Another Topic - Sleeping/Co-sleeping Etc.

This is not meant to become an argument on here.  Everyone sleeps the way they want with or without their children.  I have always had dd in her own cradle then crib.  BUT I always rocked her to sleep first.  When she was little I would read to her and she would fall asleep and now that I cant ready to her unless I tie her hands down (kidding) she will tear the book up I rock her and sing to her until she falls asleep.  I personally feel that is my job and reward for being mommy.  I work hard all day and dont really get to enjoy her like I wish I could so that is our time.  Well yesterday the doctor told me that she tosses and turns and wakes up during the night because I am not there anymore.  I was there when she fell asleep and now I am gone.  It would be like me going to sleep in my bed and waking up on the kitchen floor.  She told me to put her in her crib and leave.  Just lay her down and then leave again if she gets up but she has to fall asleep on her own...

What do you mom's thing?  I will never do this.  Sorry - just wont I want to rock her to sleep and although I know she sleeps better with me in our bed I will just continue to get up when she wakes up during the night to re-assure her she is ok and then she will go right back to sleep in her crib.  She only sleeps with us when she is sick or it is too hot in her room like last night.

There are so many baby rules it drives me nuts.  I got those breathable bumpers finally - haha - no more lost legs.

[GNicole]

I still do the same thing with Avery. I give her a bedtime bottle and rock her to sleep. Sometimes I put her in her bed if she won't fall asleep but I usually end up getting her out again in 5-10 minutes if she doesn't fall asleep-she rarely falls asleep on her own. I can't just leave her in there screaming-it breaks my heart.  I am glad to hear she has no more lost legs!! haha :)

[newbie2b]

Hey Kim.. glad to hear she's doing better! Listen, I've learned in my WHOLE year as a mommy, that you cant listen to what everyone says.  Even sometimes, I feel, Dr's dont know best.  We were given motherly instincts for a reason.  Besides, what did we do when their weren't Dr's so readily available to us? Instincts.
I say, do what's in your heart.  If that is your time together, and believe me, I understand about not having enough quiet/quality time, then do it. She will get use to it.  Just my two cents!

[becca_3456]

Hi I just wanted to say that DD had been sleeping in our room in her bassinet then a week ago I moved her to her room in her crib(DH idea not mine). I have had to let her cry it out even though I HATED it. It was the only way she would go to sleep I tried rocking her but the minute I put her in her crib she was screaming for me to pick her up. She still wakes up 2 times in the night which is driving me nuts but I dont know how to make her sleep all night. She seems very restless at night and I can her moving all night on the monitor.  DD is having separation anxiety even though I am a SAHM she wants me all day long and cries when I try to do anything but hold her:)

If you want to keep rocking her to sleep then thats what you should do. I felt SO bad when I let DD cry but for my sanity I had to. If I ever have another child I will make sure to put them in their own crib from the start so I dont have to worry about scaring my child for life if I let them cry it out:) Good luck with everything and I hope it gets easier.

[deanne11]

First of all.....I don't know about the Drs comments....I don't think her waking up at night is because of you and what you are doing.

Abby is almost 4 and I still lay down with her and read, rub her back and tell her stories.  She'll fall asleep and/or almost be asleep then I leave....she sleeps through the night fine...in fact we have to wake her every morning for school.

now Jake - I'd love to hold him and rock him...he's still little....but he wants nothing to do with me at sleep time....he wants nobody when he's ready to sleep, just wants to be left alone.  He wants his milk and then to be laid down.  He'll drink his milk and fall asleep.  Immediately when I lay him down, he rolls to his side with his bottle, smiles at me and closes his eyes.....

Every kid has different sleeping habits.