ANOTHER OPEN FORUM

[platinum]

Since the other one is closed already and it's only 11:20 am here, I thought I better open another one.  I think this is like a record for most open forums in one day!!

[wannabemom]

I have already posted this in yesterday's open forum. I'm still hoping that someone will have an answer.

DISCHARGE - is this normal?

I've had a fluid came out (yellowish/brownish, not sticky but like urine for about 1 tablespoon) three times already. It used up the whole panty liner.

It happened twice when I was pregnant (early but then I had a miscarriage after that) and the other one was the other day. In 3 cases, I was in the grocery walking for a long time already.

Could it be that I got exhausted that's why come fluid came out? Does this happen to pregnant women only? Is this normal? Is this why I had a miscarriage?

I bled again last night (just once), after I was clean for 5 days already.

I'm not pregnant now. I just had a miscarriage a month ago.

[Steeley Ann]

I'm starting feel a bit sick but maybe its in my head lol. Gawd I wish the would invint a 24hr test or even a 12hr test lol.

[Debra_Maine]

I have been reading a lot about discharge lately since I am 9 weeks and have a lot of white/clear discharge. So, in my research it seemed that the thing the doctors stress the most is that if it doesn't smell and you have no burning or itch, it's probably fine and your bodies way of cleansing. If it persists and you are worried, I'd call the gynocologist. Good luck!

[nurse12hr]

I feel the need to post a warning.  The "oldies" here know what I'm talking about, but we do have some newer people and I don't want them to get hurt.

Some time back, we had a problem with a certain member of this community who was pregnant, subsequently delivered, and had a post partum complication.  She posted quite often, and we all became very wrapped up in her life issues, which were numerous.

She then changed her screen name, and posed as yet ANOTHER person who was very pregnant and due to deliver (at this point we did not know she was the same as the other person).  She posted a few times about how she was having contractions and going to the hospital.  A week later, she shocked everyone saying she had delivered and her baby had died at birth.  The outpouring of sympathy from "the oldies" here was genuine, and we all felt very sorry and offered support.

She started posting often as this person, and then was found out to be an imposter by a stupid mistake of hers when logging in.  Needless to say, EVERYONE felt betrayed and it disrupted the board for some time, as we became suspicious of new people who might be this woman posing as yet another person.  It really almost tore the forum apart.

This person is (I believe) back.  Her style of writing is distinctive, characterized by frequent detailed posts that appear to have been written by a sixth grader, complete with bad spelling, punctuation, and grammer.  Sometimes, when we catch her here and point her out, she is able to clean up her spelling for a bit, but she lapses again when she feels comfortable.  She's been here a few times, under different names.

Just be careful getting caught up with people you "meet" on the internet.  I know I am guilty of caring a lot about this forum, that I feel like this is a second family of sorts.  I have posted my own personal problems here, and have gained a lot of insight by your caring responses.  But I need to remember to stand back a bit sometimes, to remember that we REALLY don't know each other, and to try not get too involved.  But it's hard!  I think many of the caring women (and the occasional man) who post here frequently have very good hearts and care in the same way and want to help.

Do remember to keep a little bit of a guard up, knowing that one of us is likely to be this person who so tried to fracture this board by posting such a heinous lie.  This is a sick person, who needs attention and sympathy and tries to gain it here.  It's sad we need to watch out, but the internet is full of people that do sick things for many reasons.

Be caring, but be careful.  Again, the posts are quite distinctive.  If you pay a bit of attention you will figure it out.  I just don't want people to get sucked in and hurt again.  A lot of women here are dealing with loss themselves, REAL LOSS, and to have a sicko post that her baby died at birth when it was a total lie, was cruel beyond belief.

I don't want this warning to become an issue in itself, with debates and controversy.  Just be careful.  Good advice for any forum.

[angelblever]

Hi I am a new comer here. Ihave no idea who you are talking about, but i make spelling mistakes.  I hope you don't think that it is me.  This is getting weird.  Wouldn't it be better to just ignore the person that you think that it is?  Oh well Have a great day.  Blessngs LYnn and yes that is my real name

[nurse12hr]

Yes, ignoring her would be good, but the trouble is, the newer people here wouldn't know to ignore her.  The mistakes I'm talking about are numerous and pretty distinctive.

