AF came 4 days late! I give up i need support :(

hi girls i thought i was preggo we all did but i knew something was wrong cuz of my cramps af came this morning bfn! 4 days late why? my cramps are hurting so bad just like they did b4 my m/c in nov. what is wrong with me this is my 3rdd cycle now and im still not pregnant what im i doing wrong is there any special tricks! im loosing it i was so excited when i got no af it made me so happy and my dh we just lost my sisters husband who i was with from a little girl and the pregnancy news would of been so blessed but i dont know i give up

[jmichel8]

OMG.  did you get a positive test yesterday?  I can't believe this.  I am praying and thinking of you... This is absolute torture.  

[KAY26]

Please don't be so hard on yourself!!!! I think what we all need to understand is that this whole conception thing is not in our hands...
You are doing nothing wrong. I don't know your story but it takes an average couple 6mths to conceive. So if this is only month 3 then you're fine.
I know exactly how you feel each time AF comes i get discourged but give yourself time. It will happen. Just remember nothing ever happens before its time. I know you don't want to hear this now but take it from someone who's dealing with TTC also. Look it at this way in a few days you'll be having a lot of fun bd'ing.

GOD BLESS!!!!

[michellejune]

awww! I'm so sorry!! How many cycles have you been trying?? Don't lose hope! Maybe the secret like my Mother tells me.....stop thinking about it so much and just let it happen.

[jennifer1977]

Oh honey, Im sorry.  Someone thought you were saying you were due Oct. 4th so we all thought you were.  I feel so bad for you, but just know, I wasnt even trying to conceive, or on BC and it took my husband and I 9 mos of unprotected sex to conceive.  I know this will happen for you and I pray it is this cycle!

[pixijal]

I'm very sorry to hear about your dissapointment!  Unfortunately, many of us can relate...YOUR NOT ALONE, and we all have our days!

Like the previous post mentioned, It happens when you don't think about it.  I got pg with my first when I THREW AWAY THE CHARTS, PUT AWAY THE THERMOMETER, QUIT COUNTING THE DAYS, GOT OFF THE CLOMID, AND OFFICIALLY 'QUIT'.  

After almost 2 full years of TTC, the next thing I knew, I was sittin' on the beach in Mexico...vomitting...because I was 8 weeks pg.  I am just beginning my 4th pregnancy, and I learned early on that I WILL NOT allow myself to 'OBSESS' over it again....it worked.  Best to you!

[gavinsmommy]

I am just wondering why you posted on someone elses thread that you are due October 11th and then posted today that you got your period?  

It just seems to me that you are just trying to get attention.  You posted numerous times on here that you thought you were pregnant because you were late and all these women on here were excited for you and wanted to know if you were infact pregnant.  You kept saying things like you are going to take the test tomorrow and then maybe the next day and then your posted on someone elses thread about October 11th.  I am just very confused and wondering if anyone else is.

[CYW]

i am so sorry to hear. I know it's hard when you want to conceive sooo bad. I too had felt like giving up and just stoped bd'ing every day and i was just so upset and came out I was pregnant so.. Try not to stress it over because if you want to be pregnant so bad, you won't.. It sucks but that is how it happens...Best of luck and baby dust to you:)

[2songbirds]

I agree, but what I'm feeling isn't confused....

I've mentioned sooo many times on your posts mommy 2 be 2007 how to read the signs, better your chances, how you're not to post the same question day after day, or even 2ce in 1 day because the space is limited.

GET THE BOOK "TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR FERTILITY"!!! It explains how to read your bodily signs, correctly bbt, etc.

like I've mentioned before, you can try taking herbs to better your chances like vitex/chastetree berry, evening primose oil, extra vitamin b6, all of which I did.

I've been pregnant 6 time in the last 4 years, 4 of those were m/c, my recent being last march which I was supposed to be 10 weeks. It took 5 months to conceive my current one. I got the book, took bbt, used opk's, took supplements, and it still took 5 months. I also had something called cervical erosion which made it even harder to conceive.

I don't mean to sound harsh, I know you're upset, but take things as they are. Maybe this is your body's way of telling you it needs a rest.

[momof11]

WOW ladies a bit harsh, whether shes looking for attention or just needs some one to talk to lets be a bit more supportive shall we, that thing about posting to many qs in one day come on somtimes we forget to ask the right qs or come up with new ones later, let her vent if she needs to, and Im am sorry for the loss of your brother in law that must be hard on your sis and others I hope your cycle gets on track and things start to get better for you I will pray for your family.

