How long should I wait to have sex after a d&c???

[destiny1494]

I found out I was pregnant back in July and that was the happiest moment in the lives of me and my husband. Im 24 and married and we were looking forward to our first son. On the 16th of October my pregnancy came to an end because my bag started to come down as if I was in labor.  I wasn't n labor and I didn't dialate any either. The Dr. said that my cervix hasnt opened at all. In the end he told me how bad this looked and that there was nothing that can be done. I went into to labor after 2 IV bags of oxytocin and my son died on the way out the womb.  This was very difficult for me because I felt him kick as he made his way down to the canal to come out. I had a D&C on the second and my husband and I really want to try again asap. How long should I wait before having sex.  The bleeding stop the same day. I also want to know approximately how long would it take for me to conceive as well???

I hope that some can help me gather this information....

[RSunShine]

I am so sorry for your loss!! Losing a child is a very traumatizing experience. It's been almost 13 yrs since I lost my daughter and their isn't a day that goes by I don't think of her and the what if's. Anyhow I personally recommend that you definitely wait 6 weeks before having sex again. I tired shortly after my DNC and it not only hurt really bad for me but my boyfriend at the time stopped in the middle of well you know what because he said it stung lol. Guess what ever they use for the DNC caused his discomfort and well mine was from my body still not having healed.  I would also wait a few months before trying to conceive again. Your body needs to rest and if you get pregnant to soon it may not be strong enough for your next baby.  Look at it this way studies show it takes your insides a whole year after having a child to get back to it's pre-pregnancy state. I'm not suggesting you wait a whole year but at least wait until after six weeks. I hope this info helps and best of luck.

[RSunShine]

P.S. I forgot to mention that once you get pregnant it's very easy to conceive again ;).  My Friend conceived again three months after her child was born.

[peekawho]

You should wait as long as is recommended by your doctor.  After a situation such as yours, your cervix remains open, and the lining of the uterus is still raw and could become infected if sex is resumed too soon.

If your doctor didn't tell you how long he/she thinks is safe to wait, call the office and ask.  Your doctor knows you best, knows your history, and knows what should or should not be done better than any of us could simply guess at.

I'm sorry for your loss.  

[destiny1494]

To all that has or is going thru this please dont give up. Know that despite whats said by anyone the Lord has the last say so and know that if he thought u couldnt handle ur situation u wouldnt go thru it. I almost lost faith n the Lord and I give praise cause I didnt. Believe me there's nothing easy about loosing a child especially when u cant c urself without him or her but its better to accept Gods will and try ur best to understand it verus being angry and not accepting it. Being bitter and mad about it only hurts more and it also hurts ur loved ones. Until I joined this site I actually felt as if I was the only one going thru this and it felt like my son was the only child n the world to pass. Believe me mom and dads u r not alone. Moms please dont think that u r the only one affected by ur loss cause ur partner is probably hurting as much as u r and this is the time to be each others backbone and support system. please contact me if anyone ever feels they need to talk no matter the situation. U can leave me an email here and it comes straight to my cell if Im not on this site. Be Blessed and remember to always have faith and know that God has u despite how hard it may seem and how alone u may feel.  Love always, destiny