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Weekend was so slow that I figured I'd go ahead and get this opened for Monday.
Have a great start to the week everyone!!!!!!!!

I can't believe Talon will be a year old at the end of this month!!!!!!! Time goes by SOOOO FAST!!!
Enjoy them while they are still small ladies......now I am running all over the place......speaking of....he just found my stash of candy in his diaper bag......gotta run!!!!!!
Hugs,
Vikki

[Christie2004]

Congrats!  Just got back from camping and saw your post.  Glad it all went smoothly, and hope you get the breastfeeding issues worked out.  Be sure you are burping gently, and try elevating the head of the bassinet slightly, or putting her in a car seat afterwards instead of laying down flat.  

Hopefully the pediatrician will have some good input.

[Wisegirl]

Thanks !  Last night went a little better but this morning not so good.  I'm taking my lack of help issues out on my 6yr old and thats not fair. I'm running around baby crying cause she wants to be fed trying to get DS ready for school.  DH says I need time to get into the swing of things but I don't have the time to give !

[dawnna]

Just wanted to tell you i got the pics and she is soo beautiful:) Congrats againd!!!

[shubunkin]

I am so there with you. We got up late this morning and I was yelling at my oldest to hurry up before he missed the bus and telling im he was being way too slow when I just yanked the poor kid out of the bed and he was still half asleep. My husband finally just told me to go on he would handle it. It is like I have no patience with them anymore. My oldest looked at me last night and asked me why I was being so mean. :(

[cajun01]

Morning everyone.  My friend threw me a baby shower yesterday and I was dreading it, but it went very well, although we were all tired last night.  We had a cake decorator come to my house and give us cake decorating lessons.  YUM!  FUN!  I've always wanted to take classes, but never had the time.  Got lots of nice little gifts; really made me think 'oh my god, I'm going to have a baby' (this is my first one).  Did anyone else go through the phase starting around six months where you can't sleep at night?  The past week, I've been waking up around 4 or 5, WIDE awake, and I can't get back to sleep for over an hour....blah.

[so unsure...]

Good morning ladies,
I need good thoughts this morning. I go for a level II u/s. I am very nervous. I expect the worst case news, I have been having intermittent cramps on left side. I'm 10w3d today. They are sending me to check the fetal pole beacuse when I went at 7w6d the techs observation was that pole was "globular" not linear...I have been told not to worry. YEAH right! SO keep me in your thoughts:)

[Debra_Maine]

Good luck unsure! 29 days to go. I can't believe it! After reading the posts today, I'm so glad I'm only having one. I don't know how you guys do it with more than one. But, I am one of two and I can tell you I don't remember anything negative from when my mom brought my sister home and I'm sure she yelled at me a bit too. So don't worry that you are causing permanent damage. Kids are so resilient and they know you love them. Keep your chins up!
Debra

[Christie2004]

I almost fell out of my chair!

You're doing WHAT???? Running around taking care of OTHER PEOPLE??? (Even if it is DS)....need I remind you that YOU JUST GOT OUT OF THE HOSPITAL AFTER HAVING MAJOR SURGERY AND A BABY????

Lecture time:  You need to have only ONE job right now (ok, 2)... feeding the baby and resting.  THAT'S IT.  It is your husbands job to do EVERYTHING ELSE.

Period.  End of discussion.  No wonder you are worn out! No reason why DH can't get DS ready in the mornings.  If he can't do anything else, he can do that much at least until he gets home from work....then he can do the cooking, cleaning, and laundry.

[Wisegirl]

Work ? He's home until Fri !  His sleep and rest is apparently more important than mine. We got into it this morning.  He feels terrible.  I stay up with him while he does his 1 bottle feeding of course that is much faster than my breastfeeding. So he's up maybe an hour thru the night ! Then sleeps in late. I got up and got into the shower at 6:30 this morning, afraid I wouldn't get one ! Saturday I didn't get one until 5PM  :(

[cinnamonheart]

Wisegirl--I can totally relate!!!!  Sounds like my house after my c/section about a week  they figure oh she's home from the hospital she can do it!!
Take time for yourself you got to !  When ds is at school try to sneak a sleep when babe is asleep.

I bark at my kids to I swear they dont know how to get dressed, comb their hair  or nothing with out me!!!  But its funny they always manage to find the fridge!!!

Things will get better with baby its a waiting game BUT the dh thing  Im still waiting........ He will get a suprise when I go back to work He has never had all 3 EVER. Hope it gets better for you ..

Cajun--Hunney welcome to the NO sleep zone...Now until eternity..Yes very common for no sleep  uncomfortable, up to pee, just cant!! all preparing for dear baby!!
Im sure you got lots of goodies at the shower thats always nice!
I think the first one is the best(not kids ) just preparing for them everything is new, doing the nursery etc... the poor other kids usually get the hand me downs and believe me you use them!!

[so unsure...]

thanks debra_maine. outcome not good. no h/b and fetus measured 8w5d, I am waiting for Dr to call and schedule d&c, I cannot wait this out. to upsetting.  Never had this before and am scared about procedure.

