I am pregnant! Praise God!

[BlueBirdSchless]

hello every one. I'm on hold with the lab to get my results for my pregnancy test. While I'm waiting...
Is diareah a symptom of pregnancy? I never get nasea or breast tenderness, but I had diareah with my first pregnancy, but not my second.
Man, how long will I be on hold???
Okay. I'm Pregnant. I knew it! Pray for me though, I conceived just 10 days after a m/c.

[kissyrox]

Great big congrats. NEXT 9MOS ARE GOING TO BE WONDERFUL.

[mejoje]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!

Now just try to relax and enjoy the angel inside of you. God bless you and your family :)

[Dawn16]

Congratulations and lots of sticky dust to you!!!!

[MOM-of-3]

Congratulation,and may God richly bless you.

[greenpixie]

Congratulations!!  That's wonderful news!

[cutiemama]

Incredible news! Congrats and a happy and healthy 9 months to you. You give all of us that m/c hope!

[boycrazy]

Congratulations to you!!  Here's wishing you a happy, successful, nine months!!!

[Kel Kel1]

congradulations!!!!!!!!!!!! Happy and Healthy 9 months!

This is my first pregnancy and there are days i get diariea too!

[Morgan277]

Congrats to you!  so happy for you!  please continue to update us!

[april73]

Congrats to you! I pray you have a healthy nine months.

[MandaJo111]

That is so wonderful!!!

Best wishes to you,

Amanda

[Paulettehfx]

I am so happy for you girlfriend. I have tears right now, I know it has been hard and you have your reward. Just take it easy ok, no worring allowed. But you can still chat with us all and tell us we are going to make it. You are our role model. Love ya chicky.....

[BlueBirdSchless]

You guy's are so awsome! I'll still be here telling you you'll make it soon! :) Tricia

[stillwaiting]

congratulations!!!!!! I'm so happy for you.  Don't stop posting . You have just got to let us know what is going on. May God bless you and your family. Again I'm soooooo happy for you!

[msQ]

congrats,  I hope to start trying next month. I m/c 11/28  had my d&C 12/7 I just got my Period last night.

[BlueBirdSchless]

I bet youve never been happier to get your period! I'll be praying for you and everyone else ttc & those pregnant already. I'm so thankful for this websight for giving me peace of mind and hope. Thats my speech. Goodnight.

[Morgan277]

congrats again.

i was wondering if you spotted at all between the time you stopped bleeding and when you found out you were pregnant.  i just had a d & c in dec and although we didnt try, we didnt prevent anything from happening either.  i spotted the past few days- so light.  was hopeing it was implantion bleeding bc im sure im still a little sensitive inside but it could be from the miscarriage or even AF.  not sure.  just wondering if you had a similar experience.  im trying to be hopeful. lol

[Tilly27]

Congrats!!! I am so happy for you. I will pray for the health of you and your growing baby!

[Paulettehfx]

Hey chick me again.... Just curious what was your hcg today. And how far along? I know what the numbers should look like, mine have always been low, seen some nice and high. How are yours?

[jgirl34]

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is awesome news! STicky baby dust to you!! And I pray this will be a happy and healthy 9 months for you! Stand on faith!

[Jah02e]

CONGRATS!  Will pray for you to have a happy and healthy pregnancy!  Good Luck and Lots of Baby Dust!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[annoyomousD]

I'm 17.


I had sex with my girlfriend on 12/19/05.
Her periods are always on time, 28 days, starting on 12/02/05.
It was unprotective sex, but before you tell me about using some kind
of protection, I tried and she doesn't like it.
Now I know it's either sex with protection or no sex.


Right now her period is 1 week late (should have been 1/02/06) and I
asked her if she wanted to test for pregnancy but she refused, reason
being "What would happen if I was pregnant? How am I going to live with
that?"


My stupid life doesn't even stop here. She is Christian and her father
is a deacon. I'm already lucky enough to have sex with her! Abortion is
quite out of the question.
You guys might think I'm one of those immature teenagers, but trust me,
I'll be willing to accept the conseqeunces even if she wants to go
through with the baby (in case she is pregnant). After all, I love her.
It was just the heat of the moment that got me here.


But I'm living through hell right now. I know I had sex with her on one
of her more fertile times, but I did not ejactulate. The chances of
pregnancy is slimmer, right?
Everyday I see her at school I comfort her by saying it'll be okay when
I know it's clearly not.
Anyway, I came here for some advice on the situation and what might
this whole thing be.
She has shown no symptoms of pregnancy or any mood swings.
Could this be a miscarriage?
In case I convince her that having this baby will ruin our life and
change her mind about abortion, do any of you folks have any idea what
it's like? Just pop in a pill and it'll be fine? The price of it is
also quite expensive, nearly $450, something I can't pay within her
first trimester (if she is pregnant).
Well, that's my hell.
Thanks for reading.

ps: its quite funny to me how you ladies are trying so hard to get pregnant yet...we young uns get it so goddamn easily

[jifnif]

i guess you wont know until she takes a test so dont stress until she does.  and of course everyone here is trying to get pregnant....you are in the maternal forum!!!

