EMERGENCY!

We just got a phone call I never want to hear ever again!  As some of you know my sister-in-law and her husband went on a little business trip and we are watching her two little ones.  They were a little less than half way to Oregon and were in a horrible car accident.  I guess they were driving in the middle of no where and there wasn’t much of a shoulder and on the other side was a big drop off into a ditch and some guy popped up over a hill and had passed a car when he shouldn’t have and wasn’t paying attention and hit my sister-in-law and her husband and they went over the shoulder into the ditch and flipped the car.  It doesn’t look good at all, I’m so scared and my husband is a mess!  His sister lacerated her liver and punctured a lung and has some major head trauma.  She is in surgery right now to try and stop the bleeding in her stomach and said that they would more than likely have to take her right lung, if she survives at all.  They say that it isn’t looking good and there is only like a 25% chance she will make it through surgery.  Her husband had both of his legs severed and had a piece of the car go through his eye and into his brain and was pronounced dead once the flight team got there.  He lost too much blood and the doctors think that the piece that when into his brain kill him.  I can’t even believe that this happened, it hasn’t even sunk in yet.  The man that hit them looks to be fairly okay.  My husband is on the next flight to Oregon to see his sister, the hospital told him that they would keep her on life support until he got there.  First my husband loses his only boy and now his brother-in-law and more than likely his sister.  His sister asked us when her daughter was born if we would take MaKayla and become her legal guardians if anything ever happened to her and they asked again once Kiy was born.  So we are in her will to become legal guardians of her kids if she doesn’t pull through.  How do you explain to a 2 year old that her mom and dad aren’t ever coming home?  How do I explain that to them as they grow up?  MaKayla is already asking when mommy is coming home!  How do I manage with 2 very young kids and bring my 4 girls into this world as well?  How do I do all of this, I am so stressed and worried and I am just making myself sick!  My husband and I are a mess and I need your help!  What do I do??  My husband can’t leave until 6 something in the morning and is hysterical and thank goodness that the kids are asleep and don’t know what is going on.  WHAT DO I DO?!?  

[RuthiePee]

Oh my goodness. It's really strange but I have read so many of your posts I feel I know you. I am shocked ,I have the biggest goosebumps it's 3.28 am and I couldn't sleep so came on here to pass some time. I am speechless.

[RuthiePee]

Do you or brother have any other siblings/family that are there to help you all through this awful situation?

[1nana]

You need to calm down for those 4 little babies!!! The last thing you need is to go into labor.You both have family there in Colorado, right? Someone needs to come and help you out with the kids. Maybe a call to your dovtor wouldn't be a bad idea. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND THOSE BABIES. I'll be praying for you.

[1nana]

oops, I meant doctor.

[CYW]

omg i too am in shock after reading this...I can't even imagine...You seem as though you are taking quite alot on there my dear...As everyone has said you need to remain as calm as you can for those little babies inside of you as well as for those children you are caring for. (As easy as it sounds). I am so sorry you are going through all of this...I know having a deathin the family to someone you are so close to is exceptionally terrifying..I lost my gramma 2 months ago but god i think thats nothing to what you are going through. i hope you can find some help for yourself and those babies and children...

I will be hoping that everything works out in some miracle...Keep us posted..wow

[baby1234]

I am so sorry for all of this! I can't even imagine the pain you and your husband are going through right now!

First off, you and your husband need support. Is there anyone you can call to be with him and you right now? Family, close friends, church members, a babysitter, anyone? Does your dh have a good friend to go with him on the flight so he isn't alone?

When MaKayla asks about her mommy, be honest and tell her you don't know for sure, but her mommy and daddy love her.

I pray that your sil will pull through this. 25% is still a chance...

Sending love and hugs.

[NewMommy08]

My husband has 3 brothers and they are all here too so they are leaving tomorrow morning.  I only have a sister and I called her once we heard.  My sister-in-law was my husbands sister and her husband was his brother-in-law and he doesn't have siblings.  My stomach has hurt since we heard the news...  I don't know what to do.  We can't go from a family of 2 to a family of 4 over night and then to a family of 8... I dont know what to do!

[1nana]

Call your doctor and explain your situation and maybe he can give you something to calm you down.

