**********************Another Open Forum Sunday*************************

[capermom]

Jeepers, the other open forum is getting full already. I thought I'd better get another one open. Hopes it's ok with everyone.

Holy smokes, you guys sure fooled me. It's only 10 am here and it's getting full. I just made a big breakfast for the boys and myself, DH is still in bed, LAZY BUTT.

I am in panic mode the last couple of days. I'm almost to the point of panic attacks. I'm waking up through the night worrying. I don't feel pregnant at all. The sickness is gone altogether and I'm really worried. My bb's are still sore but not like they were and I don't seem to be as swollen in the belly as I was the past few weeks. I actually looked pregnant, I just don't feel as big or something. This is really affecting me.

Does anyone else feel this way or did at 9 weeks? I am so worried.

[Metallic_Angel1]

HI there.. I was just wondering where you are from u said its 10 am i think were in the same areacode? maybe not..i was just wondering. For your worry.. i'm not sure bvecause i have never actually carried a baby to term or anything but if i was that worried i would stop by a clinic or th ehospital today just to ease my mind.

ANna

[sthomab]

I know its easy for me too say this but you have to try and stop worrying so much.  It is honestly not good for the baby.  You just have to try and be positive that this is the pregnancy that is gonna stick till the end.  I hate to see you going through all this stress.  I just have a good feeling about you and this baby.  Remember that the least stress you put yourself through the better for the baby.  I am currently 27 weeks and still freak out about somethings so I know it is not easy.  I just keep reminding myself that everything will work out for the best.  Good luck and think positive!  Suzie

[nurse12hr]

It is so hard not to worry, but please try to get your mind off of it somehow.  All that stress/panic creates an elevation in stress hormones, which are not good for you.

  Meditate. Read. Stay away from the forums if you have too (depressing stuff of late). Listen to music.  Take long walks. Buy yourself something expensive and nice.  (Stop feeling your bbs to see if they are still sore!)

There no possible positive thing that excessive worry can do for you or your baby.  On the other hand, creating a calm, happy, relaxing frame of mind can do wonders.

If you would, drop me a line ***@****  I want to ask you something.  

explaination for everyone:  I do not correspond off the board, but have a specific question for capermom.  Thanks.

[capermom]

Hi Christie, I've just emailed you. I'll keep an watch for yours. Chat with you soon.

[capermom]

I've decided to rent a fetal heart doppler. I need to know which are better to rent. There is Dynamic or Belly Beats. They both look very good but it's hard to tell. Any suggestions. I want one asap.

[shelbert6]

I have never used a home doppler, so I can't suggest an opinion.  However, I have read many of the posts on here about the home dopplers and most, in my observations, have referred to the brand "Belly Beats."  I don't think I have heard of Dynamic in these posts.  

Regards,
Shelly

[nurse12hr]

In our hospital, we use a brand similar to this, but waterproof.

http://www.storkradio.com/dopplers.php?c1=ppc&source=trafficlogic

Obviously, you don't need a waterproof one at home!  We use them for water births.

[sthomab]

I rented a belly beats doppler and it was wonderful.  I listened to the heartbeat every other day.(I didnt want to become to obsessive listening every day)  I sent it back once I started to feel him kick on a regular basis.  I rented the one which counts the beats per minute but I think the regular one is fine.  Good luck!

[capermom]

Hey girl, thanks for the reply. How soon did you hear the heartbeat. I am 9 weeks and hoping I can hear it within a week or two.

[capermom]

Not to be a b**ch or anything but I think all the new posts up above are her! The names seem to be made up by the same person. That is what I think anyway. It's really too bad for those who are new and have to be ignored. I'm very sorry for this!

[Metallic_Angel1]

you weren't talking about me were you? i'm definitly not melissa.. you can e-mail me is\f you want to be sure but my name is anna and i just like to sign my posts because it adds a personal touch

[hther]

I agree. Usually Sundays are slow days for postings and all of a sudden there are all these new ppl? It is horrible for the ppl who are really here for advice, but what can you do?

[cazip]

Hey Everyone....I can finally test tomorrow morning.  I'm going to buy a test tonight...wow I was really excited at the start of writing this post, and just as I was typing DH and I get into a fight.  Now i'm not so excited.  Sucky :(

[kimbo10]

so basically because I am new here I shouldn't bother posting any more questions? I am not quite sure who this Melissa person is that everyone is so upset with. I am however, very sorry that she deceived all of you. My name is Kimi. I am 24 years old and a student at CSUCI in Camarillo CA. My email address through the school is kimberly.***@****.

[sthomab]

I heard the heartbeat when I was around 10 weeks.  It was very difficult at first but then I got the hang of it.  There were days that it would take me 30 minutes to find the hearbeat, but I eventually did.  I know how you worry so much so dont get discouraged if there are days that you dont hear it.  I think it is normal.

[Metallic_Angel1]

my e-mail addy is ***@****  I live in charlottetown pei and all though im newish (since i started coming here in april) i dont think i have said anything to make people mad or upset them.  If anything i am extremly upset that the poeple that made me feel better about having my second miscarriage in my life are making me feel bad about sharing it with them. I think you should realize just because people are new doesn't mean that they are not new people with actual problems.
   Im am so sad to see that one person caused this mess.. I feel awful that she did what she did but how can everyone blame everyone who comes here that is new???  Doesn't that defeat the purpose of this forum? which i thought was to help people out when they had a genuine need.  The reason why i think you believe i a am a troll is because no on is answerng my messages.  I thought that you gusy would nbe a good support team for me since i was still having trouble with my own m/c happening not too long ago. (april 14)
    I casn't believe i am this upset since i have never actually met any of you. But all can do is sit here and cry because i thougth you guys actually cared about the fact that i was haviung a hard time.  Yes i havent been talking alot on the forum lately because i have been so upset about my m/c. But i have been reading and since this melissa thing happened no one will say anything to me.  
   I felt so close to you all.  But before i go and sit with my fiance adam and tell him why i am crying so hard i just want you to think aboutone thing.  Not everyone who is new is melisa and not everyone who is new and had a m/c is lying and that you shouldn't judge anyone who is new until you actually really know for sure who that person is.  
   I thank you for all your previous help even if you revoked it now. And i hope that you take what i have had to say to heart because you cant blame everything bad on new people because there are otehrs out there like me who actually need suport and help.