[IWantToBeAMom]

You did not ejaculate inside her.  The chances of becoming pg through the withdrawl method are slim.  There is a chance, yes, but not much.  A healthy couple only has about a 20%-25% chance of becoming pg each month and that is when they are actually trying, so your chances are much less than that.

Now that she is one week late a home preg. test would certainly be accurate.  You should consider buying one for her and then taking it together - well, you know what I mean, while you're both in the room.  They are relatively inexpensive, the Answer brand is less than $10 for two tests.  Talk to her first, and make sure her period has not started, and then go buy one even if she tells you not to.  Maybe if you have the test in-hand, and you're supportive and want to be there with her, she'll take it.  She needs to know if she is pg so that she can start going to the doctor for prenatal care!  She needs to start taking prenatal vitamins too if she's pg.  It's not about her anymore - she needs to know for the sake of the baby she might be carrying.

Now, again, I think the chances of her actually being pg are slim.  I think her period is late because she's stressed about having unprotected sex.  Believe me, just the tiny thought in the back of your mind can throw your period off by quite a bit.  I'm married, already have 1 baby, and would be perfectly able to have another one.  But a couple months ago I thought we might have had an "oops" and it made my period late by 8 days.  That never happens to me either.  I'm very regular just like your girlfriend.  If you're telling the truth and you didn't ejaculate inside her, then I'm willing to bet she is not pg.

Beside the very important fact of protecting yourselves from STD's, if she's not pg and you guys luck out, and she doesn't like condoms, then she needs to get on birth control pills.  You can to go your local health department or Planned Parenthood and have privacy.

There's nothing you can do right now except get her to take that test.  That's the first step!  Good luck and let us know how things are going!

[IWantToBeAMom]

Oh, I forgot a couple questions:
No, this is not a miscarriage.  A miscarriage is when you are indeed pg and then begin to bleed and lose the baby.  If she is not bleeding at all then either her period is just late or she is pg and the pg is going fine.

An abortion is much more than taking a pill.  You are probably thinking of the Morning After Pill, a.k.a. Plan B.  This has to be taken within just a couple of days after the unprotected sex though.  So, this is not a option for you two.  Now she would have to get a medical procedure performed at the hospital by a doctor.  It would be a pretty big deal.

But just take a test first before worrying about any of this stuff.  The test will be such a relief when it says NEGATIVE.  Think about that............

[dandeelyon]

RU-486 (Mifepristone) can be taken up to 49 days after the last menstrual period if that is the pill you are talking about.  Your gf would have to take three pills over the course of several weeks.  It is a little pricey too and pretty painful from what I understand.

Good luck.  I know that this is a scarry time for you.  I hope everything works out for the two of you.

[dandeelyon]

Sheesh, and congratulations to you on your pregnancy.  I'm not sure the last few posts are really appropriate for you good news.  Probably should have been in a different thread.

I hope your pregnancy is totally uneventful.

[BlueBirdSchless]

ps-If your girlfriend is pregnant, tell her it's not the end of the world. She will have some explaining to do, which sucks, but it was her desision to have sex, and you should be along side her because you let her.
   I had my first daughter when I was 17. My life didn't go the way I had planned from that time on. It was very very hard at first because I didn't know how big of a responsability it would be. But it wasn't bad. I discovered that there was more to life than my needs and wants. I am a happy stay at home mother of two, married to an awsome man who takes care of me(not the original father of my 3 year old) That life really did not appeal to me at age 17. But things change. So good luck to you and think more.

[BlueBirdSchless]

Actually, I'm glad he came to my post. I say SHAME ON YOU! Distroying a girl like that. Getting her pregnant is not distroying her, thats an opinion, And maybe my objection to your activities is mere opinion also. But non the less. You are a man who was put on earth to guid and protect woman from harm. Woman get tempted, men get tempted, I don't say oh well, just do it! I say where are the good men? If she is a Christian you have led her astray, does that say I love you?

[AndiJ.78]

I think that is an awfully harsh way to respond to this young man. Shame on him? Shame on you. He was coming here for advice and support, not judgment. Not to be told he is ruining his girlfriend's life. That he ruined a Christian girl, if her faith was that strong, she wouldn't have allowed it or encouraged it. And certainly not to be told he isn't a good man. If he weren't a good man, would he be here on a Maternal Child Forum seeking out advice?

