Epi pain after 7 weeks pp.

Hello,
I had an episiotomy with the birth of my DS. It was a ventouse delivery where the doc (for reason that I was too big for baby) induced me 10 days before the due date. Well, at my 1 week pp visit the doc said that the stictches were ripped and infected ... I also had a cave (hole) behind the primary skin of the epi site , she could almost insert a finger (sorry TMI). I have been on antibiotics since then, three courses ... and now I have been prescribed injections for the infection ; six in all , done with three already. Still the pain is unbearable , it's like I have been kicked real hard or am riding a bicycle on a really rocky road/mountain ... the pain originates from the right labia and then extends to the whole perinium if I continue to stand or walk for more than 2 mins. It's AWFUL. I am doing sitz but I am nowhere near better ... staying with mum. Have not been able to connect with DS the way I always wanted, just feed him and that's that ... can't even stand while holding him or sit in any other sitting position than like sitting in a chair. PLEASE HELP. Has any one of you experienced it? Please tell me I am not alone. How did your condition improve? I have searched for it online but haven't found anyone who had this 'kicked in the perinium feeling/pain'.
Also have a horrible stinging when I wee (TMI)... and then there's this pressure in the perineum when I walk for long , like walk for 5 mins.

Now 6 weeks after this, doc says that my infected site is closing off. But the pain is still the same . I told this to her and she said , "now don't be such a cry baby, you are clearly over reacting since you are almost healed". She thinks it's in my head...
This is really distressing for me , I feel I am never gonna be better. I so wanna enjoy my baby.

Thanks.

[Lesley27]

okay so this does sound pretty serious, no one should be told they are over reacting when they tell the Dr that they are in pain?!
i googled "episiotomy complications" and that seemed to bring up info that i think your looking for, you could also try "fistula in ano" or just fistula (would be the "hole")  one site specifically that i found was called "The Dangers of Episiotomy" it does talk about having pain after healing... i was gonna try to explain what i read(and i kept typing and retyping) but i am coming off a night shift(with no sleep) and the computer is not agreeing with my brain tonight!   I do think that maybe you need to change Drs and find someone who is going to take you seriously, there are options of pain meds and feeding scheduals that would decrease the likelyhood of you passing too much onto your baby (if you are nursing) or if it is too high risked you might have to consider other options(say formula) but thats something to talk to a Dr about... and make sure you tell him/her about how limited your time has been with your baby due to the pain and i hope they can do something to help you... but dont give up, no one should live in pain like that...your body actually heals faster when the pain is controlled.... good luck and congrats on your baby! i hope you get to enjoy being a mom sooner than later and i hope it all works out