I know this may be a taboo subject but....

Am I the only women who cant stand their partners right now?  When I first got pregnant, two of my friends told me, "you're going to HATE your partner after a while".  I thought they were nuts but, it's happening.  I know it sounds terrible but I just thought I would put myself out there and see if there was anyone who felt the same way I did.  Anyone? :-/ I know I'm also hormonal but I feel like he's changing to.  I dont know if I should trust my feelings because of all the hormones.

[deanne11]

You made me laugh...I hated mine too...2 yrs later...still do....LOL

Just kidding...although yesterday and today was really really bad....I think I'm 'pms'ing...

I've never had emotional pms...just other symptoms...headaches-minor cramps but never....I'm going to bite your head off angry symptoms...I can't even stand the site of him right now..

He's all trying to hug and kiss me...telling me he loves me last night...I just wanted to punch him in the face...LOL

This is my first 'true' cycle coming on since April-May...before my multiple pregnancies and m/cs...it's going to be an ugly week.

[Harley-girl]

Oh yea!!! I can relate here I am almost 32 weeks and on bed rest with his daughter and he likes to come home after work, take the Harley out and head to the bar.  Last night he gets home and I ask him to bring me an apple and he says no!!!!  OMG I almost beat the **** outta him. Then he has the nerve to ask if I feel up to having sex.    Damn I can feel my blood pressure going up as I type this.
Of course he got no sex nor is he ever going to get any again...
He has also just called to make sure I am on my left side and to tell me that he is gonna take the Harley out again tonight that he may even leave work early today to do it.

[deanne11]

Beating him at 32 weeks....LOL
Wait until 40 weeks during labor...My husband is lucky he still has his manhood attached.

GOOD LUCK LADIES....Doesn't get any easier when they decided changing diapers isn't for them...nor is bathtime and bedtime or feeding time....LOL

It's a real joy being a 'single' mom but not really.

[stephd]

AMEN TO THAT!  Men just dont wanna do those things....

AT FIRST THEY WILL help and then once the newness wares off then they dont want to anymore.  Its like any other chore to them!  They just dont think like we do or feel like we do when it comes to or kids!  I mean in the beginning my DH would change Troy's diaper ALL THE TIME, then one day he decided he didnt want to much anymore!!  I hate that so bad.  I work all day too and am just as exhausted (IF NOT MORE NOW) but I still do that plus everything else.  I have already warned him that as my belly gets bigger he will have to give Troy a bath until I have the baby!  He wasnt too happy but oh well!

Good luck to all the 1st time mommies with their DH's!!

[newbie2b]

I asked mine to clean up after himself after he shaves his face.  I hate hair all over the sink! Esecially on my toothbrush!! Dont you just love brushing your teeth and finding little bits of hair on your brush?  And then he starts about how he has been doing so much in the house!? Yeah because I've been hardly able to get out of bed for the first three months.  I would switch place with him anytime.  He gets the morning sickness and I'll clean.  Sounds like a far deal, no? MEN!

[girliegrl1723]

This is absolutely the best thread i've seen in a while. let's all dish about how annoying men are - in general. i now know why god chose for women to give birth because if men had to do it, forget it. there would be no population. men are too big of babies to have babies. my husband and i went to outr first child birth class on tuesday night and it's a miracle i made it through without embarrassing us. all he did was complain. this is the one thing i've asked him to do for me this whole pregnancy and he was such a girl about it! it was too long and his back was hurting and blah blah blah. i know all he wanted was for it to be over so he could meet his cousin at the bar. doesn't it matter at all that i am 7 months pregnant and uncomfortable most of the time or that we were sitting there learining about the excruciating pain i have to endure in order to give birth the YOUR child. grrrr. i just keep telling myself that my son, who will be here in almost 2 months, will know exactly what NOT to do when his future wife is pregnant! haha. men have it way to easy, they deserve some bashing every now and then <3

[deanne11]

stephd - yeah DH loved his little girl for about 2 months...wanted to do everything for her...I got to be home with her all day on leave so when he came home...he was all jealous and did everything....now she's 2 - I'm lucky she knows who he is...LOL

newbie - LOL - you have me laughing again...hair on the sink and wet....LOL...that's what triggered my PMS ranting and raving this morning.

Every Every morning without fail...he leaves it wet and whiskers everywhere...I swear he never did that stuff before we were married...now it's like I'm the wife and slave

[lhowell]

My sister thinks the feelings are God's way of "testing your relationship."  I remember being 6w pg and I asked my hubby for fruit punch and specifically told him I didn't want anything carbonated...he bought me Welch's Fruit Punch...the soda/carbonated stuff.  I actually threw it at him.

I can still remember the look on his face (he was only trying to help).

Best wishes...and try counting to 10 before you want to "chew him out".  Pregnancies are stressful for the guys, too.