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

thanks guys, ur the best it sux this ttc i really thought i was preggo im never 4 days late and i had all the symptoms!

songbirds gavinmommy u guys r rude lol but its ok

[2songbirds]

First all, I've been coming here a lot longer than both of you. There are limited space available for questions. there were many days were mommy would post 2 similar questions in the same day, or every day!!. Someone who had a problem may not have been able to post!

Mommy.. I've been through my share of hard times, but come on, research a bit more. I said in one of your previous posts on knowing how to correctly BBT. You need to do it the same time every day, the same method whether it's orally or vaginally. That means some days you'll have to set your alarm clock to take it. You can't take it throughout the day to see if it changes. I also said OPK's don't always determine if you are indeed pg. I went through all this in one of your previous posts.

I'm saying this because you kept saying you were going to test, then you DID say you were due october 11th. You had everyone here going. This isn't a soapopera, this is where people come for "support" and more than anything looking for opinions/experiences.

And, I wasn't being rude...just blunt.

Where's Who_dis when you need her????

[momof11]

I dont care how long you have been in this forum or not rude is rude not blunt, some woman have troubles with caculating and so maybe unsure how to work the internetor do her own research or maybe she just needs someone to talk to, lighten up on the woman she just lost her brother in law and now shes not preg, that hurts.

[2songbirds]

you know what? When someone comes here for answers, and we answer them, but they keep asking the same questions, not just mommy either, what else are you supposed to do? I've not said anything controversial towards her up until now.

I saw she posted she said she was pg...why would she say that? Now AF came. Is it attention? I don't care. But I've tried along with others to help, but it doesn't matter. When I went through a similar thing last year, I asked questions to learn how to do things and who_dis and andji78 helped a lot. That is what I've been trying to do for mommy.

If you reread my post, I did NOT say one rude comment. I was straight forward blunt. And I said that I didn't mean to sound harsh either.

Oh, and if you've been around long enough, not here just to post a few commments for a month or 2, then  you'd know that space is limited, and IF you have a new question and you already posted that day you put NEW QUESTION under your thread. Others will see it. And if you want to talk about CM or something broad, then you can put OPEN FORUM in your title so that when space runs out, others can still ask questions.

[2songbirds]

sorry, I didn't mean to hijack your thread. You can have it back now. I was trying to help, and to understand myself.

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

i dont like using periods and commas i laydown while im typing lol

[gavinsmommy]

I agree with you songbird.  

Mommy 2007 - I'm sorry, but I just don't understand why you posted on someone elses thread that you were due October 11th and I would like to know why you did that.  If you took and test and found out that you were pregnant, why didn't you post your OWN thread? You had to have known from all the various posts on here that people were waiting for you to test. If you hadn't taken a test and had just missed your period, then why did you say that you already had a due date.  I have been reading your threads for weeks now and was excited for you.  Like the rest of the ladies, I was waited in anticipation for you to test yesterday.  I just feel like you aren't being truthful and that you really are just on here for attention.  Save the space for people who really have questions and who don't ask the same things over and over again.

[2songbirds]

on the patient to doctor there's a 2 Q in 6 month period. Unless they changed the rules with the new format, they only accept so many questions for patient to patient in a day. If you've ever tried to post a Q in the later afternoon, it may say the forum's full or has reached it's limit, whichever. It's happened to me many times. THat's why someone will post a new Q under someone else's open forum.

[tina1111]

Thanks, I have heard conflicting info and there was so much to read in their agreement I gave up.

[michellejune]

For gods sake gals...give her a break. All I ever see is people lashing out cuz someone posts too much.

Maybe the solution to the space problem is to try to get them to change this forum so when an answer is posted it bumps to the top. The problem is that posts get lost in the shuffle and you could post something in the morning...not get any replied and then by night 50 more posts are above yours so you try to ask again.

[momof11]

exactly my point way to harsh on her

[crystalluvsjim]

Golly!! Are the hormones flying or what!?! Come on ladies...this place (in my humble opinion) is for support and that's just what she has asked for! Who cares if she posted on someone else's thread that she was due in Oct. Maybe she assumed she was pregnant since she was late for her af and went ahead and figured up her due date! Big deal!! Why can't we all just get along and show some love?!

New Mommy 2 Be: Sorry it wasn't your time this cycle, maybe it could be the stress from losing your bro-in-law. When I lost my Granny, it through my af off by over two weeks. Wishing you the best next cycle! You'll be in my prayers as well as all the ladies here!!

