arse. xx
I got the comment "14 weeks?? you look at LEAST 20 weeks!!" :-(
aww, sorry you had to deal with this. people really don't think before they speak sometimes, and it seems that during pregnancy we are even greater targets for this type of thing than normally. i think most people have good intentions, but get a little too close to the boundary line sometimes (if not crossing it completely), and don't even realize it (which is even more annoying!).
we had people ask us for years when we were going to start our family. most of the time it was by closer friends or family, and at appropriate times, so no offense taken.. but other times it did feel like we were being pressured a little. i eventually asked my mom to not bring it up anymore and that we would let her know when we were ready. she was so anxious for a grandchild that i don't think she realized how often she actually mentioned it. once i told her that though, she laid off completely. harder to do with acquaintances or other people who don't have business asking to begin with, i know ;)
glad you were able to diffuse both situations, though! :)
we had people ask us for years when we were going to start our family. most of the time it was by closer friends or family, and at appropriate times, so no offense taken.. but other times it did feel like we were being pressured a little. i eventually asked my mom to not bring it up anymore and that we would let her know when we were ready. she was so anxious for a grandchild that i don't think she realized how often she actually mentioned it. once i told her that though, she laid off completely. harder to do with acquaintances or other people who don't have business asking to begin with, i know ;)
glad you were able to diffuse both situations, though! :)
another thing that kinda bugs me...
hubby and i just got married in May 2010..
yesterday hubby and i went to a baptism.. and saw some people there we haven't seen since the wedding..
they came up to me , did the "arm nudge" and said " SO WHEN ARE YOU GONNA HAVE A BABY? YOU SHOULD BE GETTING ON THAT SOON HUH?? SOON IT WILL BE YOUR BABY'S BAPTISM"
i just tell them, yup Our baby is due to arrive in March.... The look on their faces is absoloutey PRICELESS as they get all embarrased - and defend themselves with a "REALLY? I WAS JUST TEASING"
and what if i wasn't blessed with a baby and told them the i COULDN'T have children?? they would feel like even BIGGER idiots wouldn't they?? some people are so strange!!
oh AND at this dinner for this baptism, hubby and I were in line with other family to get food :) (buffet style) and this lady infront of us, who none of us knew - listened in our conversation (I said something like the sooner i eat dinner the sooner i can have dessert, hubby said something like - "all this baby WANTS is dessert lately")- turned around and said - baby? i dont see a baby?
hubby defended me tho - he said, seeing as we have no idea who the heck you are, then you wouldn't know anything about our personal life, My wife is 4 months pregnant.
i stood profile and she just turned 100 different shades of red.. and said oh..
MAN! some people got some nerve!
hubby and i just got married in May 2010..
yesterday hubby and i went to a baptism.. and saw some people there we haven't seen since the wedding..
they came up to me , did the "arm nudge" and said " SO WHEN ARE YOU GONNA HAVE A BABY? YOU SHOULD BE GETTING ON THAT SOON HUH?? SOON IT WILL BE YOUR BABY'S BAPTISM"
i just tell them, yup Our baby is due to arrive in March.... The look on their faces is absoloutey PRICELESS as they get all embarrased - and defend themselves with a "REALLY? I WAS JUST TEASING"
and what if i wasn't blessed with a baby and told them the i COULDN'T have children?? they would feel like even BIGGER idiots wouldn't they?? some people are so strange!!
oh AND at this dinner for this baptism, hubby and I were in line with other family to get food :) (buffet style) and this lady infront of us, who none of us knew - listened in our conversation (I said something like the sooner i eat dinner the sooner i can have dessert, hubby said something like - "all this baby WANTS is dessert lately")- turned around and said - baby? i dont see a baby?
hubby defended me tho - he said, seeing as we have no idea who the heck you are, then you wouldn't know anything about our personal life, My wife is 4 months pregnant.
i stood profile and she just turned 100 different shades of red.. and said oh..
MAN! some people got some nerve!
Ugh! That is one of the most annoying things about being pregnant. My sister in law is about 25 weeks and I'm at 16 weeks and she told me my belly is huge compared to hers. I felt horrible but thankfully my hubby defended me. He told his sister of course my belly shows because I was way smaller than she was pre pregnancy so of course the baby can only go out. She got upset. Having three pregnant women in the same family is a bunch of trouble to the men in my hubby's family. His brother joked and said he is staying away until the hormones go back to normal on everyone.