[baby1234]

call your doctor--this is an emergency. Maybe he can offer something to help you calm down some. It is not good for you or the babies to be so upset. Try not to think of being a family of 8 right now. Focus on what you do know, not the what ifs.

[pertykitty]

dear god this is so horribly tragic.  im so sorry this has happened, and i hope the mom pulls through.  there is such a thing as miracles as your 4 babies have reminded you.  dont stress over the what ifs right now, its too draining and you need your energy and your wits.  you take care of you and those babies, and give those little ones some extra love right now.  i hope tomarrow you have better news for us.

[fungirl1011]

I am so very sorry to hear that this has happened.  I will say a prayer for you all.  Keep in mind that God delivers miracles everyday (look at you, pregnant with quads!!).  I know it is easer said than done, but please try to stay as calm as possible.  Please know that we are "here" for you!!!  

[NewMommy08]

I don't want to say anything to my husband about the doctor, he doesn't need to worry about me right now.  I was standing in the kitchen and had a big cramp and leaned on the counter and he totaly freaked out.  I just have no idea how we are going to do this!

[baby1234]

Go in the garage, bathroom, outside, where ever and call in private. You don't need to tell dh. But, if you are having cramps, you need to call.

[NewMommy08]

I just called him, I told him what was going on and he wanted me to come in and see him but I told him that I didn't want to leave my husband right now and that there was just a few cramps and otherwise I have a stomach ache.  So he said that if I get one more cramp to call him back and he would make me go in.  He said he didn't want to have me take anything without seeing and hearing the babies to make sure they are okay.  I don't know what to do....

[1nana]

This type of stress can send you into labor. If you don't call the doctor, you may not be a family of 8!!!

[baby1234]

You will do what needs to be done. That is what we do as women. Listen to your doctor and do what he says. If you have another cramp, go in. The babies are most likely fine. The stress you are under is stirring things up a little. The doctor can prescribe something after he sees you if he feels you need it. Your husband needs you to take care of his babies first, him second. If you need to leave him for a little bit, do it.

[NewMommy08]

I know he wont got be with his sister tomorrow if anything happens with me... if I can wait until 5:30 and go in once he leaves then fine but I don't want to leave him unless I have too.  My doctor said that he has a lady that is 30 weeks pregnant with triplets and is in labor and so he will be at the hospital anyway... One more cramp and I will go in, I promise!

[fitzy11]

please go call your doctor. and give your neices lots of love but don't be afraid to ask your family or your dh's family for help if you need it. this is alot for anyone to go through, let alone a women who is pregnant with multiples. you must take care of those babies inside of you. i will pray for your family. the power of prayer is amazing.

[baby1234]

Try to do what you can to calm yourself. We are here for you too.

[SeeingSpots]

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry!!  It really is the worst thing imaginable.  Like everyone said, YOU NEED TO CALM DOWN... hard to do, and I totally understand and would be the same... but the stress is not good for you or your 4 little ones.  Hug your husband tightly to you; let him cry on your shoulders-- and cry yourself too (it's good to let it all out).  Tragedy is never pleasant, and it's okay to feel like this was horrible and unfair. It WAS!   At least those children were WITH YOU... it could've been doubley bad if they'd been in the car too.  They will have you there to hug and cry with.  Like baby1234 said, be honest and tell MaKayla you don't know for now.  If, god forbid, the worst should happen, you are a strong woman (I've seen that in your posts) and will deal with it.  Don't underestimate yourself or your husband... be strong for each other, for the kids, and for the quads.  Remind your husband before he leaves that you love him and will be with him in thoughts.
Please try to get some rest...
Biggest of hugs for you!!

[SeeingSpots]

P.S.  Try to think of happy things for now... push away the worry/fear.  Your blood pressure is probably up, which isn't helping.  Think of the first time you met your husband, think of the way he proposed, how handsome he looked on your wedding day, of the first time you got that BFP-- then found out it was quads!, of the first time you saw that ultrasound, of your move to CO, to picking out the cribs, etc.  THINK POSITIVE thoughts!!  

[NewMommy08]

Oh I thank god that those kids weren't with them!  This computer is the only thing distracting me right now...  My husband is such a mess.  His sister went into surgery about 7:15 our time and it's 9:15 now and we havent heard anything, we are waiting for that call...  I'm so worried!

