2 year old bites

hi my almost  2 year old son is into biting people even this father.he bite him about 4 times on sunday . i need help and a way to get him to stop doing it . thanks amanda

[disneymom2]

I think everyone has a different approach.  However, this is what I did.  My son came up to me one day and grabbed my legs.  I thought he was just giving mommy a hug.  He then proceeded to bit my inner thigh for what seemed like and eternity.  It broke the skin and it started to bleed.  I then bit him back. He never bit again.  Some people think this is mean and cruel, I will tell you that I didn't bite him as bad as he bit me BUT I bit him hard enough to get my point across.

[mommie2]

I agree with you, my daughter bit me and I bit her back and she never bit again. I think the children needs to see what they are doing, they probably ave no idea but once they know what it feels like they will probably stop.

[cutiemama]

What did your DH do when your son bit him? My 2 1/2 year old DD has never bitten anyone but she has hit and pushed me and DH and tends to scream at us alot. I wouldn't dream of hitting her back so the only way we know how is to give her a time out and/or take away a privaledge and to explain to her just how wrong it is to push/hit etc. While the other mommies seemed to have luck in the biting back method, I don't know if that would work on all children since I'm not if a two year old can necessarily grasp the concept that when you bite back that you're trying to teach a lesson or if you're just retaliating with the same behaviour. The main thing in punishment is following through. If you say you've lost going to the park because you bit me, then you have to ensure that you don't give in. Good luck!

[dylansmommy]

what does dh mean ? he doesnt bite me at all and when he did i bite him back its just him biting his dad ,it mainly happens when they are playing around .

[jgirl34]

Some children won't learn. Like my son with sensory disorders he dosen't feel pain. So he dosen't understand that biting hurts, especially if you bite him back or spank him it's only telling him it's ok for him to do it again. His therapists said never to hit in return. Put him in time out and then if he does it again give him another 5 minutes and follow through. AT 2 yrs old time out will work better than most things. Good Luck!

[jifnif]

I agree w/ the bite back method....when i was 9 my baby brother bit me on the butt....and it bled...i still have the scar!!!  How embarrassing..my mom said to bite him back...he never bit anyone after that!!!  good luck..

[dylansmommy]

ok i will tell him ,hopefully he will do it he is very nice going i think thats the work. to get him to do that but i will try . thanks all

[IwillBeAMommy]

My mom bit me back (I was 4) and I never bit again.  I must have been convinced I was a vampire.

Don't think this is crazy but I still love to bite things (I am 24 years old).  I find it relaxing.  It isn't a compulsive thing but I do like the feeling of sinking my teeth into something.  I think that is why I don't like soft foods.  I like things I need to chew on...like steak.

So, my advice...bite the **** our of you kid (no blood), just a little bit of pain and then follow up with chewier foods.  I know that is how I get my bite craving handled (sun flower seeds and things like fruit roll ups).

[mommie2]

DH=Dear Husband

[FeyAnn]

My son, who is almost 3yrs, has gone back and forth on a lot of different things.  Biting, hitting, and screaming.  I have always just done what he does to me.  That is a real world lesson; if you go up to someone and hit them what do you think their going to do to you? And I told him, "If you don't like to be hit, bit, screamed at, don't do it to others."  He doesn't do these things often but my son is a tester and he will try things again later.  I think what brought on his biting thing lately is that a kid at school was doing it and he decided to do it too.  Till he tried it with me and got slapped for it.  I don't abuse my son; I never do anything that would hurt him for a long time just enough to get a point across about hurting people and what happens when you hurt others.  My son has some extra stresses that other children don't often have so sometimes old things pop-up again and he has to be reminded of the consequences of what he does.

[skn331]

Its called impulse control.  Adults have it and toddlers don't.  You don't bite, slap, hit, or otherwise physically harm a toddler.  They do not have the ability to guage how others recieve pain.  Their brains dont work that way yet.  They have no idea they are hurting you, they are just learning how to express their anger or frustration.  When you retaliate by hurting them back, all they get out of it is that you are hurting them.  There is no "learning what biting feels like" because they dont have the ability to think about another persons feelings yet.  Think about it people.  Show them and tell them how to behave.  But dont hurt them because they dont know how to express themselves.

[Liza55]

How do you then explain all the successful stories of "and he never bit again"??? I saw this many times and no I don't expect to obviously have some deep conversation of how I feel,etc. But that to me is it on the nose- I bite, I get bit (and it hurts). Simple concept. In your line of thinking too, then, the toddler isn't going to sit in his room to analyze why mommy hurt me like that. I think the most effective things, especially that age, are quick and simple. And they are real life lessons as someone mentioned- kids on the playground aren't going to talk to your kid or put them in time out. You hit a kid, they'll probably hit you back harder. It helps with the basic do unto others...