I agree with the other posters that stated she needs to take a test before you worry so much. The guilt of having unprotected sex may have been enough to cause the delay in her period. Our minds and bodies work in mysterious ways. Once she takes the test, you will have a better idea of where to go from there. If she is not pregnant, maybe this will be enough of a scare to convince her that you both need to be protecting yourselves a little better. If she is pregnant, you have a lot of talking to do and some big decisions to make.

Good luck with everything.

Andi

[BlueBirdSchless]

It was my opinion, from personal experience. Plus, I didn't say he ruined her by getting her pregnant, or that it was entirely his fault, SHE made the choice, but he DIDNT stop it. They made a mistake, I know it's impossible not to be tempted in any boy girl relationship,  They are not hated or condemed by any means, but it was wronge and I'm not really concerned about making him feel bad. Goodness!

[annoyomousD]

I'm sorry I'm posting things that aren't on topic, but this is very urgent, and I never get the chance to create my own thread.
As some of you remember me, I posted my what is wrong with my life basically. This is the continuation and I addressed some of the questions, but I still need more help.
Maybe this isn't the right place for abortion, but you guys gave me great feedback quick and a peace of mind.


>>About the no ejaculation - EVERY TIME you have unprotected sex, there's
>>a chance of pregnancy. Also a very real chance of disease transmission
>>- you might want to let her know that the most common STD - venereal
>>warts/HPV is the primary cause of cervical cancer. Maybe that will
>>change her mind about protection in the future.

We both dont have any stds, but thank you for bringing that up.
Yes, I know that there will always be a chance when it's unprotected sex, but the chances are obviously lower if I dont ejaculate, hence people doing the pull out method. Now I learned it's not a very effective method.

>>Depending on where you live, if there is a Planned Parenthood office
>>anywhere around (I'm in Cali, too, look for them in the phone book.), I
>>would advise you to get both of you there as soon as possible. They can
>>do a pregnancy test, talk to you about your options, and, if it works
>>out that way, help you get funding for an abortion. They are also very
>>experienced with these things, so they can help keep everybody calm.

I'm very unexperienced with these things, and I just found out that MediCal will accept minors for no charge. They told me to go to the social services place to apply, but I have no idea where that is. I live in Cupertino. I need help, lots of it.

>>Some thoughts - she MUST test and find out for certain. You will both
>>just be living bundles of terror until you know for sure. When you
>>know, then you can decide what to do.

She said she will after this week is over (2 week late period).

>>Keep in mind, abortion or parenthood are not the only choices - There
>>are plenty of people out there waiting to adopt.
>>I DON'T advise trying to hide it forever from her family.

No, we can't possible bear knowing that our child is not with us because of our mistake. I don't know if you know this, but as soon as her parents find out she'll be on the streets. It's quite odd how some Christians seem forgiving, but really, if anything bad happen like this, it's a totally different story.

>>(For girls) Can you buy tampons when you're with your dad?
>>(For both) Can you buy condoms when you're with your mom?
>>(Most important) Can you calmly talk to a doctor about things that might
>>be wrong with your vagina or penis?
>>If the answer to any of these is no, then you're not ready in your head,
>>and you should stick to masturbating and petting.

"Can you buy condoms when you're with your mom?"
Just because you are open about these things, does not mean all families are like that.
Sure, I'd be more than willing to share whatever I have with my doctor in private, but if my parents finds out I'm having sex, it's basically over. I just can't approach them about this topic. It would be great to have parents that I can talk to, but I don't which is the reason I'm here.
True, at this age and time, having sex when I'm 17 is quite stupid. I can't support myself or anyone else for that matter and well, I wish I was a bit more clear headed when I was doing it with her.
It's experience that teaches me I guess.

>>PLEASE don't pressure her to have an abortion - it can be emotionally
>>devastating to a woman, and for a younger girl, whoof, I don't wanna
>>think about it.

This is a conversation I had with her about this.
me: i know you are a christian and i respect it, but going through with the pregnancy will change our lives greatly
me: what is your decision?
me: i'll follow you to the ends of the earth, so dont worry about that
me: will you change your mind about abortion?
her: ...
her: feed me green bean soup
me: so is it okay?
her: do i have a choice
me: yes

Green bean soup is a myth that if you drink it while you are pregnant, you'll be more prone to having a deformed baby, or even a miscarriage.
I asked her a few times and she said she was okay with abortion when it comes down to it. I have not pressured her about this one bit, in fact I tried to cheer her up and avoid this as best as I can.