[baby1234]

I am sure that you are in for a long wait, especially if her injuries were that extensive. Long waits = she's still alive.

[SeeingSpots]

Surgeries take awhile... I've had quite a few.  Unfortunately calling the relatives isn't first on the doctors/nurses' priority list... they've got to get her stabilized and settled... etc.  Try not to take the time issue as a negative.  
Can you get your hubby to come sit down on the bed with you and watch a little tv?

[asmit49]

My heart goes out to you right now. I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel. This situation is just awful, but you have got to be strong. Although you might be thinking the worst, you can't. Think positive, have faith...it works. You have to be strong for those babies inside of you right now. Try not to worry so much about your husband, he is a man, he will be fine. If you feel another cramp you need to go to the hospital. As far as your sister-in-laws children, don't worry about the future right now and what it would be like raising that many children. No matter what happens, everything WILL work out. Plus, you don't even know if that is in the cards yet. People live without one lung, it happens all the time. Keep thinking positive and find something to do that will take your mind off of everything. Call your doctor for some medicine to relax you, there are plenty of meds you can be prescribed that will be fine to take pregnant. And when you get the script filled, give your husband one. Thank goodness your husband has 4 brothers. Sounds like at least you have some help! Praying hard for you tonight!

[NewMommy08]

We just got a call... the surgens had to remove her whole right lung and her left lung will not be enough to keep her alive on its own due to all of the trama and other injuries.  They declared her brain dead and is on life support until her brothers get there tomorrow and they will take her off of it and that will be it.  What do I do now?  MaKayla will ask tomorrow where her mom is, how do I tell a 2 year old that her mother died?

[SeeingSpots]

Awwwww... I know saying "I'm sorry" doesn't help, but wow.  My husband and I have been waiting up to hear the news (11:20pm Missouri time), and were so hoping it would be good news.  I know we've never met, but I've considered you a friend since we've chatted back and forth on here so much.  Wish I could give you a hug.  Have your husband give you one for me.  You must have incredibly strong shoulders, for God never gives us more than we can bare.  Sometimes we don't understand all the plans, but you'll make it through this.  It's going to be hard, but I know you'll take those kids under your wings and be a great mom to them.  Sad, but your husband will now have a son... and MaKayla will get a bunch of sisters to play with in a few more months.  Being only 2, it might be hard for MaKayla to understand her parents' death... I'd go for something simple like, "I'm sorry, Honey, but she went to heaven to be with the angels."  I wouldn't go in to all the details of the crash, surgery, etc.  Stress that her parents loved her very much and will miss her, but that you and your husband are here for her now.  Gather her in your arms and hold her close.  Tell her that you love her.  
You're going to get a crash course on being a momma, that's for sure, but at least MaKayla and her brother will have time to settle in with you, bond, and deal with their grief before you have to divide your attention with the quads.  Don't be afraid to seek help from your family, friends and even a grief counselor for MaKayla if you think she needs it.
How are you feeling?  Any more contractions?

[1nana]

That's a tough one and I'm sure it won't be easy. Of course, tell her the truth and don't put it off. If you believe in God, tell her mommy and daddy are in heaven, and that they love her very much. It's amazing how much a 2 year old can grasp. I will pray that you will find the right words to tell her when the time comes and you and your family will be in my prayers.

[NewMommy08]

I just feel so horrible!  My husband is just devistated as am I.  His sister told us before she left that Kiy sleeps throught the night and has since he was 3 months and tonight he woke up right before the last phone call, I think he feels all the hurt and sadness...  I just got his bottle and when back into his room with him.  I just feel so bad for the kids.  Mom was a stay at home mom so the kids are always with her... I just don't know what to do!  My stomach still hurts and I think the babies have been kicking because it's not really "cramps"...

