***************** Ask Anything Forum******************************

[capermom]

I thought this would cover lots of questions for everyone, it can also be used as a regular open forum.

[karen23]

I am 18 weeks and I had heartburn last night from 8:30pm until 3am.  It was awful - any home remedies out there??  I had fajitas for dinner, nothing spicy, but red and green peppers and onions - these don't usually bother me though.  Could they start bothering me now?  I am going for my ultrasound tomorrow and I will hopefully find out the sex!!  Capermom, I can't sleep either!   I have to admit, though, I am enjoying this chilly Canadian weather.  The heat does NOT agree with me!  Hope everyone is well and write to me about your heartburn experiences, please!!!  Thanks, Kat

[Kassimom]

LOL I posted yesterday about this :)  Tums didn't work for me, and Rolaids were too gross and took too long to work. I have read that once the baby starts getting really big, it really squashes your stomach and there is less room for food so the acid has nowhere to go but up (heartburn). Eating less at a time is supposed to ease this, but I also found that drinking a little chilled Mylanta before and after dinner helped me. (It is SOOOO gross but it helped me and was worth the nasty taste for a few seconds.) Hope that helped!

[Emma1]

Ice cold milk will help as well.

[Kassimom]

Here's a question posed to those preg or who have been preg...

Is it normal to be a complete clutz when you start getting large? For some reason the past week I have been literally running into walls and furniture. It's not like the walls have moved and our furniture is too large and heavy to move, but somehow I still manage to miscalculate where a wall or sofa or door ends and where empty space begins. I feel like a human pin ball, minus the lights and bells. I keep expecting "ding ding" every time I hit the wall or whatever else it is I am running into. What the heck is going on here????

[Kassimom]

Okay girlies! I need some motherly advice.

Some of you have gotten the picture I don't talk to my mother any more, She is an alcoholic, anorexic, racist, blah blah blah. ANYWAY, she wants to see my daughter who seh ahsn't seen in about 2 yrs and wants me to have a lunch with her.

My concern is that since she found out I am pregnant she wants to make nice so she can try to see this baby (which my DH is adamantly against). My other concern is that this lunch will deteriorate into a "you did this to me"  and "you were an awful child" match like it usually does and I don't need that.

I am worried, I want my DD to see her grandmother (occasionally) but I have been so happy lately that I hate to invite stress into my life at this point (and my mom's love for chaos seems to be an invitation to stress!)

What would any of you have me do? I would love to hear from a grandmother on this issue too!

[tresmathews]

Yes it is normal to be clutzy. Your center of gravity changes constantly so you never really get a chance to adjust. When I was preg I used to drop things constantly after awhile I got to bog to bend over to pick them up so my hubby would get home from work and have to go and pick up all the stuff I dropped during the day.

[tresmathews]

I understand that she is your mother but truthfully I would not want the added stress. You are preg and have a little one that is enough stress in itself. If you do decide to go I would take a friend with you that could help you relax and hopefully it will also make your mother not say bad things in front of your DD.

I would also discuss it with DS. He may have a very strong opion on the subject and you going may cause more stess between the 2 of you also.

Good luck with any decision you make.

[Kassimom]

THANK YOU!!! YOU were so helpful on both questions!

And I have been dropping things lately too in addition to running into walls! LOL

As for the mother thing, you are so right. I also called my grandmother and she said the EXACT same thing as you. I don't need the added stress and to talk it over with DH and see how he feels about it. Just from messaging him he doesn't seem exactly thrilled at the idea.

She didn't ask herself, she had my sister call and ask. My grandmother said that that fact alone makes her think my mother isn't really ready for a reconcilliation herself.

I feel like I have broken the cycle of criticism, negativity and abuse that has gone on for ages in my mother's familiy and I do not want to step back into that circle. I have alot to think about in the next weekend! Thanks again for your very wise advice!

[shari13]

GIRL, I would have to agree with Tresmatthews! I know you dont want to seem like a bad person and not accept the invite, however, she didnt even have the courage to talk directly to you. If you do decide to go for it, taking a friend will help alot, more than likely it will be nothing but a pleasant visit rather than "you did this and that..."  She wont want to seem like the bad person if you have an "innocent" friend with you.
either way, talk it over with dh....

[Still_AndiJ]

I will have to say you have to respect dh's opinion on this as these are his children too. I came from a similar mother (my birth mom) and after not speaking to her for 4 years, I let her meet my son under the condition she wouldn't drink before or during our visits. That proved too difficult of a task for her and after only a few short months, I severed ties with her. By that point my son was only 8 months old. My mother continued to drink herself to death and passed away 9 months later due to liver cancer. I often think back and wonder if I made the wrong decision by cutting those ties but then came to realize she was never going to change and I did not want to take the chance that she would inflict the type of pain and abuse upon me and my family that she had when I was child.

It is a very personal decision, but you do need to consider your family, most importantly your children. Do you want to risk having your child hear those types of comments, especially if they are directed towards you in their presence? I wish you luck in whatever decision you make.


Andrea