[Debra_Maine]

I'm so sorry. That is exactly what happened to me. I chose to have the d&c as I needed closure. I'm glad I did. I was able to move on that much faster. But I was sad for quite a while. We waited the one cycle till we could try again and I'm currently 36 weeks. So it can happen. I tried to tell myself that it happened for a reason. Something was wrong. There is nothing I can say to take away your pain, but hopefully I have shown you hope that it will happen for you. Just wasn't meant to be right now.
Debra

[so unsure...]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I think that the stadol is supposed to make you groggy so that should help. It is the noise that scares me and the mental images. I know I am making the right decision, husband supports it. wants to move on and try again, although I am not sure how soon.  was this your first pregnancy? i had an ectopic last july and had to have a methotrexate shot to terminate pregnancy. I feel like maybe we need a rest. neither times were we "trying" in fact both were total suprises. the 1st pregnancy I was off b/c for over 2 1/2 yrs.  I have remained off the b/c, I have had pcos since I was 18, which was the main reason I remained on b/c for so long. at any rate looking forward to wednesday a.m. and this having some closure.

[Wisegirl]

Maura has gained 10 oz in 3 days !!!  The dr was like ... holy wow !! She has been throwing up after 75% of feedings and the dr's not sure if she is overfilling herself or has acid reflux or both.  She also thinks my milk may be coming out too fast and my body has been producing alot of milk. My supply never seems to dwindle down.  I can pump over 6oz after a feeding.  Dr said thats alot of milk ! So I have to keep her on a incline ... etc. and go back next week for another weigh in.

7lbs 8 oz    on 4/25
7lbs         on 4/28
7lbs 2 oz    on 4/29
7lbs 12oz    on 5/2

[Debra_Maine]

All I was given was a Valium. I was wide awake and I don't think the Valium did much at all. If you can get something stronger I would recommend it. It was a bit painful but I have a high threshold for pain so it wasn't that bad for me. It didn't take too long. Basically he inserted a tube that acted like a vacuum. The worst part of it for me was the sound. You hear the sucking noise. I had always prided myself in the fact that I had never had an abortion. After that, I felt like I knew just what that was like. I may be scaring you into going naturally, but I'm being honest about my experience. It was over in about 15 minutes. I was crampy for a day or so and bled for about 5 days but only the first couple were heavy. I got AF exactly 28 days from the procedure and then used ovulation kits starting about 12 days after that. On day 14 the lines were both dark and we tried for 3 days in a row. It worked. I have heard about it taking weeks sometimes to be over if you let it go naturally and I just wanted it over a.s.a.p. I did have my hcg levels checked before I had the procedure. Just to make sure they had gone down. I was 10 weeks and the fetus showed 6 1/2 weeks. I went from hcg of 28000 to 9000 so I knew it was gone. You may want to have that done to be absolutely sure. You may not. It's your choice. I am so sorry you have to go through this. But time does heal. Best of luck to you.
Debra

[so unsure...]

thank you so much for sharing your story. I do feel like the d&c is best, but I am scared. were you under put under or just "dazed"? The dr said they would give me valium and staydol(sp) but that I would be awake...YIKES. and how was healing time? She said I should be able to return to work in a couple of days. my job requires standing 8 hrs a day. I am a little worried about that.
thanks again for any feedback.
kiersten

[cinnamonheart]

I was put out so I didnt hear a thing or feel a thing, Maybe it depends on hospital policies and how far along you maybe- I was 12 weeks, Wishing you the best,
Yes take some time to heal, physically and emotionally,
Just for thought... My sister had pcos and now is expecting twins!!

[so unsure...]

thanks for the words of hope! Did she do anything special to conceive?

[Debra_Maine]

Yes, that was my first pregnancy. I don't blame you for wanting to take some time off. If I had lost this one, I don't think I could've even gone through trying a third time. And it sounds like you are quite fertile, so when you are ready, it will happen. Good luck to you. Hey, you could always bring ear plugs.
Debra

[so unsure...]

Sounds like a plan. one more thing was your spouse in the room with you?  I don't want dh to be anymore traumatized than he needs to be!

[Debra_Maine]

Yes he was. He wanted to be. I think for him, it was just about not having me go through it alone. We didn't really talk about what the experience was like for him. He was just focused on me at that time. Hope that doesn't sound bad. You'll see what I mean. And I'll tell you, it was helpful to have him there. If you think he can take it, have him there for you. I asked him if he would faint or anything and he said no, he wanted to be there. I'm glad he was. If you can take the rest of the week off from work too, I would recommend it. Especially since you are on your feet for 8 hours. Are you able to take the time?

[so unsure...]

OH yes, dh and I both just took a weeks vacation. we are on our way to dr's office to get laminase(sp) the stuff to dialate cervix yuck and the procedure is tomorrow at 8:30 so I will have rest of week to recover. Thank you all for your advice and sharing it really does help in this scary, trying time. I think he will go in with me. Will let you know how I am doing tomorrow. thanx again all!

[cinnamonheart]

She tried clomid, it ended up that her dh sperm was injected into her egg  Her problem was she was over producing eggs and her ovary was jammed packed so it didnt get released.
Hey there is always hope.

Just take some time for yourself first.

[so unsure...]

Good afternoon everyone. I had the d&c this morning and feel much better than I was expecting to.  It was not that bad. I came home ate and took a vicodin and slept for 3 hrs. not really bleeding, although not moving around much either. from the couch in to the computer room:) I want to thank you again Debra for your sharing it really did help with anxiety. I am not normally an anxious person, but due to circumstance well you know. Like you I figure if successful with next pregnancy one is it!!!!I am satisfied with one plus dh who is a BIG KID:)LOL! Best of luck with your delivery, whenever  it is!

[mgi]

I am glad you are able to work through this.  Good luck

[so unsure...]

thanks:)