[SeeingSpots]

Kids can sense tension... not to mention the talking, phone ringing, and you all moving around/packing for dh's trip tomorrow morning.  Don't keep stressing over what to say to them tomorrow.. it will come to you, and you'll handle it just fine... just go with your gut and your natural "mommy instinct".  Right now the biggest thing the kids will be feeling is fear-- their world of security will be crumbling at their feet.  But kids are resilient.  And, in a way it's good they are so young.  Kiy will most likely not remember this in the future, and MaKayla is young enough to heal and bond with you as her new parents (and won't be resentful or have the "you're not mom" attitude).  Let MaKayla know that her parents loved her, but since they had to go to heaven they left her and Kiy with you and your dh to take care of them.  Tell her that her mommy will be watching her from heaven.  I'm glad you're a SAHM too, so you'll be there 24/7 with the kids-- they'll be needing you.  BUT, you also must look out for yourself.  Bend down and hug MaKayla, but don't try to pick her up... have her snuggle with you on your bed and read her a story/watch cartoons, so that you can be off of your feet... put her down for a nap during the afternoon with her brother, so you can have a little R&R for yourself.  And, if your stomach doesn't feel any better, please call your doctor back.

[baby1234]

Oh no! I am so sorry to hear this. I so wanted your sil to be okay.

I went online to look up talking to a child about death. It seems that they all say be honest, but gear your responses to the age of the child. Here are some blurbs from various sources:

Birth to age 3: A child views death as a loss, separation or abandonment. They are less disturbed by losing someone than an older child because of their difficulty understanding the whole concept. The most important element at this stage is the response of the significant others around them. If that security remains intact and schedules remain as normal as possible, they eventually make it through. They take their clues from the security or lack of it around them. It isn't that they don't grieve and we shouldn't pretend nothing has happened, it's just they gain security and transition based on the living significant other's response to grief.

Generally, from two to about five years of age, children consider death reversible, like taking a trip from which one will eventually return. Adult euphemisms may compound the error: "Grandpa went away," or he is "up in the sky" or after burial, "underground" tends to be taken literally.

children have no real sense of death as a permanent condition; that is, they don't realize that people who die won't appear again to resume their normal lives. Consequently, when a child this age is told, for example, that a relative has died, the statement will probably have little effect since the child doesn't really understand what has happened. This doesn't mean, however, that the child won't react at all. What the child will be affected by is the absence of the deceased, by the fact that the deceased simply isn't there anymore.

Children under 2 have no cognitive understanding of death although they perceive and respond to a parent's absence, illness, or negative emotional state. Preschool children can fool you; they may talk about death but they think of it as temporary and reversible. They also are egocentric and likely to think they caused the illness or death and worry about death's "contagion" (Will I catch it and die too?)

I am praying that when the time comes to talk to the kids, you will find the strength and the right words. My heart goes out to you all.

[NewMommy08]

I had a doctors appointment scheduled for tomorrow anyway, and I can't cancel because I have to see my doctor before the cerclage next thursday.  So the babies will get checked out tomorrow. MaKayla always went to her mom's u/s for Kia and she said that MaKayla liked looking at him so I think I'll take her with me tomorrow.  Something fun for her will help!

[SeeingSpots]

Glad you're going to the dr's tomorrow... it will be good for you to see the quads too.  In a way it'll be a very special doctor's visit-- although she won't fully understand or realize it, MaKayla will be seeing her soon-to-be sisters for the first time.  It will be a good bonding experience for you all.  Don't be afraid to ask the doctor about some meds for you too, if you think you need them.  These next several days (actually weeks, until it's all settled) will be very stressful for you all.  I'm glad that your sister-in-law and husband had their will all done; it'll make it a lot smoother for the kids and handling the estate.  It made me realize that we'd better update ours and get it notarized too... life is so fragile.  
I know you'll be busy, but do let us know how it all goes tomorrow... you have a lot of friends/support on here, as I'm sure you can tell.  Medhelp doesn't want us to give out our email on here, but if you want you can go to our website www. seeingspotsranch. com and go to the contact us page.  It'll send me an email and I can then respond.  
Guess I'd better get to bed, as it's after midnight here in Kansas City.  The wind is picking up and we're suppose to be getting some rain/storms in the wee hours.  I'm sure it'll be hard for you and your hubby to get a good night's sleep, but try to get some rest anyway.
Sometimes the biggest tragedies in life can turn out to be the biggest miracles.
Goodnight to you, the quads, and your new family.  Hugs!

[peekawho]

Her SIL hasn't passed away, right?  I may have missed something, although I tried to read it very carefully.  I certainly hope we don't have to talk about her SIL's will, and the children having a new family.

