Continuation of discharge after sex

[Sunshine912]

How many women here have gone through this of passing discharge and blood after sex. My husband is scared to touch me now. How do I reassure him and myself that it will be OK. Even though the Dr sad that everything looks good, my husband has distanced himself now from me and I don't want that to happen. He said today that he is scared and doesn't want to come near me. HELP!
I am very sad.

[kissyrox]

Im so sorry that is very painful I know, even though it feels like rejection it's fear. Is this your first baby? My husband and I EXPERENCED the same problem in both pregnacy's. But when my husband relaxed in the first preg was after we went for a exam the doctor made a statment there may be a little spotting just cause sometimes the exams bother a closed cervix theres nothing to worry about. My husband did better after that. Men seem to have as many fears as we do when preg they just dont voice them thats what my husband told me. It will be okay. Good luck

[jifnif]

after a m/c and bleeding w/ this pregnancy my dh is hesitant to touch me.  we are abstaining from bd til our first appt but in the meantime we experiment w/ some other nonpenetration things. spend some time together just being intimate.  there are other things to help both of you feel that sexy feeling w/out bd.  best wishes.

[Sunshine912]

This is my third pegnancy and I spotted with my second but it was more like implantation bleeding. I am now going on 10 weeks and it gave us a scare. If my Dh doesn't want to then I will do as you mentioned also, Jifnif. But it does sadden me that I can't please my husband in the way he likes. I also have to put my baby first and make sure that the baby is OK. Thank you both for your kindness and replying.

[cowgirlup96]

I too bleed after intercourse depending on the position we did.  I had bleeding from 2wks-8wks and then it stopped and now only after exams and intercourse occassionally I get the spotting.  Its just irritation from the cervix. My boyfriend doesn't seem to mind it.  He has 2 children and I have one all from previous marriages so we are not new at this. LOL. I wouldn't worry too much unless its alot of bleeding.  The discharge is the semen and your cervical mucus.  Because your cervix is closed it has to exit somewhere.  I know its gross but its also natural.

[jifnif]

was there a set amount of time you waited after spotting before you bd again?

[cowgirlup96]

No we bd again that same night.... the spotting will usually subside after a little while.  It is just irritation from hitting the cervix.  I know I went in for an exam and I was bleeding and I left there at around 5:30pm and I was still bleeding a good amount from the exam and about 4 hours later I went and wiped and there was no more blood so we bd that night.  The first time there was no blood the second time there was more spotting but I don't worry too much about it.  If it was a lot and if it was causing me to hemorrage then I think I would worry.  I even get cramps from having intercourse too and I am only 3 months along.  I cramp for several hours after.  This too is normal.  I had this with my first pregnancy as well.  That was 10 years ago.

[cmn]

With DD i started spotting after sex also, i was about 7wks but DH and I got really scared we went to the ER. The Dr there checked everything out, said that my cervix was closed tight and that it was just form sex. She told me to wait a week or two before having sex again, DH was very scared when we started having sex again. It never happened aging after that one incident, and with this pregnancy it hasn't happened at all so i think all pregnancies are different when it comes to that too.

[wannabmommy]

I am 5w pg and I am scared to death of BDing. I just had 2 m/c's and so I am sso afraid of losing this one too.So far this pregnancy is going great.I haven't had any spotting/bleeding and I really don't want to take a chance of spotting from bding. I am jsut doing so good I don't want or ruin it.Am I just being paranoid???Is anyone else going through this?

[AndiJ.78]

Honestly, yeah you are probably being overly paranoid. The old saying is that you can't knock a good egg loose. There are always exceptions, but unless there are previously dx conditions or restrictions from the OB, sex is okay.

I had the same problem with my youngest, anytime we had sex or anytime i had a pelvic, I spotted. I, too, was freaked out as i had experienced 4 m/c, but I was assured that it was normal.

Try to relax, if you aren't comfortable having sex, then don't. But chances are things would be fine.

Andi

[wannabmommy]

Thank you for the reassurance.I think I am just gonna wait until I have my 1st OB appt just to make sure everything is ok.Best wishes to you and thanks again.