IVF

[buda1]

I was just wondering how many of you have gone through IVF?  I just had a dr's appt today with my fertility dr and since my three attempts at IUI's didn't work, he said that my next step would be IVF.  I would do anything to have a baby, but we just can't really afford $15,000 for the procedure right now and then whatever else it costs if the first attempt doesn't work. I am going to call my insurance company today and see what they say. Also, those of you that have had IVF, how long had you been trying. My DH and I have been trying for 2 years. I just don't know what to do anymore!  Sometimes I think if I just throw in the towel and give up on the whole ttc thing, it will happen. Then I also feel like a failure to my DH because I am stopping him from becoming a daddy.  I am just so stressed out right now!  Any info would be much appreciated!  Have a great day ladies!!

[LUVBABIES]

1yr naturally=BFN
6months chlomid=BFN
one IUI =BFN
1st IVF=BFN
2nd IVF=BFN able to freeze 6embryos
1st FET (frozen embryo transfer)= ?  

I will find out tomarrow when I go for my PG test.  But I feel a BFN coming on again.  I don't feel any different at all :(

[AnnieBrooke]

We tried for 15 years and our second IVF has worked (so far, knock wood!  I'm at 23 weeks pregnant.)  Part of the long time was that in that 15 years we couldn't afford to try IVF again (we tried once and that was all the money we had for it for a long time).  The good thing about IVF is that it does buy you time.  Good luck, I know exactly how it is.  Annie

[Berko]

i'm going through my first ivf cycle now. we decided to take this route after 2 m/cs (one pregnancy on own with monitoring and the other on meds and iui) and after 2nd did meds and iuis again, but dh sperm count getting lower and lower so this was next step. it's definitely a big expense, but there are some insurances that have some (if not all) coverage. what state do you live in? i live in ny and can tell you what insurance i'm on if it will help. other than that Thank G-d for credit cards!! please don't feel like it's your fault you dh isn't a daddy - infertility is a common problem and can't help you by blaming yourself for something that's not in control. just Thank G-d that there's so much technology and medical advances made these days so you have what to work with when trying to get pregnant naturally just doesn't work. You'll get there - believe!! what does your dr. say the issues are? why doesn't he think you're getting pregnant? thinking of you and if you have any questions i'm here - ask away. good luck.

[latina_love_goddess]

Here there.  I lost my virginity when I was 17.  I had unprotected sex here and there.  I was married at 21 divored by 23. But was with him for 6yrs.  Never got preg.  I was obese at the time and had constant menus and had hypothyroidism.  To make a long story short it just never happend for me.  Met my DH in 2003 and nothing.  He was married for 8yrs..nothing for him til their divorce and she got preg and then had a m/c.  I had decent ins. Lifetime max of 10k and covered it all..any incurred expenses...went through all the testing and the doc said its up to you what route you wanted to take...why waste time of clomid or anything else..it just eats away at those expenses and its not guarenteed...well neither is IVF but if its undefined...no issues...good sperm count good FSH.  Anyhow I am 30wk preg and 10more weeks to go with my little guy kicking all the time.  One attempt...1 egg implanted...paid out 2k upfront before I started injections...expenses were quite high..they estimated 10k but of the allowable covered amts...ins only paid out like 5k..so I have 5k more for future transfers...i have 4 babies in cryo waiting to be born....Good luck....its the best feeling..I used my Flex spending card...you can take out a small loan...borrow from your 401 if you need too...if you have flex spending...max out what your budget can afford its the best thing...tax exempt dollars...good luck

[ama67]

I did 3 IUI's also and didn't work.  I did 3 IVF's the last worked however, In MA you health insurance covers 6 IVF's and we have never not tried for the 8 years of our marriage however in the last 3 years we have been checking my temp. and using ovolating sticks and it wasn't working or when I finally did get PG I would m/c.  The entire procedure can be stressfull so you can't feel that you will be letting your dh down or that it's all your fault you can't lay that on yourself it doesn't help anything.  Go into this with as positive an attitude as you can.  I know what your feeling I am the pesimist in the family and my dh was the optimist and lean on dh together you can get through anything.  Lots of luck.