All I'm saying is, be careful.  That's all.  We all got way too involved with this persons "story".  A lot of people were hurt and there were bad feelings.  I'm not trying to start a suspicion of new people, and I welcome new people.  Please, please, please, don't ANYONE start fighting over who is or isn't this person.    

Just want everyone to remember--this is the internet, and things are not always what they seem.  Be caring and supportive, but be just a little careful.

[tresmathews]

Thanks for the warning.

I love this site and am glad that you ladies are here to chat with. I was wondering if you know anything about the use of vitex while TTC? I have gotten so much confusing info and I would love to hear your take on things. Should I only take it the first half of my cycle up until I O(when I start oing that is)? Should I take both capsuals together? I am so lost. My preg with DD was very unexpected so I never actually had to worry about TTCing. Thanks in advance.

Tresa

[nurse12hr]

I personally don't know anything about Vitex beyond hearing it discussed here.  Sorry!

[wannabemom]

It's really good you pointed that out.
I am always susceptible of believing everything that I read and feel sorry too.  Even though I don't know who you're talking about since I'm also new in this forum, I'll be aware of this.
What's sad about this is, if the impostor will give WRONG advice.

By the way, I would like to let you guys know that this forum is really really helpful. Since I've been in this forum, it helped a lot with my miscarriage.  Other forums that I've been to have less active people and less caring.

Keep up the good work, you all!

[Starry eyes]

Why would any one come on here and say that their baby died and it wasn't true? I was just wondering why someone would be that cruel and hatefull?
Most of us are trying everything we can to conceive, and for someone to come on here and make up stories is very confused person. I think I have seen the person's posting you are speaking of. I had made a comment to myself that she sounded young and of course the spelling was very bad.
Does she think that this is fun. If her goal was to get all of us riled (Sp?)up, I guess she probably is having a good laugh at our expense, because I believe it has worked. I agree with the person who said we should just ignore that person.
Well, that was my two cents :)
Everyone have a good one.

PS. No that person is not me :)

[Mandy13]

I got my blood work results back today.  It was not a new pregnancy.  It was HCG left from my miscarriage.  My current HCG level is 34.  So it is dropping.  BUT how long before it goes to ZERO??  They want me to test again next week.

[Steeley Ann]

Hey I'm sorry about my spelling mistakes, I didn't graduate highschool (reason not to be mentioned) I'm sorry if you feel I'm this rude person but I'm not and if you honestly belive its me then ignore me I can get advice from someone else.

[nanakay]

are any of you having problems with your back going out?
does anyone know some good exercises to do to keep it in after the chiroprator?

my boobs are all ready the size they were when i was nursing my son, (eeek) i hate to see how big they will be when my milk comes in.

~nanci

[nurse12hr]

Did you miss where I said NOT to get involved with who this person is?  Just be careful who you get close to.

[Steeley Ann]

Yesterday you called me Melissa, I know your talking about me. I'm just trying to clear my name that I'm not this Melissa person.

[nanakay]

are you ok??  your kind of freaking me out hun....your acting like you saw a ghost or something.
just concerned
~nanci

[Bailee5]

Mandy- I am really sorry to hear that. You just keep trying and keep faith. You will be blessed with a little miracle soon!!! :)

[angelblever]

Mandi  so sorry to hear that this is not a new pregnancy.  I have been there.  Your HCG will drop by half every 3 days so you will be 17 on Monday and 8 on thursday.  I have played the miscarriage game alot.  I do know what you are feeling.  Someone one time on Fertility Friend (another forum)  told me to go out and do something for myself.  Get a manicure and pedicure.  It would make me feel better.  I hate to admit it but it did work, just to be out among strangers, i didn't feel so alone.  I saw life going on.  It is a hard pill to swallow, but it does remain true.  Keep the Faith that this too shall pass and there will be baby for your arms one day.  Blessings Lynn


Steeley   For what its worth I believe you.  

This is a crazy world that we live and love in.  

Talk to you all later.  Lynn

[Bailee5]

I had asked you yesterday if you are currently preggo?? I was a little confused on that one from the post. I was going to say that if you are, that you may want to get checked. You may want to be sure your amneotic fluid is not leaking.