I have had strangers walk up and touch my belly and say congratulations and it creeps me out. Leave my belly alone!!! LOL
I have had strangers walk up and touch my belly and say congratulations and it creeps me out. Leave my belly alone!!! LOL
wasabic, i am sure you look amazing. i totally feel you with the touching the belly thing. thankfully that hasn't happened to me yet, but i am sure the day will come.. and if it is someone i barely know and don't get a good vibe from, i will not really like it. don't worry about being so small still, i know it is fun to have a noticeable bump, but i think your day is coming very soon! <3
i feel better today. it was hard to just shrug off the "big" comments. my husband reminded me of how great i look to him, that helped. one of my best girlfriends also reassured me, and knows how i feel as she is also a tiny woman carrying a baby the way i am. people just don't remember how small we were pre-pregnancy or realize that the only place for our baby to go is straight out! we both love our bellies! it seems almost silly that i let the comments of others get to me when in less than 5 months i will meet the most precious person in my world. the "you're showing that much already?" comments may sting, but this baby is worth hearing them every day if i had to.
i googled this topic, and it is astounding but not surprising how many women have dealt with this at one point or another during pregnancy. so.. we are definitely not alone!
i feel better today. it was hard to just shrug off the "big" comments. my husband reminded me of how great i look to him, that helped. one of my best girlfriends also reassured me, and knows how i feel as she is also a tiny woman carrying a baby the way i am. people just don't remember how small we were pre-pregnancy or realize that the only place for our baby to go is straight out! we both love our bellies! it seems almost silly that i let the comments of others get to me when in less than 5 months i will meet the most precious person in my world. the "you're showing that much already?" comments may sting, but this baby is worth hearing them every day if i had to.
i googled this topic, and it is astounding but not surprising how many women have dealt with this at one point or another during pregnancy. so.. we are definitely not alone!
i had every body makeing fun of me how i dont look pregnant at all and that my belly is so small and i just got fat but no belly but i just dont want to hear them any more but is part of beeing pregnant and i will do it any day everyday just to have an angel . but what i hate more then that is people tuching my belly i dont mind my huby or fam but just friends or co workers from my huby side just freak me dont what people tuching my belly .
thanks ladies, it was good to read your stories. i just keep telling myself how blessed and thankful i am to BE pregnant! these people's comments, while annoying, are so minor and i just have to take it with a grain of salt. people will say what they want, and some just don't get it, but oh well.
lilbea, you are so right.. pregnancy is NOT a time for excuses or taking less than pristine care of ourselves.. good for you for standing up to that and i hope you ignore whoever says those things to you. i am sure you blow it off pretty easily ;)
rbohl01, cheers to that. pregnancy is absolutely beautiful!!!! glad you are enjoying it :)
lilbea, you are so right.. pregnancy is NOT a time for excuses or taking less than pristine care of ourselves.. good for you for standing up to that and i hope you ignore whoever says those things to you. i am sure you blow it off pretty easily ;)
rbohl01, cheers to that. pregnancy is absolutely beautiful!!!! glad you are enjoying it :)
A lot of people have commented on how big I am already. It kind of makes me feel fat when people say it but oh well. I am proud of my baby bump. I don't plan on having any more babies after this so I am just enjoying every day that I get to be pregnant.
LOL I hear you!
i love my bump :) even tho it's still bloat lol but i can feel baby in there so i know its both!!
sometimes when people ask how im doing, i'll say great - but i'm starting to feel "chubby/fat/pregnant" - i have used all these terms before and what i hate the most, is when they reply with something like " oh but your pregnant- your allowed to be fat!"
NO!!!! just because you're preggers doesn't mean it's ok to be "fat" or use pregnancy as an excuse to be unhealthy..
but other that that, no one has made a comment about how small or big my bump is..
i love my bump :) even tho it's still bloat lol but i can feel baby in there so i know its both!!
sometimes when people ask how im doing, i'll say great - but i'm starting to feel "chubby/fat/pregnant" - i have used all these terms before and what i hate the most, is when they reply with something like " oh but your pregnant- your allowed to be fat!"
NO!!!! just because you're preggers doesn't mean it's ok to be "fat" or use pregnancy as an excuse to be unhealthy..
but other that that, no one has made a comment about how small or big my bump is..
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