Am I Stuck with Jayden Forever?

I know the sound of my title is horrific.  What I'm referring to is our sleeping arrangement.  I think everyone remembers the dilemma of getting Jayden to sleep in his crib and not in our bed.  Well he sleeps in his crib only because we removed on side and made it into a side car pressed against our bed.  So in the middle of the night I wake up and he's either half way in his bed and half on ours or he's mysteriously crawled into our bed.  I'm just afraid that he will get used to this and when the day comes that he has his own room, that he won't sleep in there.  I'm co-sleeping with a 19 month old.  Even when he was a newborn he slept in his own basinett.  How do I fix this?  UGH!!!

[pinkbelle]

start out by keeping him beside the bed but put the sides up.. the first couple of nights will be rough .. he will probably throw a fit scream and bawl but he will eventually get used to it.. then after that move him a little further from the bed and then into his own room.. just take baby steps. move at a pace that is comfortable for him..good luck!

[mami1323]

That's a good idea, thanks.  I think we may be trying to put the bars inbetween the crib and our bed tonight to see if that helps.

[montie2]

Ok, confession time. Rhett sleeps with us. It is horrible. I never get a good nights rest and I will be starting from scratch to try to get him back in his crib. I haven't started the transition yet because I have to work, I can't stay up all night.  I'm dreading it.  

My daughter slept with us until she was ten or eleven.  I think it's called a working parent guilt trip.  

[AnnieBrooke]

My son used to sleep with us but now he wants his own space.  It might just be a matter of giving it some time rather than forcing the issue.

[Me2mommy2b]

mami, I still cosleep with DD (who'll be 3 in September).  I never good a good night's sleep b/c she constantly hits me but I hope she'll soon be ready for her own bed.  I'm not cut out for the screaming so I give in :(

[GRose]

I am now in the same predicament you are in, he was doing so good but then my laziness and Joe's work schedule got in the way. Noah throws fits at nap time so I gave in started letting him nap with me because I am too tired  to deal with it and I need a nap as well. The nighttime co-sleeping happened because Joe works 1pm-1am most night so he sleeps during the day and doesn't see Noah so he wants  to cuddle with him at night.

It stinks, you want to spend time and snuggle with your little boy but at the same time you need your own space and need to bread this bad habit. I really need to crack down and get Noah into his own bed EVERY night before this baby comes or else my life is going to be a living hell.

I wish us both lots of luck! lol

[chantal21]

Ok...I must be the only one. I have always wanted my son to sleep with us. Not all the time, but on occassion, it would be nice if he actually WANTED to sleep with mommy and daddy. Sometimes on rainy nights we like to cuddle, but he won't fall asleep with us. And if he does (this has happened not even a handful of times), he doesn't sleep well. lol. Weird child I have. He would much rather be in his crib.

You could definitely put the rails up and keep the crib next to your bed just to get him used to it. And then slowly move the crib away from the bed. You may end up with some crying/screaming nights, but if you can get through it, it will be worth it! I hope it works out soon for ya.

[CYW]

you know i used to be a co-sleeper and around 3 i grew outof it...i still would climb in bed with my parents at times till about the age of 9...they do grow out of it..at oe point they get independant.. see cameron will fall asleep in his bed by himself (as long as i sit beside him) in the day but forget about it at night...he does but wake ups every few hours

[mami1323]

Well at least I'm not alone...thank goodness.  We just received our queen sized bed and Jayden stayed on his crib until the morning.  I added extra padding.  Well at least we have more room now.  Thanks ladies.

[tatorbug40]

I had a friend down here who co-slept with both of her kids, and because of what she went through my kids have been in their cribs in their own room since day 1 (well, day 3, since we were in the hospital) anyway...  I know she got frustrated because BOTH the kids were in her and her husbands bed...  they slowly transitioned to sleeping in their own rooms... they are 6 and 4 now, and they sleep in their own beds,  she had to transition to her DS (4yr.) to the trundle bed in her DD's room first-  then to his own room....  I know it is frustrating, but I think you'll either need to do the few nights screaming (which I know would be hard for me, I'd cave) or wait it out, and eventually he will be big enough to transition because you can reason with him better as he gets older...  good luck!

[GRose]

Chantal- Noah used to be that way, then one day he stopped wanting his own space and bed times became a struggle, I think it was around when we switched him out of the crib and into the toddler bed.

[mami1323]

Thanks tator....he was never like this.  He always slept in his crib.  This is something new that he just started doing a few months ago.  I guess I will have to wait until he gets older.  I just wished he still enjoyed his own crib...lol.

[chantal21]

Gina...I am not looking forward to switching him to a toddler bed yet...lol. I know I have quite a few more months, but then I think he will feel obligated to get up and come in our room whenever he wants to. I'm sure we will have problems when we do the switch. His independent self, may just want to crawl into bed with mommy and daddy at that point. haha.