[jd1419]

I can relate with all of you.  Also, I have two boys who are the sweetest guys on the earth most of the time. But, one day they will be men and there is nothing I can do about it.  I think everything we teach them jsut flies out he window when they get a certain age--they act alomst like a three year old at times.

[newbieG]

its interesting what ttc does to your marriage and sex life!  someone at work who is getting married ( a man) asked me if we were ttc and i went off aobut "wait till you get to that, its not as fun/easy as everyone says it is"  marriage is interesting blah blah blah... he was prob like what the he*# ?  men and women are so different, its a wonder we can survive marriage! my dh and i have been fighting a lot lately too, over stupid stuff, but then we do the silent treatment for days... not good, but we are both so stubborn! i cnat wait to see what its like when we finally do have kids!

[newbie2b]

I know your pain! lol I HATE HAIR!  And he is so hairy.  He has hair on his back, and his chest.  I find little hair all over the floor and bed sometimes.  Poor dog!  Sometimes when I'm cleaning his bowl, I see little men hairs on the bowl. Not sure how they get there! EWWW!
And feet.  YUCK!  I'm so glad it's not just me.  Now all I have to do is be prepared to take care of the baby myself, and I'll be all set!  lol

[stephd]

LOL!!  You make me laugh...BUT I feel your pain girl!  I know exactly what you mean.  men are something arent they?!?!

[petanka]

I think I scared my hubby away! Just the other night, I was taking my DD to Michaels to get some drawing paper and so I ask hubby to cook dinner. (spagetty-that is about all he can cook beside a cup of water) Anyway, I get home about 6pm and dinner is almost done, (I tried to pretend that I did not see the dirty stove) and so we ate. Later on, I go priming the nursery and I find him in bed taking a nap because "he is exhausted." I was so furious that I had to count till 5 to come down and not kill him! I cook his dinner every d** night and then do homework with DD, clean the dishes, do the laundry etc. and have no time to nap. He cooked once and he "is so exhausted." Anyway, I bi****d so much...either way, he is on a plane to Ireland right now. Lucky him! By the way, I am 31 weeks! He has to put up with this for 9 more weeks and then it is going to be completely different kind of H***! LOL

[Hope2OneDay]

Wow...I hate to be the opposite of everyone, but my dh has almost been TOO nice lately. He gets on my nerves sometimes, but no more than usual, I guess. I was more irritable during my first trimester, and little things would annoy me. I could fuss at him for something, or complain, and he took it all in stride.

The weird thing is that for the past couple of weeks, he has been SUPER sweet.
First, he INSISTED on taking me to the mall so I could use my Victoria's Secret coupon for a free pair of panties (not the sexy kind, just some big ole' granny panties to wear while I'm pg).
Then, while we were there, I told him I wanted to just "check out" the maternity store downstairs. Well, there's an EB Game store right next to it, and I told him he could go and look at the electronics/games while I look around the Maternity store. He insisted on coming with me. Then, while I'm having my boobs measured for a bra, he strolls around the store and picks out 5 shirts that he thinks would look good on me. He proceeds to go into the dressing room with me while I try them on. He did a great job of picking out shirts! After I picked my favorite, he insisted on buying it for me.

Second, as I was laying down the other night, he asked if I needed another pillow...so I said sure, why not? He brought two extra pillows, then proceeded to "help" me get comfortable by putting one behind my back (between the two of us) and for in between my legs! LOL I was like, have you been reading my books...about how a man can help his wife during pregnancy? And he said no.

Lastly, we were shopping at Sam's Club last night, when he comes up behind me and starts rubbing my shoulders. Then, he says..."You know what I'm gonna do tonight?" and I look at him warily and say "No...what are you going to do?"
And he tells me that he is going to book me an appointment at his personal spa! LOL And when we got home, he gave me a full body massage (with lotion)! I thought for sure he would get all "romantic" and try to get some action from me, but he didn't. Once he was finished, we just lay there and watched tv!

So, as much as I could USUALLY complain about my dh...I have to say I'm really thankful for him right now! :-)

[deanne11]

Are you sure DH isn't a woman?  LOL

I'm kidding....at least one of us out there has man who thinks beyond himself every once in awhile...

LOL - My DH is wonderful...he really is but man there are days when I just want to throw him thru a wall.

[deanne11]

Thanks everyone...I needed this today.  Boy this first cycle after 2 m/c is brutal on my hormones.

I can relate to all of you and your stories...even Hope2ONeDAy (sometimes - LOL)

It's comforting to know and there is something to be said about the way we love them anyway...unconditionally.

[gabesmom]

He sounds GUILTY!!!!!  You better check your bank statement...I bet he bought a new set of golf clubs or something!

