Baby and coneption problems

[jessiebaby5]

Hello, I was on my period on Feb 20th, though I think I started in on Feb 18 or 19. I took a pregnancy test on March 22nd, and it said I was pregnant.
i am really scared. I cheated on my husband this month, only once and with a condom that didnt break to my knowlegde. I had sex with this man on the late night of March 12 early morning march 13th. This happended only once. I had sex with my husband the week before.
I am frightened and dont know what I would do if there is any possibliltiy the child could be a result of my infidelity. Is it even remotely possible I concieved on March 12-13th with a condom, given i took a pregnancy test on March 22nd that came out positive? For some background information, i had a period January 21st, was on a period on Feb 20th (though I may have started earlie).
I would really appreciate your help.

[carolyn55806]

It is possible that you conceived when you cheated, but much more likely that you conceived with your husband. You probably ovulated on or around the 1st week of March.....that is the GENERAL time frame, and if you used a condom then there is even less of a chance. The only way to know for sure would be a paternity test. Perhaps you should also examine whether or not you should keep this baby seeing as you seem to have an unhealthy relationship with your hubby and there are many people out there waiting to adopt. However- it is very unlikely that the other man is the father, so good luck------

[angelkiekie mother of three]

Hun I agree with her, but I also know how you feel it is scary but I am here for if I can be of any support just let me know.


Nicci

[cinnamonheart]

Okay I should probably keep my mouth shut(right girls)
These are questions you should ask your self!
What is the reason for cheating? Is it healthy to bring a child into the middle of this? If you were trying to get pregnant than I would suggest not sleeping with other men because now the situation has gone from bad to worse.  Not only about the infidelity part- but now the paternity of this child is being questioned
I hope this is your husbands baby and you can mend your relationship I dont know if your husband knows of the situation?because over time  guilt can really eat away at you (well that is if you feel guilty about it)

[robin1979]

It sounds like to me the baby is your hubbies. I hope and pray it is, you may want to bring it up to the doc. He has to maintain the patient, doc confidentially pact. Or he looses his license. He may be able to shed some light on the situation and you may be able to get a paternity test without the hubby knowing if he chosses not to know. Some men would rather not know his his wife cheated, my husband has expressed this, and if he had on me i would not want to know, as long as he didn't bring anything home to me. You may want to start throwing hints at your hubby just to see what he would do about cheating and a baby that wasn't his just to see how he would react before hand. I hope it all goes well, keep us posted.

[cinnamonheart]

Robin-- Wow Im amazed you wouldnt want to know that your husband was cheating on you.
Hell I would want to know so I could kick him to the curb
I wouldnt want to be in a marriage if he cheated

[lovinmom]

I don't think I would bring it up with your husband how he would react if you cheated and got pregnant with the man.  Then when you present to your husband that you are pregnant, he will be suspicious.  Looking at my ovulation chart, there is a chance that you ovulated either the 4th or 5th of March considering you have a 27 -28 day cycle.  If you have a longer cycle such as a 33 - 35 day cycle, then your ovulation period could have been around the 12th.  I am curious what you cycle is?  I do hope that this child is your husband's.  I believe every child is a blessing.  I know that when my husband and I had our first daughter, it really brought healing to our marriage.  I hope that this child does the same.  Take care.