Daddy is not coming home for Christmas. :(

[BabyHardiman]

Hold your families tight this season.  

Our family will not be together this year, Daddy will not be able to make it home for several reason.  

This has been the most stressful year of my life.  At the same time it has been a year filled with many blessings.  

Life can change with the blink of an eye.  Once my family is together again, I will not take a single second for granted.  It was sooo painful to talk to the kids yesterday about their Daddy missing Christmas.  We all cried together.  To be honest, I think the kids were stronger than me.  At the end of our conversation we decided to celebrate Christmas in Januray. . . they were so sweet and promised to make our celebration very special.  They were smiling when we were done saying how everyone is going to be jealous because they get to have Christmas TWO times on two different days.  

Just last month I was upset because Daddy wanted Ava to wait until Christmas night to open her gifts with her sisters.  I can't believe how foolish I was then for getting upset.  Rigth now I would give ANYTHING to have my family together for Christmas and wouldn't care if we had to wait until 11:59 PM to open gifts as long as we were all together.  

So many people are losing their jobs around here.  I pray that next year will be a great year for EVERYONE.

Merry Christmas to you all.  Hold your loved ones close.    

[grammy64]

I dont know the background of your story, so I dont know why Daddy will not be home at Christmas, but it sounds like you are handling yourself well and handling it well with your children too.  Good for you.  

May BOTH your holidays be merry!  
Lori

[jenstam]

Amen, BH. Sometimes when you look back doesn't it seem like we worry over things that seem trivial compared to the big picture? I do the same thing. I'm not sure where Daddy is but I hope that your Christmas in January is filled with love and joy and that you get through this season happy and healthy and strong.

People are losing their jobs here, too. Just Tuesday, Best Buy Corporate announced they are offering every single employee there to buyout of their job. If not enough people buyout, they will begin laying people off. Ben works at Best Buy Corporate!!! It's so scary!

HUGS!!

[mami1323]

I'm so sorry BH.  I know how much this first christmas with your daughter meant to you.  You can still enjoy it even though he won't be there.  Make it special for her and it will feel good for you.  Take lots of pics, I love seeing your baby girl under the x-mas tree :)

[BabyHardiman]

He left to work in Texas back in September.  He has returned twice since then, both times airfare was over $500.    

It is going to be tuff for both of us.  It breaks my heart to think of him there on Christmas without us.  

[GRose]

I'm sorry BH, I know you were so looking forward to this first Christmas with Ava and your hubby. You can still make it special for Ava even though he isn't home. Are you going to be with your family for Christmas?
Just try to enjoy and make it special :)

[pertykitty]

could he take a train or bus?  could he rent a car and drive?  could he fly stand by?  you cant charge a ticket?  ask family to all chip in for it as a gift?  i understand daddy not being around for holidays, birthdays, babies firsts ect.  sorry to hear he wont be there but if you brainstorm hard enough maybe you can make it happen.

[RockRose]

I'm sorry, BH.  Will you be able to spend Christmas with your extended family?

[Linzola1]

oh honey I am so sorry that he won't be there. Your handling this a lot better than I would. It will still be a great Christmas and I will keep you in my prayers that you have a great holiday! God Bless

[BabyHardiman]

I am hoping to be able to see the kids, and I know they still have their hearts set on coming over on Christmas.  

If he leaves right now he takes a risk of losing a lot of work thats taken many months to generate.  There are a lot of hugry people out there looking for work.  

It is such a scarey time right now.  I just pray things start to pick up at the start of the year.

[CYW]

ahh sweetie i am so sorry for what you are going through...i cant imagine...i think you are a strong woman and handling it well mind you i know you are tearing apart inside. hugs..i know just how important family is...believe me i have my son but my family fell apart.. i too will be with my extended family but yes it just isnt the same

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

are u going to be with your parents atleast? i dont know your background story ethier, so your husband works in texas. well whatever about that. im sorry, i hope u have a wonderful christmas, its ava's 1st christmas, that sux she wont be with dad. cant he take a train home. i know i would be heartbroken. this year is the worst! dh lost his job we got no money for christmas, but we do have eachother its still hard with no money, its both the same. i just hope you enjoy it with ava, but ava really doesnt know what is going on anyway. dont worry you guys will be fine, i just hope you and ur family could of been together. merry christmas hun

[BabyHardiman]

Thanks so much.  

New Mommy -  I am so sorry to hear about your husband's job, that is happening everywhere these days.  :(

I am still not sure where we will spend Christmas Eve.  My Grandmother lives with us and I think she really wants us to wake up here??  I am so torn.  I just don't know right now.