My thoughts and prayers are with the whole family.  I wish you all the best.  Most of all, I hope for a recovery for her SIL from her severe injuries so that she can be with her children again.  

[NewMommy08]

The surgens had to remove her whole right lung and her left lung will not be enough to keep her alive on its own due to all of the trama and other injuries.  They declared her brain dead and is on life support until her brothers get there tomorrow and they will take her off of it and that will be it.

[Darkestlight]

peek- She stated that her that they took her SIL's one lung and the second isn't strong enough to keep her alive so they are keeping her on life support till the brothers get there.

NewMommy08- I really feel so awful for your family. This is so devestating. I will be praying for you and your family. We are all here for you. If you have myspace or want someone to talk to my myspace is www.myspace.com/xxdarkestlightxx

[NewMommy08]

Thanks everyone so much for all your support, I'm really going to need it!

[peekawho]

Yeah, I just saw.  I'm shocked to say the least, how this has evolved so very, very fast.  This is unbelievable, to say the least.  

My prayers and thoughts go out to the family.  Keep us posted.

[NewMommy08]

It went so fast, Im still just in such shock!  I was just talking to you about my babies and this and that... then WHAM!  My husband is finally coming to lay down, I'm going to lay with him and try and comfort him.  Thanks ladies for everything!  I'll let you know what happens tomorrow.

[chiromom]

I just woke up in the middle of the night to read this post - oh my God - what horrible news.  This is a terrible loss for your family.  I am so sorry.  This will take a while to settle in.  For the 2 year old, unfortunately, she will have no permanent memories of her parents - so what she needs, is lots of support so she doesn't feel abandoned.  You really need to recruit the rest of the family to give her support and love right now.
Take all of this one day - one moment at a time.  The future will seem too overwhelming to think about.  Just try to get through each day as it comes.  You can do it.
My prayers to your family - again - I am so sorry for your loss.

[mum2beagain]

Gosh, I just checked in, about to go to bed. I just don't know what to say but wanted to let you know I will be thinking of you.

[Jules_za]

My thoughts and prayers are with you, and your whole family.  I have tears in my eyes pray that you are granted the strength needed to get through the difficult time that lie ahead.

[jay11]

I really dont know what i can say but i just wanted you to know how sorry iam and that you and your family are in my thoughts.

[Cheyenne_08]

I lost a sister in a horrible car accident 7 years ago, so I feel your family's pain. I am so sorry that you suffered this horrible loss. My thoughts are with you and your loved ones as you try and cope with this. Stay strong.

[kellym]

I just want to say I am so very sorry for your losses. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Crritter]

I am so sorry for what you are all going through.  I pray that the sil makes it through for her sake and for the little ones.  Take care of yourselves.

[RKRSK]

Such terrible news. Am so sorry for you and your family. God will surely devise means for you to look after a family of 8.

[tazz00057]

Just like all the ladies have told you just try not to stress out and don't think about the future I know easy said than done.......take it day by day also try to ask for some help if you really need it. I just can't imagine you guys going through this by yourselfs. you guys are going to need a lot of help or else you both are going to lose it. I also am going to pray for you guys!!!! It's to hard to put in words how sorry I feel......you to care of yourself and try to take it slow.My thoughts also go to you and your family. Whenever you feel that you need to talk you know where to find us!!!!!

[Trudy80]

My Heart is reaching out to you and your family.  We lost a very dear (but young 18yr old) boy to a car accident 5 days ago and he was not direct family so I honestly couldnt imagine what you guys must be going thru.  As hard as it may seem right now, things unfortunate as it is happen for a reason...you must believe that and be as strong as you can be (dont have to be a hero, just try not to crumble).  Dont plan your future and stress at the possibilities just yet regards to getting an extra extended family.  You will have to decide one day but dont make that decision just yet, just love those children as now your sister & bro in law are living thru their eyes and that should comfort you knowing a part of them is instilled in those adorable kiddies.  Ask for help if needed, you (as selfish as it may sound) have to come first with your miracle pregnancy...family members should realise this.  The days ahead will be tough, theres no doubt...how you decide to manage that is a goal you are going to have to make stress free as possible....we are all thinking about you!

I am not huge on religion but I feel I need to say this and pray you dont get offended...

