I am worried that I am too stressed and will cause miscarriage!! PLEASE READ!!

[colleen831]

HI
I haven taken 3 hpt's since saturday all positive!! This is my 3rd.  My ds is 16 and my dd is 12 so I haven't been pg since in my 20's (I'm 36) and I am scared that I am going to m/c due to stress.  I am sitting here right now shaking as I type this.  I have been awake for hours not really stressing just excited and trying not to get too worked up until I see the dr. I am stressed right now b/c I just called out of work sick b/c I want to go to dr's hopefully this am to confirm (I won't believe it until then) and I hate lying and calling out sick when I'm really not.  I feel like I am having an anxiety attack!! Could this make me m/c.  I'm so scared!! I know this all probably sounds stupid, but I will relax if someone tells me they were a wreck the first few weeks of pg and made it through.  I know with my first two I was always worried, but not like this. PLEASE HELP!!!!

[marie1210]

First, you have to try and calm down.  It would take an extreme amount of stress to cause a m/c, most often they are caused by something else.  However, excessive worrying isn't good either.  Take this one step at a time.  Have you had a m/c before?  Just because you haven't been pregnant for a while doesn't mean that things aren't working right.  Congrats on your bfp.  Until you see the doctor, try to focus on something good like planning for this little blessing.  I've had 3 m/c in a row so I can understand your worry.  You've had other children so that's really good.  That means you have no reason to think that you will m/c this baby.  Good luck and let us know how the Dr.'s appointment goes.    

[colleen831]

Thank you!! I have never had a m/c before, but I am a worrier by nature. I also read too much I should stay off the computer.  My dr told me with my last two that I should throw out the books (we didn't have computers back then).  When my dr delievered my dd he said that she was here what was I going to worry about now!! lol!!

[ajemmom]

I agree that you should try not to worry so much about miscarrying.  I can't imagine that stress alone would cause a miscarriage, but I'm not a doctor.  I went through an INSANE amount of stress early in my last pregnancy, and now I have a healthy baby boy!  Good luck!

[lawgirl17]

Stress isn't a fun thing, and it isn't necessary a positive thing, but I have good news. I was in my final semester of law school and applying to take the Bar when I found out that I was pregnant in November. Exams were right around the corner, and it was crazy! I called my doctor because I was so concerned about my lack of sleep and how stressed out I was over the finals I was about to take as well as a custody dispute we were in over our foster daughter that we were caring for. Fortunately, my doctor told me that although I should try to relax for my own peace of mind, stress is not truly a contributor to miscarriage. She told me that if I was going to miscarry, I was going to miscarry despite the stress that I was under, and the stress was not going to increase or decrease the likelihood of miscarriage. It made me feel a lot better to know that if something happened, I wouldn't have "caused" it, but I still worried in the back of my mind. My advise to you is to try not to worry about it, but don't freak out that your stress is going to lead to a miscarriage because there is no clear connection between the two. Best wishes and congratulations on your pregnancy!