Feelings of guilt over second child coming

I have about 8 months to go in my pregnancy and I have one son already. I am very excited to be having another child but I already am feeling guilty over forseeing not being able to spend time with my first one as much or this one taking up his space. I've also had just random thoughts like, well I can't move Jace to the side seat in the car just so the baby can have the safer seat in the middle; or not wanting to decorate the second babies room because they will eventually be sharing anyways, or even taking hangers out of my first childs closet to prepare and hang up close for the next one. I know all these sounds so silly but I'm just afraid its going to worsen when the baby arrives. I know that this second one is my child just as much as my first one but I can't seem to shake the guilt. My first son is very a very easy going 2 year old and it probably won't bother him a bit sharing time with his new baby brother but I'm just wondering if anyone else felt like this and it maybe changed when the baby arrived. I don't consider myself depressed at all which is why I'm wondering about all these feelings, Thanks

[tjmartens]

OOOOPS I MEAN 8 WEEKS!

[RockRose]

TJ,  are you a firstborn?

I'm a second born,  and I had the exact opposite reaction to my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies that you have.  I wanted each of my children to be welcomed equally - I had no desire for my firstborn to be given first place without having to share.  I never agonized that my first would be left out- rather,  I worried that my second and third would get less.

So,  what is your birth order?

[Happy2girls]

I went through something similar with my second child.  I remember crying to my husband that I was afraid that I wouldn't love my second daughter as much as my first.  Plus I was mourning the passing of the special "one on one" bond that we had.  I was so in love with my firstborn that in my hormone riddled state I just couldn't fathom loving anyone as much.  Of course, I soon came to realize that there is no limits on love and both my children are loved equally and immeasurably.  I think what you are feeling is normal, everything will be okay.    

[RockRose]

Happy2girls,  what is your birth order?

[Happy2girls]

I am the second born of six.  My sister was born and 10 months later I was born and 10 months after that my brother was born.  My brother and I were both premature.  The other three were spaced out a little better.    

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

i feel that way too my son is only 9 months he will be 10 months in a couple of days im only 13 weeks but its soo soon but atleast he wont realize but i love my son hes my best friend lol seriously he will always be my faviorte im hoping for a girl this time around dh has 3 sons including our son together so he will be in shock, but i guess its normal to feel this way. Don't worry everything will go great! im the middle child my sister is 6 years older than me and my younger sister is 3 years younger than me

[pertykitty]

i am a first born and my first is 10 yrs old.  when my baby (9 months now) was due i felt excited as can be but guilty that he wasnt my one and only.  i dont know what to make out of it but when your new baby comes you will love them both and hopefully it will get easier.  i still have moments that i feel sad i cant spend as much time with my son but since i bf i cant get away with just me and him time much.  us moms have this horrible desire to be the perfect mom to each child and to not make any of them feel less important.  when my second was born my son asked who i loved more.  i told him this
"i love you both the same but i have loved you longer".  she sure thinks that is the best thing and smiles quite large when he hears that!

[tjmartens]

awwe that's cute what you told your son pertykity...I am the First born;my only sister is 5 years younger than me...does that have something to do with my feelings? THat's interesting. People say it will change the moment you see the new baby. I have no doubt I will love them equally. I just want my first one to know he's not being replaced.