Crystal

[CODNER5]

Ya know ladies, I have been just looking at these forums for a few months now and have been pretty pleased as ladies can openly discuss whatever they want-but geez-the ones (you know who you are) need to go get a life and leave this poor girl alone. I mean why do so much research on her posts(when, where, how)-seems little extreme.If you dont agree with her, or anyone else for that matter-just pass the post and ignore it.You have NO idea how she feels and does not need to justify why she posted a particular question.YOU never know this fou may be the only circle of friends people have-so lay off!
Plus if the forum does fill up, then the next day you can use it again and it isnt full.

I was very displeased with the attitudes on this post- I hope you(you again know who you are) never get a response back to any of your questions.

Very very sad!!

P.S Mommy to be 2007-take care and keep your head up-you do not have to justify anything these ladies say to you.

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

thanks girls its funny how song birds and gavins mommy complain i just figure i was preggo and found my duedate im such a nerd i was so happy, i guess i was late, crystal ur sweet i think that is why i was late im so depressed about so many things going through the past two weeks with the lost of my brother in law and my neice and nephew who are 5 and 7 are so lost without their dad its heartbreakin, i hope this cycle is the one that sticks! Since nov 2006 i've been a mess and since my brother passed away i really lost it. best of luck to all of us u girls are so nice u make me wanna cry :)

and one more thing if i posted two times big whoop everyone does lol im just anxious for answers and there is no limit for posting its not a doctor's office
GOD BLESS

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

ur so sweet, i know people are just probably bored and get mad at other people's post i wouldnt care who posts whatever there are a lot of people who post more than once and it is not limited i never was told it was full thats crazy, the two girls who b***** on this post lets see when u post ur questions, gee i hope all of us ttcing do so soon! I hate all this waiting, too much stress

actually this af is like my pre pregnancy ones very crampy!!
and im really bitchy my dh is running away from me

songbirds- big deal if i posted i was due october 11 do u like track my post everyday thats crazy i dont mean to be rude but i should be rude cuz you have no say so you dont own the bored so what do u care, i was 4 or 5 days late so i figure i was preggo thats what happen to me when i got preggo with the one i m/c i didnt test until i was a week late and today i woke up at 9 and had blood coming out i was very upset

[2songbirds]

I have to laugh. No, I don't act like I "own the board". How many questions/comments do you see me post? I read everyone's Q, and respond back w/my own experiences just like I was doing for you.

As trudy pointed out above, one who cries wolf will be ignored. I don't want to see that happen to you. You do seem like to be a geniunely nice woman, except for calling me a B**** above.

And, I did say I didn't mean to sound harsh earlier, but I didn't know why you'd get the girls on here excited for you by proclaiming a BFP when in fact you didn't test.

No, I don't "stalk" your posts. I read up on them hoping to see your BFP. When I saw you said you were due in october, I was happy, then I was asking you earlier why'd you say that when you didn't test. Yesterday was the testing day...

BTW, if you are going to BBT, you need to start taking your temp soon so you can get a base coverline. Try fertilityfriends.com. It's free and helps you chart. Then you'll know if you have a progesterone problem, or ovulating late, if at all, etc

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

ok well, u were harsh for no reason and if u wanted to answer my question u should of just wrote a comment and not added well stop posting and blah blah blah, and u keep mentiong about the due date big whoop i figured it out i thought i was preggo but too scared to test everyone else understood except u and i dont ovulate late im fine i just think im not gonna use my fertilty monitor this month i will leave it in Gods hands good idea right?

[Want1more]

Good Idea!!!!

[2songbirds]

READ MY POSTS I NEVER SAID TO STOP POSTING!! OMG. You're totally reading them wrong.

And others mentioned the same about your supposed EDD, not just me honey. I read up on your posts, like I do w/everyone else's, and I try answering your questions by giving you hints on how to "help" your cycle, . Go back in the archives and find them.

God, this is what I get for trying to help someone, and point out some things

And while I'm at it, since you called me a B****, I might as well live up to it and learn how to use PERIODS AND COMMAS.

[tina1111]

I'm sorry, I really thought you were this time, too. Well, af is due soon for me so maybe next month is our month! Don't let it get you too down.

RE: MULTIPLE POSTS-Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought on the patient-to-patient forum there is not a limit. On the patient-to-doctor forum there is a limit????

[2songbirds]

oh. I have to sit really uncomfortable at my computer....someday I'll get a laptop.