May peace be with you and God Bless.

Trudy

[mami1323]

OMG!!!  That is terrible, I'm so sorry to hear this.  You need to stay calm, stress is only going to cause harm to your little girls.  I know to say relax is completely upsurd but in this situation your babies need to come first.  You need to be strong for them, your husband and those two little children that you have been caring for.  It's going to be a rough one to care for all of these children but if you're willing to take on that challenge then you should.  They left you both the guardians for a reason, they felt that you could both be loving and wonderful parents.  This is an honor to care for them.  It's not going to be easy to explain where mommy and daddy are but I would recommend once you tell them, that you get them the best counselors.  They are both young and may not understand what is going on.  Just try hard to give them a loving home because it's going to be hard for them.  My prayers are with you and your family at this time.

[filbert143]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family...

[mommyluv02]

wow this is terrible news newmommy please take care fo yourself and i will be praying for you and your family i hope that from now on everything goes smoothly.
Amanda

[lovethebops]

I am reading this in the morning, I can't believe this happened to your family...I feel so badly for all you have gone through. It seems like so much to deal w/, I don't know how I would ever begin to cope. I am so sorry for the loss of your bil. My thoughts are with you, and I pray you are able to make it through everythng.Take care of yourself and your babies, I hope all goes well at your doc. appt. Take care~bops

[jd1419]

I have just read all the post's--I am sitting here at work and I am just feeling awful.  I wish you the strength to deal with everything in the next few weeks and to stay healthy for yourself and your babies, that now include the two in your house.  Let them know that mommy and daddy are angels now and will always be watching them.  Be strong but don't be afraind to take time for yourself and ask fro any help that you need.

[tmv]

Oh my goodness. I cannot express how sorry that I am for you and your family. The kids are so lucky to have a great and caring loved on such as yourself to look after them. You have to stay strong for them and your 4 babies. I am truly at a loss for words, but I want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless.

[wonderme]

I am so sorry to hear what you and your family are going through...are they certain that your SIL cannot recover from her injuries if given more time?  It's just so devastating to those both so quickly like that...

I know you have gone through a lot of change recently and even more change coming in the future, you really need to take care of yourself.  I know you are strong.

Everyone please forgive me for bringing God into it -- honestly, I don't care what high power you believe in or if you don't believe at all, but just wanted to share something that gives me strength when I need it.

Have you ever heard the footprints story...

A man walked along with Jesus and saw two sets of footprints in the sand.  Through his life he noticed at times there was only one set.  He also noticed that this was during his most difficult and trying times in life.  He asked Jesus why he left him when he needed him the most and Jesus said, "Son, I didn't leave you -- those were the times I carried you."

Whether you believe it is God carrying you or your friends -- please know that you will be "helped" through this very tragic time...and you will get through it.

I will continue praying for all of you -- and please take care of yourself!

[ZevasMom]

I don't know what to say... I have been reading your posts, and am so excited and nervous for you and your four little ones... I have been praying for strong healthy babies, hoping you grow nice and plump with all those little ones! And now this... All I can say is that I am praying for you...

[Trialanderror]

Oh my goodness, how terrible! How terrible...You need help to stay calm. I truly hope you will feel calmer after your doctor`s appointment and find the quads to be okay. And I truly hope that the remaining family network will come up with a plan to provide stability and support for the two toddlers. I can not imagine it would be possible to take care of quadruplets and two toddlers unless you get tons of help from family. Even to prepare them for the terrible truth of what just happened seems too hard to endure. I think the little ones should almost have a child psychologist to buffer the bad news. Can you call any help lines? I am so sorry. Please listen to your body, whatever you do now to protect the quads.

[anxiousmomtobe?]

My thoughts and prayers are with all your family right now.  How terrible for these wee children.  

Take care of yourself and your wee ones.  Just focus on getting through each day.  Don't worry about long term just yet.

And you can tell your niece that her parents are in heaven and that they are watching over her.  Be honest, it will be a huge blow to her.

[AHP84]

I have just read your post and I'm speechless. I am so sorry this tragic event has happened to your family. You will be in my prayers.
You sound like such a strong, loving person. I know you and your family can pull through this. I know a Bible verse that I've always found comforting in my most trying times, and I wanted to share it with you. It's 1 Corinthians 10:13 (and I'll quote it from The Message version Bible):

"No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he'll never let you be pushed past your limit; he'll always be there to help you come through it."