[newbie2b]

Hey.. Sorry your hormones have been going nuts.  But just know that your not alone...lol obviously there are tons of women on this site who's hormones are going bonkers!  It's amazing to me that we can sit here and have civil conversations among us without ripping each others heads of..lol :-)

[jifnif]

What a great topic...I almost want DH to read this.  He thinks I am the only woman to ***** at a man in the universe!!!  I am always on his case about hair after shaving!!!!  Oh, and the tinkling everywhere but in the toilet!!  Haha, thanks...I thought I was the only one.

[Hope2OneDay]

deanne- I have to admit...when I was in the dressing room trying on shirts, I said "You did a REALLY good job picking out shirts...are you SURE you're not gay, and I'm just your "cover" wife?" LOL
Honestly, I never knew he could pick out stylish clothes...and I usually DO end up asking my hairdresser (who IS gay) what the latest fashions are...and to keep me looking "hip" at my age! LOL  

gabesmom- I must say that the "guilt" thing HAS crossed my mind! I asked him one night if he was cheating on me...because he's been so nice lately (jokingly, of course). I honestly think that since my belly has started poking out more, he is really starting to feel like "we're pregnant". You know? He seems more excited than he had in the first trimester, and genuinely wants to be a part of it. Hey, if my being pg brings out his "sensitive" side...I'm all for it! LOL

[deanne11]

That's funny....picking out clothes for you...my DH would have me in thongs and pointy bras all the time...LOL

I have to say thinking back to my pregnancy (my 'healthy' one was 2 years ago)...My DH was GREAT.  We found out I was pergnant on Dec 14th...right before Xmas....he took great care of me...prepared the holiday meals...all the cleaning, in fact I wasn't allowed to clean at all during my pregnancy...he was afraid of the chemicals and breathing them in.  He dusted, vacuumed and washed the floors.  I was allowed to do dishes but I had a dishwasher so I didn't mind...LOL

He even walked the dog...always.  It was my dog of 8 yrs...but he decided he was to much for me...'a big yellow lab' who thought he was only 2.

I'm just grouchy today because I think AF is coming...my first in a long long time.   Haven't had any successful pregnancies this year even though we conceived twice

[Hope2OneDay]

Yes...my dh does that sometimes, too...he cleans a lot, and doesn't let me around chemicals.
He even took over cleaning the litter box with enthusiasm! LOL

I'm sorry you've had such trouble...I pray that everything will change for you, and that better days are ahead. If it weren't for faith and hope, we all would have curled up and died a long time ago...so keep the faith! :-)

[Wooly25]

I have a great husband, but we'll see how it goes.  We are due in April and I am going to take off about 6 to 8 wks, and then since he is a teacher he gets summers off, so he is going to have the baby from end of May to middle of Aug, all to himself during the day.  He said he thinks it is going to be fun, I told him good luck.  This is our first, I just hope he can handle it. lol

Today he stayed home sick and our house was so messy (it's on the market) so we are supposed to keep it clean.  Well, I bribed him with a very eary Xmas present (xbox game) if he cleaned while he was at home today.  I left and he was working away.  I didn't think he would fall for it, but I guess i know the way to his heart. lol

[ember2282]

annoying men? a taboo subject? whathuh? :o)

when i started this whole bed rest thing 5 weeks ago, my fiance just amazing. he'd get up early before work to fix me breakfast and bring it to me in bed, call to check in on me during the day, and run errands/pick up the house/cook, etc. without any complaints.

fast forward a few weeks, especially when this once darling man has not been working for a few days (he's a landscaper and their season is slowing down so there's not much work to be done) and has been stuck in the house with me. right now, i am looking at a mountain of crusty dishes stacked all over the sink. he had been playing video games for a few hours, but he beat the game so now he's wandering about the house whining "i'm boooorrrrred!" i've been on strict bed rest for FIVE weeks...what the *!@$ does he mean, HE is bored?! worst of all, his solution to being "booooorrrred" is annoying the **** out of me and our cat...i'll leave it to you all to decide which one of us retaliated by swiping at him with claws bared! :o)

honestly, when he gets this way, he's no better behaved than a rotten 5 year old. i've suggested thousands of little activities/errands for him to do that will get him out of the house, but he seems to be more content to simply sit around here and whine about being bored. i've sent him off to bed now, hopefully a nap will improve his mood!

thankfully, this is the LAST day of bed rest for me...WAHOO!!!! he is taking me to get my hair cut tomorrow (yay!) and then we are going to go shopping and get lunch (spicy indian food...hopefully labor-inducing, haha). a nice break from being stuck in the house all day!

[jd1419]

Well, I hope if u r off of bedrest that it is safe for you to go into labor--then you can tell your guy he willnever be bored again.  There is always something to do with the little.  Then he will probably change hsi tune and say "I'm tired of the baby can I have a break.  I didn't think they would take up so much of my time."  My hubby said this--I told him then he shouldn't of had kids.

Good Luck on your baby