Embryo Stopped Developing....

This is the first time I've felt truly alone and the one time I am hoping to find someone out there that is going through the same issue as me.  I had my first doctor's visit today and the doctor performed a vaginal ultrasound.  The ultrasound was not a positve one.  She showed me the bag but said that the embryo has stopped developing.  She still wants me to return to see her next week to positively affirm that is is the case.  According to the nurse, I am 9 weeks and 5 days.  Could they be wrong as to how far along I am and what they are expecting to see?  Has anyone out there going through what I am?  I feel I should mourn my loss as I am, but what if I go next week and everything is fine?  As far as symptoms, I  have not been in any pain nor have I bleed since I've been pregnant.  Any help or advice would be appreciate.

[peekawho]

If you are truly 9 w 5d, and the findings are as you describe, it sounds very concerning.  She is doing the right thing in having you return next week, to see if anything has changed.  
Until she does the next ultrasound and positively makes a diagnosis, it is difficult to know what to think or feel right now.  

I'm sorry this is happening to you.  Its very hard.  Please let us know what happens.  Check back for more replies--there have been several ladies here who have had similar situations.

Peek

[SolitarySoul]

Thank you peekawho.  According to my calendar, I conceived on Jan. 15th or 18th, so I'm hoping their calculation is off and that's why the embryo hasn't developed fully?

[tatorbug40]

I have had the same thing happen twice to me....  I had a very small amount of spotting around 7 weeks, but other then at no bleeding when I lost my pregnancies....   It is a terrible terrible time....  I generally do not struggle with depression,  but those two times in my life were very difficult.  Like Peek said it is hard to know what to feel....  my first loss was 7 years ago, and it was 2 1/2 years later that I conceived again and gave birth to a healthy little girl...  that first time was very hard because I wasn't trying to get pregnant,  but when I discovered I was I got so excited-  but we didn't try to get pregnant again after because, I guess it wasn't a good time for us to have kids...  but those 9 months were hard because all I thought about was the lost baby....

my second loss was between my kids...  when my daughter was 18 months old we started trying again for another...  after 6 months or more of ttc I finally got pregnant (on Jan.1) and I had a d&c on Feb 14th (my daughter 2nd birthday)...  it was so heart breaking to lose that baby after trying for so long (it felt like to me-  so long)....  but 3 months later I was pregnant again with my son, and it made the loss of that second m/c a little easier...  

Typically when this happened it is because there is something genetically wrong with the baby-  I had my second loss tested, and that was the case there-  if I had carried that baby to term (which does occasionally happen) the baby wouldn't have lived longer then a few hours...  this would have been even more heart breaking...  I know this does not really take away the pain, but might help you to feel a little more peace....  

There is a chance that they are wrong,   but I don't want to give you false hope...  if you conceived mid-January, it sounds like their dates are correct...  but I had 3 ultrasounds with my last before deciding on the d&c...  it is horrible having to wait around to see if anything has happened, or if the baby has developed...  but you are not alone...  this is something a lot of people go through, and most of the people on here have experienced...  you should have your hcg levels checked too,  48 hour apart,  that will help you determine if the ultrasounds are accurate....  

I am sorry you are experiencing this-  it is a bad time...  hang in there and it will get easier... I promise...  

[Kayla_sMommie]

I'm going through a similar situation. I have a beautiful healthy 4 year old daughter and my husband and I have been trying for over a year and a half for baby #2. We had absolutely no problems conceiving our daughter and it was a miracIe because she was conceived naturally. I have been going through fertility treatments and became pregnant after my first cycle of clomid and follistim.

I've experienced some bleeding and spotting but my RE was monitoring the pregnancy through ultrasounds and bloodwork to measure HCG levels and progesterone. I want to add that my progesterone is low so they started me on progesterone suppositories. The pregnancy was progressing normally at that point.

Anyway...I've had three ultrasounds so far. I'm am 8 weeks pregnant exactly today so I know I conceived on Februay 12th through IUI. Well both ultrasounds that were done at the clinic showed everything was developing normally. We got to hear the baby's heatbeat (measuring 129 at my 7 weeks ultrasound). Therefore I was discharged last week from the clinic and ha an appt. with my regular OB/GYN this past Tuesday. I've told her of my concerns so she sent me for a vaginal u/s yesterday at 7 weeks and 6 days pregnant. Good news is the heartbeat increased to 151 but it doesn't look like the baby has grown since last week. It's measuring exactly 6 weeks and 5 days like it did last week at my last ultrasound at my fertility clinic. I'm obviously devastated and did my share of crying between yesterday and today.

My OB has referred me to a high risk specialist and will schedule me for another ultrasound for next week to see if there has been any growth. I'm not feeling optimistic. I'm scared that the baby just stopped growing and I will eventually miscarry but at the same time I'm confused because the heartbeat increased significantly from last week's u/s.  My OB/GYN was happy with the measurement but because I should definitely be further along, she had me do bloodwork yesterday and will have another one tomorrow to see how the HCG levels are doing. The worst part is the waiting. I really wanted and loved this baby very much already and all I can do is wait to be told the bad news. My husband still remains optimistic. But needless to say I'm so sad and confused. I guess all we can do is wait.

I wish you the best of luck and that everything turns out well for you. Please keep us posted on the outcome. I'll do the same.

Sorry for the long post.

[Shaza68]

I just went for my first Ultra Sound yesterday and I found out my baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. I had no idea, I had not been bleeding or feeling sick. I know I had a flu around the 8 week mark but didnt feel anything else. I am devasted, as all I had was a tiny bit of spotting on Wed and hardly anything on Thurs when I went for my Ultra Sound, They couldnt pick up a heartbeat so they used the wand and there was still no heartbeat. Im a little angry, as I think that as soon as you find out your pregnant you should go for an Ultra Sound. I wish my doctor had sent me for what they call " A well being fetus usltra sound" as soon as I found out, as I would have known 3 weeks ago that their was something wrong. The  first trimester is the most crucial so why do doctors tell us to wait unitl we are 11 or 12 weeks its vrazy.  I am angry because I have my baby still inside me and I could have had something done 3 weeks ago. Im goling back to the doc today to find out what happend. The nurse told me where I got my Ultra Sound done that my baby could not feed so there must have been something wrong with it. But thats all Im told. Has this happened to anyone else?

Shaz

[Kazzygal]

Hi....i spent the entire day crying today as my ultrasound at aproximately 7 weeks showed that the fetus stopped growing..... My husband and I reside in Toronto (Canada) and have been going through fertility treatments for the past year.  As I was diagnosed with the pcos, we chose to go with the ivf and had two "grade a" ( as the doctor put it) embryo transferred in mid February.  When I found out we were pregnant through the blood test at the clinic I was so grateful and excited and even started talking to the "baby".... I don't know what happened, nobody at the clinic even offered me to come bk for the follow up ultrasound and basically said they saw the bag but nothing inside of it.. I am devastated and would like to know what happened so that this could be prevented in the future.  I lost trust into my fertility doctor and after conducting an extensive research today ( especially on this forum which I found very helpful and inspiring) , my husband and decided to go to my family specialist in an attempt  To conceive naturally. We don't have any children yet but I pray that it will happen soon!! if anyone has any words of advice/support for us, we would truly appreciate it.  Thank u for reading this post;)    

[jaime303]

I should be 7 weeks pregnant but my last ultrasound showed that the baby stopped growing at 5 weeks and 5 days.  My doctor said it wasn't a viable pregnancy and suggested a D&C.  My question is, are the doctors ever wrong?  Could the baby just be developing slowly?  Am I going to have a D&C done on a baby that is alive?  What if I'm making the wrong decision?