I always liked this verse because it's helped me stay strong enough to handle hardships. Most versions I've read just use the word "temptation," but a few use the word "test" or "trial." In any case, to me it's all the same, because the worst events in our lives can put the temptations in our hearts and minds to give up, give in, or lose our minds to grief.
But God knows you, He knows your family, and He knows the strength and love you have to get through this if you put your faith and trust in Him.
As other posters have pointed out, you have four little miracles on the way, your husband now has the chance to raise a son, and you two still have each other.
Again, I am so sorry for your family's loss. Tears came to my eyes as I read your posts throughout. What a tragedy. I will be praying for you.
God bless. ~AJ

[mum2beagain]

Just checked back in, hope your night wasn't too bad and you have managed to get some rest. I still can't beleive that this tradgedy has happened. Thinking of you and your family.

[mom2emicar]

My prayers and thoughts are with you.  I am soo sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself, and keep us posted.

[SAL1975]

I am soooo terribly sorry for what you are going through. I have no words for you to help you through this tragedy. If you believe in God, just turn to him right now and ask him for strength to get through this. I know its hard, but try to stay calm because the kids will really need your support as well as your husband. Go cry and let it out if you have to, but you have to be the pillar in your family right now. They all need you. I will keep you in my prayers.

[Me2mommy2b]

Oh G-d, I couldn't hold back the tears reading about the whole situation.  I'm sorry that your family and those kids are going through such terrible times.  Prayers and hugs your way.

[mommy2aj]

my prayers are w/you and your family. i pray for god to give you the strength and guidance to get through.

my dh lost his father some yrs back. his twin brother and sister were 4yrs at the time. they spent alot of time w/us. little things would trigger the tears and questions. the first time it happened i thought oh no what do i say. the words just kind of came. there were many more discussions as they got a little older. after a while we finally realized the biggest problem for them was their mom didn't talk about the father and there was only 1 pic of him in the house. the twins were afraid of forgetting their father. dh & i talked to them and to dh mother. since then they dealt alot better, they just needed reassurance. dh & his other brothers were 17 & older when their father died. we learned they needed to hear the memories their brothers had of their father, this allowed them to remember.

your neice may not needed the memories now but in the next few yrs this may be what she is craving. now she will just need belonging & acceptance. i pray for god to give you the words needed for the children. it will work out just take it 1 day at a time. my little bil & sil are now 20 yrs and we have a great relationship.

[KellyTexas]

I am so so sorry and will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.  I too would definitely call your doctor.  I heard in our first baby class on Tuesday that adrenaline is the worst thing for the babies and I'm sure you have a lot of that right now.  See if he can give you something to take to stay calm - well calmer.  Keep us posted and I will be thinking of you all.

[jazzyri]

Please know that your family is in my thoughts and prayer.  May God give you the strength to endure.

[tomel]

I am so sorry..that is awful.
I will pray for you and your family and that you can find strength thru this.
Try not to stress to much ..although easier said than done in this situation. Take care of yourself..those children are gona need you...as well as your own baby.

[baseballgirl21]

OH my god. I do not even know what to say. All I can think of is that I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I know that is not much but I hope that you all can come together and be there for each other. You are in my prayers.

[Quinns momma]

I just got on here and read about your family. I am so sorry. You all will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[ashlee_brooks]

ILL KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS, SO SORRY TO HERE ABOUT YOUR FAMILY, MY DEEPEST CONDOLENSES ARE WITH YOU, MAY GOD COMFORT YOUR FAMILY

[Kim1989]

im soo sorry to here this. and im soo soo soo sorry for your familys losses. i pray for the best that your sister in-law pulls thru. im whishing you the beat!!!!!!! we are all here for you.! you and your family is in my thoughts and prayers!

[cutiemama]

You and your family are in my thoughts and my prayers, as well. My deepest condolences.