[Steeley Ann]

Well for the most part Christie if it makes you feel any better (I can't change the way I spell even if it is the same way that other person does) I can find another forum for help I don't need to come here, I was just enjoying the chats with others, but if I make anyone scared or think that I'm this sicko then I'll do us all a favior and leave, Not that I want to but it seems that I make a few nervous and I don't want to be the cause of anything bad. So Christie its up to you, do you want me to leave would that make you feel better.

[West Monroe]

What is the big deal if a person comes on here and talks about things that may or may not be going on in her life - This is obviously a very confused person - try not to be so insulting - be a friend - making fun of her could only make things worse - just answer her questions like you do everyone else's -

Chill out !!!

[lsa]

I'm sorry to hear that it isn't a new pregnancy. Your HCG level is pretty low so it shouldn't take much longer to go back to zero. Maybe another week or so.  Did the docs office give any idea on how long before it returns to zero?

[Bailee5]

First I would like to say that the past two days have been somewhat crazy with this "Melissa" issue. I have not been posting but maybe a little over a month now and I was not in this forum when all of that occured. But, I am concerned that new people may be scared off this site because of all the "freaking out" that is going on. I can totally understand the point you made, Christie, about not ever knowing who is on the other end of a post. The thing is we have to have a degree of trust for everyone that visits this site and it is not fair to accuse someone of being a "troll". I make spelling mistakes too, mainly because I think faster than I type..lol...but now everyone is going to be apologizing for misspellings! Yesterday I even confused the X and Y chromosones!!! Nanci set me straight though!!! :) I just don't want people to start leaving because of this. I just posted this morning (in another open forum) that I need you all. I need the support I get here. Also, people have many different levels of education and that is fine, because we are all individuals with manny different backgrounds. So one person may not sound as educated as the next person, but so what??? We are all human and that is what it comes down to. I do not think Steely Ann has posted anything that looks "suspicious" and if that makes me too trusting oh well. I am not going to let a troll push me out of here and I am just going to show as much kindness as I can. What people do with my kindness is on them, not me. Sort of like giving to your church. You can only give with a glad heart, if the church squanders the money that is on them. I just don't like all the accusations out here and I don't want to feel like I am on pins and needles when I post. As I said this morning, I love you all.....~Shannah~

[Steeley Ann]

Thank you, I know my brain works faster then my hands many of times, I bit dislexet and I know I spelt it wrong forgive me but you know what I mean.

[Bailee5]

You are welcome and I still just love your name!!!! :)

[Steeley Ann]

One more thing that Bailee5 didn't add, There is alot of people who post alot, Why? cus they enjoy this site and enjoy each other. So what I jumped in and tried to helpful and be friendly.

[Steeley Ann]

Thank's I'm not sure why my parents named me that but it's different lol.

And there I went again my brain jumped ahead of myself. on my last post.

[nurse12hr]

You know, I should have just kept my mouth shut.  I am not going to post another word about it.

NOWHERE did I mention a name.  There IS a distinctive look to the posts, primarily I said we welcome new people here to be caring and nice, and to just be careful.

I didn't say to be rude to anyone, I didn't say to humiliate anyone, I didn't say to do anything other than to be careful.

I said NOT to get all worked up over who this was.  That is not important.  I also said I didn't mean to stir up a controversy.

I just said to be careful.  I'll stand by that.
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Now, on to lighter subjects.  I will not say another word on this subject.

[Mandy13]

They didn't really say when it will return to 0.  I just called the nurse back and I guess I didn't hear her right.  My HCG Level is at 234 (not 34). DARN!  Well, I asked what my Level was when I went in for my D&C.  It was at 68000.  It has only been 2 weeks.  So it has came down quite a bit.  She said that I might get AF before I even reach 0.  We will see...I go back for more blood work next week.

[Steeley Ann]

christie
(15-Jul-04) Steeley Ann I hope you don't have the awful problems with PPD that you had last time, Melissa. Are you sure you are ready for this, so soon?


I didn't want to bring that up but since you insest that you didn't say any names then please be so kind to tell me what that is about!

[Bailee5]

Another thing that I thought about ws the name Steely Ann is definately not a good "made up" name. I mean "Melissa" yes or Sarah or Jill or anything more common, but to go as far as to make up Steely Ann. I just can't see that being a "fake" name. Does that make sense to anyone else???

