BABY BOY

I ALREADY HAVE A GIRL. NOW I WANT A BOY, SOMEWHERE THIS YEAR. CAN ANYONE PLEASE TELL ME WHEN IS THE BEST TIME TO START?

[40smama]

I've no idea - if you're trying for a boy, I'm told that to bd close to or on ovulation  - the theory is that a man's male sperm lives shorter than the female kind but again, not sure of that.  Maybe you can google it......

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

i think boys are born in the winter months i got preggo in feb my last period was um but who knows

[peekawho]

My only advice is that if you are more interested in the sex of the baby, rather than having a child to raise for the next 20 years, wait a little while.

You cannot guarantee having a boy over a girl.  Wait until you are ready to welcome a child of either sex into your family.  

Good luck!

[sbumblebeeo]

I know how you feel.  I want a little girl sooooo bad.  I have done a lot of reading about trying to determine the sex of my first child.  Dr. Schettle (sp?) is a doctor from the 70's that has an entire book and theory on it.  You can also google it to find the key points of his theory.  There are also clinics that can almost gaurentee the sex you want but it is expensive and very clinical.  I don't want my chold conceived in a hospital unless there was no other way but that is just MY choice.  You should check it out.

peekawho~ This does not mean that either of us would be disappointed with the opposite sex.  Any child is truly a gift.

[deanne11]

It's chance....Whichever sperm gets there first?  Right?
Sperm determines it.
My hubby and I always laugh about how the 'strongest sperm survives'!

[sbumblebeeo]

That is some what true but if you start taking into consideration that y spern dies first and only x sperm is left when ovulation occures then there can be more to it.  I highly recommend googling Dr. Shettle.

[deanne11]

But it's still chance....Chance that y doesn't die and x isn't quite there yet....Look it's a 50-50 shot, I guess I don't understand the whole I want this.....

Not judging any one just saying....

I guess if you are really looking at it and charting it.  But then you have to know exactly when you ovulate...blah blah blah....

I just can't plan sex that way....I have a 8 mos old and an almost 4 yr old....sex happens when it happens.

My next baby (if there is a next baby)....will be whatever is intended for me

[sbumblebeeo]

Well than you ought to thank your lucky stars b/c some of us do not have the luxury of "sex happens when it happens".  I have to chart every day to see if I even ovulate and then I have to take hormone pills to bring on a period and I may only get one chance at have a child b/c of my medical issues.  While I would NOT be disappointed with a baby boy I would be sad for a long time if I never got my little girl.  It may be a 50-50- shot but there are things you can try to increase the odds.  If it works great, if not then you've lost nothing.  Why not give it a shot?

[deanne11]

I'm not that lucky....3 of my baby girls died in utero.

[deanne11]

And there is a difference between having to chart your cycle to become pregnant and chart your cycle to get a specific gender child.

I'm just extremely grateful to have 2 healthy live children....no matter what their gender.

[cantwait4baby]

I would think this is one of those fake posts.  I really cant imagine that anyone would really come right out and say that they only want one sex over the other.  I mean yes, I wanted a girl when I was pregnant I think most women do but then I sort of wanted a boy because they are so darn cute and sweet too.  I did not even find out the sex because it really did not matter and I wanted to be suprised.  Boy or Girl does not matter what matters is that you are blessed with a child that many others are not.  I had a girl I was so happy but I would have been just as happy with a boy.  If I had 10 boys I am sure I would want the 11th to be a girl but never would I have said it out loud to hurt baby #11's feelings.  

Deanne - can you imagine 4 Abby's?  hahaha  I am sure you would love every second of it but wow, can you just imagine.  hahaha  We love Jake!  4 big sisters poor baby would have gone nuts when he turned 16.  :)

[deanne11]

No - I can't imagine 4 girls all of Abby's nature...LOL
I'd turn into Mommie Dearest....

but with that said....Abby is the first born...girl....So strong willed but the determination, love and loyalty she displays to those close to her is amazing!  Even her her darkest of tantrums, Jake will bring a smile to her face.

He is so mild mannered and sweet.  She really needed him.

Also - I am a bad mom...I did say out loud when Jake was in my belly,  I wanted another girl....not because I didn't want a boy but because I didn't know what to do with his man parts!!!  LOL  I was so scared of to circumsize or not to circumsize....LOL

[cantwait4baby]

I would be scared too of a boy and of course I would like one next time but I would also love another girl so I will be equally happy.  But scared of boy parts.  haha

[deanne11]

Well, obviously we aren't that scared of boy parts....haha

[cantwait4baby]

hahaha - funny

[GNicole]

You girls are too much! :)

[mami1323]

If you are trying so hard to conceive then you should be happy for whatever you get.  I tried for almost 2 years to get pregnant and I couldn't give a rats a@@ if it was a boy or a girl.  I was just happy to get pregnant at all.  deanne is 100% right, just be grateful to get a healthy baby.  

[April2]

You know, I think sometimes we think we know what we want and then we're surprised and wind up realizing it didn't matter. My first was a boy and I was happy. I was mainly happy he was healthy, etc. With my second I kinda secretly hoped for a girl since I aleady had a boy but I didn't let myself think about it too much. I was sure it was another boy and didn't even pick out a girls name. I was surpised when I had a girl that time. She was the first granddaughter born in our family. I was sure I was done at that point! Several years later we had a surprise pregnancy. We were stunned. My grandmother had recently died and we were all still grieving from that. My daughter had a dream one night (before I told ANYONE that I suspected I was pregnant. I was just starting to wonder actually) that I had a baby girl. Again, I was stunned that she'd have a dream like that. So, I thought I was having a girl with my third. I was so sure that I was surprised when they did the ultrasound and said it was a boy. He was born one year to the day that we buried my grandmother. I felt like that was some sort of sign. That's why I wanted to name him Lucas which means "bringer of light" because he brought such joy to our lives in a time where we had had three deaths in our family in three years, ending with my grandmother's death. We felt like it was God's way of telling us that he was bringing new life where there was death. He's almost four now and such an incredible blessing to us all. He's so sweet and loving. I can't even imagine life without him. And I'm glad he's a boy! To tell you the truth, I think I'm more comfortable around boys. They're not as emotional as girls, lol. I'm just saying, I thought I wanted a girl but I'm SO glad he is who he is. God knew what he was doing. I think he knew I might not be able to handle another girl with all the drama I've gone through with my teenage daughter, lol. Not that boys don't have their stuff but they're just different, you know? Anyway, sorry I'm rambling here. I guess my point is, you will have what you're meant to have. The most important thing is that the baby is healthy. You know you will love whatever you have.

[Jenn710]

I have 2 girls and so very badly want a boy. for 2 reasons I have 2 GIRLS and the other is my Husband is the last of his line in the family name and we want a boy to carry that on, but cannot afford to spend the thousands of dollars to do invetro. but I want a 100% guarantee what can i do.

[RockRose]

Jenn,  I don't know how much this costs, but you can have sperm centrifuged and it will separate the Y from the X.

It's done in cases where you,  for health reasons,  have to have one gender or the other - usually selecting for girls because many genetic conditions only affect boys - or affect boys more severely.

If you have to be 100% sure just because you prefer to have a boy,  don't try again.  That's not a parent's love.

BTW,  we tried to tip the odds for having a girl,   after having a boy and had two more boys.   The OB said if you're trying for a boy,   and do all the timing stuff,  your chances to have a boy go up to about 60/40.  The usual chances of conceiving a boy are about 55/45.

Trying for a girl doesn't even make that much difference,  he said.