So after all this, I need to know how to apply for Medical, how long it'll take me before I can get approval, where is the Social Services...basically all the processes to get an abortion for a minor. Oh and I live in Cupertino. I take my driving test on the 1/21/06, so I can probably take her then (Yeah, I know cops will bust me if I drive people around without my six months, but what the hell).
I'm pressed on time, I heard the baby must be nine months or less otherwise she won't have the pills as an abortion method anymore (It's been about 5 weeks since her last period). I rather her not have to go through any kind of surgery.
I understand this whole thing is my fault and I'm going to take full responsibility to make things right again.
Please help!

[annoyomousD]

Excuse me, I meant 9 weeks.
Here's the website.

http://www.choicemedicalgroup.com/services.html

What Is Medical Abortion?
An alternative to surgery, medical abortion, sometimes referred to as the abortion pill, is an option for women who are less than 9 weeks pregnant. The abortion is brought about by taking a combination of two medications - mifepristone and misoprostol.

[BlueBirdSchless]

Okay, I may have come accross a little over bearing with my last two comments to you, but truely, abortion is a very seriouse thing and should not be done with out her knowing exactly what she is getting in to. There are so many woman out there who regret it for the rest of there lives. I know this because of a group in my friend's church called beauty for ashes, where woman are still greiving twenty, thirty years down the road. At five weeks a baby's heart will already be beating, that life was made from the point of conception no matter what planned parenthood says! It's like war trying to defend these small helpless babies. Very contriversal and it's nearly impossible not to offend someone no matter what you say. So I don't think about that, only about the ones without voices. abortion is murder. Look up a video called silent screams. They do an ultra sound while the abortion is takng place and you can see the baby screaming.

[Jmaoga]

Hey, I am ordiginally from Califoria, the Bay Area. I also have had an abortion there under the age of 18. I ws only 15 years old.

Let me tell you, I am against it now, but believe in freedom of choice. It was devistating for me. However, I am very familiar with this process and will be glad to help you.

Email me directly and I will give you all the details on how to get your one month emergency medcaid and schedule the abortion. Mine was through Planned Parenthood. Just know that if she is going to do this, the sooner you know, the less formed the baby will be, and the better off you all are, including the child.

My email address is jennifer_maoga***@****...

Jenn

[Jmaoga]

Sorry for the typo's in the last post. At work on lunch in a hurry. Just reading up cause I am now 12 weeks pregnant. This is a great forum.

Just an FYI but I am now 29 years old and a mother of 1 1/2 babies (and a Christian) so I am not someone just young and offering advice...LOL...and however I disagree with your choice, it is YOUR choice. No one should judge you.

The correct email address is jennifer_maoga***@****

[AndiJ.78]

For the last time, this is a support website, not a website to further your religious agenda. Sometimes it means we are offering support in situations we don't necessarily agree with, but we still need to offer it. If you can't find it in your heart to do so, move on.

You have no idea what these kids are going through, you do not live in their life. This is their decision to make and having you spout off this inflammaotory garbage is not making this decision any easier. Why do you feel the need to make it harder on them? Do you think this is an easy decision for them? None of us know what it is like to walk in their shoes at this very moment in time.

Maybe abortion is the absolute best decision for them in their situation. Bottom line is it is THEIR decision, not ours. It is not up to us to change THEIR mind or to make that decision harder for them.

Andi

[baby4Staci]

Let me tell you something... A medical abortion is a procedure that Drs perform to clear out the uterus.  They dilate the cervix and use a tool to scrape out the entire content of the uterus.  This is called a DE&C  Dilation, Evacuation, Cauterization.  I had this done 6 days ago to help me miscarry my embryo whos heart stopped beating. For us who didnt chose it to end our baby's life it is called a D(E)&C for us who do chose it to end our baby's life it is called a medical abortion. They call it an abortion because it is a heated word in our country.  If you an your girlfriend mutually agree that you cant have this baby then you will be making the right choice for you. As someone else said, there are many many people who would be willing to help you and you may be surprised at the support your families may offer you.  Just be aware that you and your girlfriend are going to need counseling.  this is going to be something that she will have to deal with for the rest of her life.  She cant change that once it has happened.  If she is pregnant now she will never be able to deny it.  This is especially important if she plans on being a mom anytime in her future.  And trust me.. this decision is totally up to you two but she needs your support and it may come back to haunt you.. i am speaking from experience..  Good luck.  This may be one of the hardest things you ever have to choose.

[mslkpage]

Yesterday, I posted the phone number to Planned Parenthood in Cupertino...just call it. Once again, it's 408-277-0777. You will find answers there. By posting and re-posting on different threads here, you're just causing problems.

He's referring to a medical abortion, not a surgical one. The medical abortion is a combination of two medications that cause the body to miscarry and expel the embryo.

[BlueBirdSchless]

D&C is not an abortion, that is completely diferent and not what he is talking about