[Bailee5]

I love you too and I don't want you to think I was coming down on you. I just want everyone to feel good about being able to post here. I do understand your concern and it is never fun to get burned by someone. I think we will all be careful and try to keep an eye on things. Your support is wonderful and you have given me so much great info, so please do not misunderstand me! :)

~Shannah~

[platinum]

Sooooooooo.... any interesting plans for the weekend?!?!?!

[Steeley Ann]

Sunday We are going to my inlaws, Dh's Grandparents are comeing in and they have never seen Jordan (my ds). Thats going to be exciteing.

[tresmathews]

I am going camping and tubing with my DH. It will be so nice. DD being on Vaction with my MIL has been a god send to use we needed a little one on one time. Anyone else got any plans?

[Emma1]

I think enough is enough!!!! Let it go. I understand completely where christie is coming from, b/c I've been here when the ordeals have gone down and yes you do want to be careful. I do have to say that no one is intending or trying to hurt anyone's feelings and that Christie has been a BIG help to all of us. We want anyone and everyone on here to feel welcome and come as often as they would like......

But I'm hoping, that I speak for a lot of us when I say, it's time to let this one drop. It's Friday, we all have the weekend to look forward to, and it's doing nothing but taking up posting space that someone else may need for help.

Now...((((HUGS to EVERYONE))) and let's call it a day on this issue!!!!

[Bailee5]

Hey! I am going to be nosey (and I just said the other day I hated nosey people...lol) What is your DH's occupation?? And if you tell me he is an oil magnate I will start calling you Melissa!!!! :)

PS- That was only meant as a joke because you think Houston and you think oil! I have been to Houston and loved it. My DH was Army (currently Reserves) and we actually were stationed at Fort Bliss for a year. I did not like El Paso at all, but I loved many of the other places we visited. We went and saw alot in Arizona to. What was so hard was getting used to the lack of humidity. It is so humid here in the south and El Paso was crazy dry. I would be burning up and it was like the sweat evaporated right off my body! We even got chapped lips on the drive out because the air just changed so drastically and sucked us dry!!! :)

[Bailee5]

I am sewing Emma1's crib set and curtains and covering her rocker-glider cushions! DH has Reserves this weekend so I am free to sew until my heart's content or DS interrupts me!!! :)

[hther]

I really wish I had your email! I admire you for speaking your mind. I know you KNOW my opinion on the subject.Hmmmm? Thank you for trying to look out for everyone here. You are an asset to this board!

[tresmathews]

Sounds like fun! I am so excited about this trip even though I am bringing AF along.

[Debra_Maine]

I would just like to say something as someone new to this site. I can understand that having been burned before the "oldies" are skeptical of anyone that would be suspicious since that Melissa person used two names. But I think it is impossible to prove anyone is her based on bad spelling. A lot of people are horrible spellers and as a new person here, I want to come in with an open mind and give everyone trust until they show me they don't deserve it. To Christie, it sounds like you felt such a betrayal and I do empathize with you for that, but I haven't read anything malicious or deceitful by Steeley Ann and as a new person, everyone has a clean slate as far as I'm concerned. It was quite disheartening to read all the bickering today. I come here for advice, support and comfort. Today I didn't feel any of that. I won't stop coming because of it, but we should all try to remember why we come here. Thanks for letting me have my say :o)

[Angel4JohnnyB]

JUST SO YOU KNOW........
I DON'T THINK YOU ARE CRAZY OR MEAN AT ALL.
I SEE IT ALSO AND WORRY THAT THE NEWBIES WILL FALL PREY TO WHAT WE "OLDIES" DID AWHILE BACK.
HUGS,
VIKKI

[24_going_on_44]

I was just checking out this site, and thinking about chatting but I am in no way interested in all this crazyness. I have enough drama in my life as it is, and I am not such a great speller eather. So, I am going to ask my questions somewhere else, but I just had to comment on it because it is so weird to me. I was under the impression that most of the people that would be here were adults, but the things being discussed are very immature and unattractive and is the last thing I as a 24 yr old adult w/my own issues wants anything to do with, so see ya! Wont be coming back here!