[Hope2BAMommy]

Hey Cheesetoo. Just read your post from Sat. Thanks for thinkin of me. Yesturday afternoon my DH finally figured out that I was pregnant again when I still wouldn't have sex. Poor love, he thought that stress of m/c and us fighting caused me to loose my attraction to him. When I said I was scared to have sex he's like "Are you pregnant again?!" He had no idea at all, but was extremely happy about it and started to cry tears of joy. We did BD softly! Today my breasts are very sore and I'm still nauseous - feeling pregnant for sure. I'm going to try not to worry. How are you doing? I pray your grief subsides soon.  (((HUGS)))

Capermom. Oh hun I'm so sorry you are worrying so about yur pregnacny, but I TOTALLY understand. I agree though, it's probably all OK and is not good for baby to be all stressed. Try to get hold of your doctor tomorrow for some assurance about fluctuating sumptoms. These one's are gonna stick!!

[blondie72]

Hey metallic_angel - I do not think anyone thinks you are a troll.  I have seen you on the board and I have seen your posts answered.  I have said this a hundred times it seems in the past 2 days but I am very sorry for anyone who comes on here that is new.  I can't believe one person could do this to all of us.  I will try to answer questions as best as I can but I am going to get right to the point from now on I think and be a little blunt for the most part to anyone who is new but I think as long as your question gets answered that is all that should matter don't you think?????

[tweetyiniowa]

Ok, for the record, the ONLY reason I came in here this weekend is because I had my appointment on Friday April 30 and that is when they couldn't find my baby, just a gestational sac. After hearing that kind of news the first thing I felt the need to do was to try and find SOMEONE who had went through a similar experience. Through a yahoo search engine, typing in empty gestational sac, I found this site.  The ones who have responded to my question have been very kind, but after hearing all this talk about "Melissa" and then accusations of other newbies on here, I can't help but wonder if people are thinking the same thing about me. It seems like major paranoia on here!  Whether "Melissa" is on here or not, you guys are completely letting this person win!! Don't you see that?  If she is on here, she is seeing you people isolate innocent newbies STRICTLY because they happen to have problems this weekend and not during the week. Or oh my God, they sign their name at the end of their message!!  I do that because I too like to personalize my message...didn't know it was a crime.  I do it on my other regular board as well.  This is soo sad...and because of this paranoia not only are you depriving people such as myself of your experiences, you are giving "melissa" one heck of a rush!  In my opinion, "Melissa" may as well be the moderator of this site, because she is running the show anyway.  I really do appreciate all the women who posted and left their kind comments...it made me feel soo much better.  Capermom...I feel for you..."melissa" must have really, really hurt you....but by you isolating others who can benefit from you....you are in truth, isolating yourself.  Don't let her win. Please.  For me and all the other LEGIT newbies, please don't let her win.  
Lots of love and best wishes,
ROBIN

[newmommy1231]

i agree with robin but my thought doesnt count because eveyone wants me out.
amanda

[cazip]

well ladies, I tested tonight ( a little early)CD27 but I got a BFN... :(  still wanting to hope I could be pg...but guessing I'm probably not.  Any thoughts? *sigh*

[JustME9]

Hey, don't rule out pregnancy yet! I had a bunch of negatives before a positive with my second and third pregnancies...strange and i don't know why but i was still pregnant! Goodluck and keep us posted! =)

[stinasmom]

My daughter never did get a positive with her baby. The only positive was blood. You never can tell.

[tweetyiniowa]

Ok amanda, can we please stop with the poor me attitude?  If you are legit yes it is sad, but for you to keep repeating the same thing over and over is only stirring the pot and making you look more suspicious, because a normal person would have either moved on or forgiven, not keep repeating over and over again "you dont want me here" "everyone wants me out".  I only wrote that to try and help them, not hurt them. I think "Melissa" has done that enough. If you are seriously concerned about your baby, this isn't the only forum you are on anyway....so if you can't get the info you need or love you need from this one, flip back to the other one.  I am out to get information that is it...and that should be your only concern as well. I only said something because I don't like it when people hurt others who are hurting enough already and I just wanted them to know that not everyone out there is as hateful as what they had been exposed to. If you can't help them to try and move on...take what you know and go.  
Best of luck to all!
Robin

[blondie72]

Well said.  I couldn't have said it better myself.  I totally agree with all that you have said.  I think we all need to put Melissa behind us and move on.

[Kassimom]

LMAO-Totally agree with Tweety! I just have to laugh though at the id who keeps on with the whole "Nobody loves me, everybody hates me, guess I'll go eat worms"

[tweetyiniowa]

I love that saying!! haha  I always say that to my kids when they start in. When I was a kid my mom used to call my sister and I: Whimper and Whine...remember the Electric Company show on PBS? It is from that...she used to sing that song..drove us nuts!!! Someday my kids will hate the worm song as well...lol
Take care!
Robin