Just miscarried...Trying again.too early?

[Bron18]

I have just recently had a miscarriage and I am trying again. I just found this site last night and I am so glad that there are other people with the same question.
I would like to keep in contact to find out what happens with all of you that are trying again after miscarriage.

Did any of you first have a period after you miscarried?

[energy_train]

Most doctors recommend waiting 1-3 cycles after miscarriage as your hormone levels need time to come down. It also depends on how far along you were.  I was 13 weeks when I miscarried and my doc. was ADAMENT about waiting at least 3 months.  There are many people who get pregnant right away and go on and have great pregnancies and some miscarry again.  Nothing is fool proof. My doctor says that your chance of a molar pregnancy increases if you get pregnant right away and that if you had a D&C, you need to give your uterus lining a little time to build back up to successfully carry a baby.  Hope this helps.  All in all, it's up to you and your doctor.

[2ndBaby]

After my miscarriage my doctor suggested waiting for at least one cycle, so that we would be better able to date a future pregnancy.  (I did not have a D&C).  However, although I didn't intend for it to happen, I was pregnant again before my cycle returned.  I am happy to say I had a healthy baby boy.

[ChelseyK]

It took 6 weeks for my period to return after my miscarriage at 8w.  The waiting is awful!  I wanted to be pregnant again so bad, but this period is almost closure for us.  As energy_train said, we were told to wait 3 cycles before ttc again.  I personally feel, try when you feel ready to.  It is, although, good to wait for one cycle to correctly date the pregnancy, and give your uterus time to heal, you want that new lil embryo to attach to a nice cushy lining. Just be sure you are mentally ready to accept a new pregnancy, it will be hard and very stressful.  I wish you the best with your recovery and your journey to try again!

[Katie611]

hi. i too had m.c iwas just 6wks. i too wanted to try straight away. i on clomid and been trying for 3yrs before i fell. it be 3months and i havent fallen as yet. i at the hsp in end june so i see what happens. but keep positive and hopefully we will fall again.

[110279hld]

I had a m/c in the end of feb at 6 weeks as well.  I have been trying to get preggers since with no luck.  I am now on my 5th cycle and they have been normally spaced, but something isn't right.  I am going to the docs in 2 weeks.  I have non stop cramps.  we shall see.  good luck.

[pmperez]

I was also told to wait to try again after my miscarriage but I ended up pregnant before my next cycle and Im now 4 months!

[GoingOnFiveKids]

I am going to be 31wks tomorrow, this occured after a d&C on Oct 8, 2007. I got a positive result on Nov 25, 2007 I didnt even get my cycle yet. And my baby girl is holding on real tight. I've have a few surgeries down there too. I've had 2 blighted ovums that required two D&C and an etopic pregnancy that was growing on my right ovarie but it was just a mass of tissue and blood and that required another surgery. I also had that miscarriage on Oct 8 that required another D&C and I concieved again and the baby is still hanging around. Mind you my last baby was a c section too.  

[Bron18]

Thank-you so much for all your advice, i was 6weeks and had a natural miscarriage and did not need a d&c, the part that makes me so angry was that i got so excited that i went all out on getting my baby room to welcome my precious bundle and then a week later i miscarried, so now in my house the baby room is fully equiped with a cot, a compactum, a pram a picolo, a bath, a cupboard full of adorable little clothes and no baby. The only person that i can be angry with is myself, but i just cant help asking over and over in my mind, WHY give it to me in the first place if you are going to take it away? I got my period yesterday and it really just confirms my loss, because in a very strange way i almost didn't want to believe that i had miscarried. We have been trying for 2 years so when i fell preg it was the most amazing feeling i have ever felt in my whole life. Now i feel deppressed, any advice?

[Nosis]

I miscarried at 22 weeks 2 months ago I want to try again but not sure when to do it

[nikigat]

keep talking... that's the best advice that was given to me after my missed m/c at 12 weeks (angel grew wings at 9 w).  find people who have been there, in RL or in the forums, and keep talking. don't let the sadness engulf you, and know that there are others who have been down that road, who are walking beside you, and who are cheering you on from the finish line.

I know that the first cycle after your m/c is the hardest one. I cried for days when I got mine. having people to talk to has made all the difference. We had been trying for 13 months when we conceived our angel, and another 3 since the first cycle back after the m/c, so i understand the pain of ttc, and of the lack of success. its definately a hard road, but so worth it in the end. We're 5 weeks pregnant right now, and praying that this one goes full term.

*Good luck*

[Bron18]

Thanks so much, i really hope that it works for you too. Its so hard to deal with this sort of thing and i almost feel like i am being weak when i dont just get over it and move on, but i wish there was a do it yourself manual on how to get over it and carry on with life. everyone says dont worry it happened for a reason and the same expression everytime someone new finds out, but one comment that really made me smile was, dont worry next time you will just have to make love in afrikaans, absolutely love that.

[Jusaqirlxox]

I had a MC with my first pregnancy at 12wks5days and had a D&C. It was the most heart breaking experience ever! Me and my husband have been together for 6 years and married for almost 2 years. We def. are wanting to expand our family and have a child. We really weren't TTC at the time, it was one of those things if it happens, it happens. If it don't, it dont. But when I found out I was pregnant we were estatic. We were so much in love the baby before we met her. At the hospital they did tell me she was a girl. We already had a name picked out and everything. After I had the D&C they told me to wait at least 2 cycles before trying again. I recently just had my 2nd cycle so we are trying again. I hope this next time is better then the first. But my precious angel is in heaven and I know God had a bigger plan for her.