Incomplete Miscarriage

This is not a question but in reference to 'Need to Vent' .....
(I guess it is quite normal for us women experiencing complacations during pregnancy to have to wait for our results. This takes a lot of self control, especially on my behalf as I am really no good at surprises.
I am 8wks pegnant and I have been spotting now since Sunday 5th, that is 10 days. It is progressively getting a little worse. Similar sypmoms as desribed by alot of women in this forum, brown spotting on tp, progress to light pink with small tissue on tp, and yesterday a little showing on the panty liner.
I have made calls to the doctor immeadiately and on two occasions was told it is quite common in early pregnancy. On Wed 8th I arrived at Emergancy and spent the night in hospital as the cramps were getting worse. Had external and trans virginal U/S and was told although the sac looked good, there was no sign of the baby, but there is still a 50/50 chance it is still there!
One week on I finally get into a second U/S tommorrow at 2.30pm. I think I have gone through every emotion possible. When I think I will be ready to hear that I have had a loss, i soon realise i am not and I feel sick.
I feel pregnant, sore breasts, mood swings, nausea, dizziness bleeding gums etc but I wonder if it iall a cruel joke my body is playing on me. I want this baby so much and I am having trouble beleiving that my body is doing this. I have a beautiful 1 year old, loving partner and a fabulous support network. So why do I feel all alone?)


RESULT; I have had an incomplete miscarriaage. I am quite upset as you could imagine as my utopian dream was to have my second child as soon as possible, but as we are all aware, each pregnancy is different. My partner and I have a good realationship and are quite open with  our feeling on the matter. Iam having trouble talking about it at the moment but I will keep you posted on my progress. Thankyou for letting me share my story. it hepled to share the load.
Good luck and thankyou to you all.

[snagglepuss1]

hi

i am so sorry to hear what you are going through, it isn't nice at all, i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy to lose a much wanted baby.  everyone reacts differently to loss but i would say keeping things in doesnt help, i did exactly that, i lost 3 babies in the past and it almost cost me my marriage at one point and my hubby and i get on and communicate really well too, i just felt i couldnt talk to him about it, i think it is because your body is going through the physical turmoil and that is what makes you feel so alone, but when i did i felt so much better, i dont have family close to me but talking to them about it when i saw them helped too. i have a daughter who is 2 1/2 now and a son almost a year and my third baby is due 1st feb. will the hospital perform a d&c with it being incomplete? my 2nd preg was a missed miscarriage and i required a d&c for it.
i wish you all the best, keep your chin up!

claire

[Mummy2Lucy]

hi claire,
Yes, I see the gyno tommorow about the D&C. I am worried but also feel it is time to try and get a little closure. Hope that doesn't sound insensitive but I have been in limbo for close to 2 weeks now and I am relieved I know what is going on, even if it is not what I wished and prayed for. My doctor is very compassionate and has consulted me on my decision to go ahead with a D&C. It is hard to trust a stranger but I guess the radiographer is the expert. I was lucky I guess as she herself had miscarried and was very complete in her examination. She even showed me the blood flow in my uterus which was unusual to see this early.
Thankyou for your knid wishes and the chin is up, for tonight at least!

[empty]

i just want you to know youre not alone on this. I had an incomplete miscarriage last year and bled for 3 weeks and my HCG levels wouldnt fall. It was the worst pain to know i couldnt keep my pregnancy and after much begging i was finally given a D&C. It brought closure for me but no less painful. I am so sorry youre having to go through this but please use us to vent.  Take care

[jazzyri]

My heart goes out to you.  I had a missed miscarriage in July and had to have a D&C. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through.  I felt the same way you do, I just really needed closure and I don't think it's insensitive to feel this way.  

[frankei0505]

I am sorry to hear about your loss....I just went through the same thing in July, the waiting killed me and once they told me that I had a missed miscarriage all I wanted them to do was a d&c.  This sounds kinda funny, but when they were done with the d&c I actually felt releaved.  I was so worried about everything that I couldn't work, eat, sleep.  I was consumed with being pregnant. I am 33 and that was my first pregnancy.  My husband was understanding at first, but couldn't understand why I was crying so much.  I tried not to talk to him so much about it as he could not grasp the situation.  The dr also said my chances were 50/50, and also said that 90% of women who have a m/c go one to carry babies full term.  I liked the odds of 90% vs. 50/50.  We are going to start ttc as soon as my levels are down.......

Good luck to you, keep you head up and everything will be ok.

[Mummy2Lucy]

Went th the OB to day and was sent to hospital for D&C. Was quite scary in waiting room but to ease the mind there were three other women in for the same procedure. Seem unusual but a sense of releif to know that I wasn't alone, not that their pain made me feel better, I mean the whole ordeal in not uncommon, sad but true.

One thing the OB told me was that I am feeling pregnant because it isn't the baby what causes the pregnancy symptoms but the placenta that creates the feeling of pregnancy. Because the micarriage is incomplete and gest sac is still whole, the symptoms won't ease off till it is passed or removed. This also give me a sense of releif to know that the miscarriage won't feel physical anymore. Small piece of mind.

Hope anyone reading this posting can feel a little releif that they are never alone. Thankyou to all of you ladies with kind words and supporting natures -X-

[Mummy2Lucy]

Well just a quick update.

It has been two weeks since my curette and I don't feel beeter, just bitter. I am still bleeding heavily and I am off to see the doctor on Monday. I didn't realise the stats about a D&C before having it done. It all seems to be a risk. I want to try for another baby ASAP. I don't enjoy this empty greif, and it makes it harder to question if the grief is real? Will keep updating till I feel healed.