[lexysmama]

I thought i was having a bad day...til i read this. Even though things seem horrible right now just realize that they could be a lot worse. What if those kids didn't have you there to help them through this.. they could be orphans with no one to turn to. But they have you... a loving mother. Just stay strong for the kids, if you have to, then go to the doctor and they can give you medication that might help you through this. Just remember to live one day at a time and don't get ahead of yourself, worrying about it will only make it harder for you. When you find yourself worrying just try to smile and try to transform your thoughts into productive ones, like 'What kind of activities can i do to keep the kids mind off of the situation' or go for a walk. Good luck, i wish you the best.

[Torra325]

I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy.  My thoughts and prayers are also with you and your family.

[nikkicole827]

I can't even imagine how you and your husband must be feeling right now and I am truly sorry for the family.  I agree with some of the other posters that the kids probably can sense the tension and stress and that you should try to maintain yourself if at all possible for your sake.  Wow, I can't even imagine.  I say this advice but know that I am not good at holding myself together in sad situations.  I hope that you can be there for the children as best you can, I'm sure you are doing great.  I'll keep you and the loved ones in my prayers as well as the children.  Please keep us updated as I am sure many of us will have you in our thoughts.  

[myproblem]

I am so sorry. There is nothing you can tell a two year old that she will understand. I don't even know what I would do. Maybe just try to keep the subject off her parents until you can get some advice on how to explain it to her. How far past 2 is she? The way I explained death to my daughter is that someone's body isn't working anymore, and their spirit leaves their body and goes back to God. I would not mention that it was a car accident until she is much older. She could become terrified of cars. I would suggest not taking the kids back to their parents home, or they will get upset, and expect their parents to be there. There is nothing I can offer you except my prayers. It is so fortnate that the children were with you. Call your church, or any church, and ask for help. They will send babysitters, and meals, and maybe help set you up with other services you will need. Call a child psychologist for advice too.

[lucy82]

I am so devastated for you.  I know I don't know you, but I do know that God will protect you, your husband, your babies, and your sweet niece and nephew.  I am truly so sorry and promise to pray for you and your family.  Please keep us updated as you can.  

[rubyolivia]

I'm so sorry! I don't even have the words to tell you how awful I feel for you, your dh and those children! I can't even imagine how you are feeling right now. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

[Georgiamom]

You and your husband and his family will be in my prayers.   I can only imagine what you are going through.    May God be with each of you during this time of need.

[linzio]

I am so so sorry,theres nothing i can say that will console you,i just wanted you to know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers at this devastating time.Take care of yourself hun x

[Weaversgirl]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this dark hour.

[amberd5191]

You and your family will be in my prayers.

[surprisebaby]

I just wanted to let you know that your story brought tears to my eyes.  I have suffered many losses in my life.  Please know that Time helps to heal.  Everyday you will find yourself a little stronger than the day before.  Even though there are still bad days, you will find the inner strength to get through them.  As for your neices, I think you really do need to get some professional help for them.  Please know that I am thinking of you and your family at this NIGHTMARISH time.  ((((((HUGS))))))  Stay calm. (I know this is easier said than done, but you MUST!)

[daprincess21]

im so crying right now and want you to know you are in my parayers. i stand strong by the saying that "everything happens for a reason" best fo luck to you. Stay strong for them babies!

[maddysmommy]

Im so sorry for your loss and pain...and deeply sorry for those children.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  Its hard to be strong, but its that mothering instinct that will keep you going and the strong one for your family. god bless

[bigdaddyb]

My prayers and thoughts are with you. Stay strong for them babies and the 2 young ones..

[April2]

I haven't been able to stop thinking about you and your family since I first saw your story. My heart is so heavy for you. I just wanted to let you know I'm praying and have been praying for you and these innocent babies. Please let us know how you are doing as soon as you are able. God bless you.

[asmit49]

I am praying for you and your family. This is truly terrible. Please post an update when you can. Everything will be OK. Keep your head up girl!

[ImmortalOne]

... For the record, of those that are new ... This was found to be fake by the other posters on this forum, and NewMommy08 also isn't pregnant with Quads... at least that is what we've been told.

[Jay_Leron]

my prayers are definetly with the kids and the only parent thats left, oh my gosh this is so terrible, but u will get through it, u will look back and be proud of yourself one day when you see how far you've come through such a difficult time as this, i can only imagine how hard it is, i wish i owned a time clock! god bless you and keep you! ((((((((HUGS)))))))))