Late Miscarriage/Still Born at 23 weeks-when to ttc?

[wishing2beamom10]

I recently delivered our sweet baby boy that passed away due to a cord accident almost a month ago, I was 23 weeks pregnant.  We were devasted, we were so excited to have this addition to our family.  We love our little Angel Baby. And we are wanting ttc as possible, my ob said to wait until I have one period, I'm wondering how strict that is first of all, and second how soon did others who experienced this tragedy get pregnant?  Thank you for your help and advice.

[lornesmom]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I had my second son still born at 22 weeks in January 08. He failed to thrive because I had picked up a bug called 5th disease from my toddler who was in daycare at the time. My toddler and I didn't get really sick or anything and the doctor said it should definately never cause any problems with future pregnancies (as I'm immune to it now), however he was strict about waiting to try again. Just to make sure the uterus has shrunken back and all the tissue from the innitial pregnancy has been expelled. Its hard, but helps to know that its worth the wait to give the next baby the best possible start. Hope that helps!

[mamaofonetrying42]

My girlfriend had this happen to her, I believe she waited 3months before getting pregnant again, she lost her baby boy in Nov of 2007 and welcame another boy in to the world in Dec. 2008....So sorry for your loss and Good Luck :o)

[claire38]

hi there i had a still born at 22 weeks due to genetic complications last nov 28 (08) the doc gave us the clear at my postparteum at 4 weeks to try again if we want to. so we figured since it took us 5 month to get pregnant the 1st time that we might as well start trying again in jan well call me  fertle mertle cuz i got pregnant in jan. my baby girl was born the 12 of oct and we couldnt be happier. we look at it as if the 1st wasnt a still born we wouldnt have our beautiful little girl our 1st if was a girl was going to be named lillian so we gave madi the middle name lilly. its truly up to u how long u want to wait. but dont look as it as replacing the one u lost. look at it as having another baby good luck with what ever u decide

[gymmom222]

I lost my son Jonathan on Aug 18 09 at 35 weeks due to unknown issues and my dr said to wait one cycle.  So we are on our first cycle now and are definitely hoping to get pregnant!!!!

I send all my prayers to you!

[kedarhaze]

So sorry for all of the stillbirth. My friend went through it, I remember how I felt for her. Now she has two little girls. Girl the body time to get back ti normal

[wishing2beamom10]

I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers go out to you.  Best of luck to you conceiving again soon!  I'm hoping the same thing, how has your body done in the recovering process?....I'm not sure when my cycle will come back, but I'm hoping so much that it's soon!! Was your little Jonathan your first?  We are doing the burial of our little one in the next week and my heart goes out to any woman that has had to go through this.  Again, my prayers are with you.

[gymmom222]

My body was pretty good in recovering, i felt physically great by 2-3 weeks.  My husband and i began trying again after 2 weeks and 4 days.  (I delivered my son naturally at 35 weeks).  My period came back 7 weeks after i gave birth and lasted 5 days.  And as you know I just found out I was pregnant a few days ago.  
Yes Jonathan is my first baby.  And I am terrified right now!!!

Oh an we used the ovulation tests and I think that is what helped us conceive so quickly.

What did you name your son?  Was he your first? Did you deliver him naturally? How did you find out what happened?

I wish you nothing but strength in the next week as you have to say your final goodbyes to your son.  Nothing will be harder than that day.  I wish I could hold your hand through the whole thing.  

I am not sure what kind of service you are planning to have but we had a very formal service in a church and a viewing as well.  We chose to have a photographer there and I was soooo happy he was there to capture the day.  When I really miss my baby I look at the slide show and it is such a beautiful tribute I am so thankful we have that.

Anyway enough of my babble - my prayers are with you.

[wishing2beamom10]

Our little guy's name is Bridger, he was our first, I delivered naturally as well....but I only had to dialate to a 4-5 because he wasn't full term-my heart goes out to you again because I'm assuming you had to go the full 10. When he was born the doctor could see what had caused his death, apparently there was a tear in the amniotic sac at some point during the pregnancy and the excess tissue attached to the umbilical cord-which ended his life.  It's called Amniotic Band syndrome, we don't know what causes the tear in the amniotic sac, it's entirely random as far as we know....which is not entirely comforting but it isn't too common.  And truly, we know God was and has been aware of our situation, he just needed our Angels back sooner than we both realized.
That is so great that your body bounced back so well, I'm wondering if your milk came in? Mine did and so I pumped for a few weeks and I'm wondering if that typically delays your cycle from coming back??? who knows, I feel pretty clueless a lot of times because no one in my family has gone through this or even a miscarriage.  We're planning on just doing a graveside-because our little guy has been gone for over a month- we had delayed on making the decision to bury him for so long- I think we were in denial of it all happening.  Sadly, due to our lack of judgement, it will be a closed casket service.   But that is a good idea, I will make sure to have someone take pictures.  Every little thing that our baby touched or is proof of him is now priceless. I am dreading that day of final goodbyes, I don't know how you got through it, thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers, I don't think I'll be able to do it without the thoughts and prayers of others.
      I am so excited for you and your little one growing inside you! I truly hope all goes well and am sure it will, you're Jonathan is watching over you. I'm thinking that to be terrified is normal for women like us,  but I think we will appreciate every little thing about our pregnancy experience more than ever, and of course will naturally be on pins and needles the whole time.  But you'll do great and will continue to be such a great mom. Once again, I am truly happy for you and your little family.  How are you feeling?
I'm really excited to try the ovulation tests, hopefully they work out well for us too!  thank you for your advice and insight, it is so much appreciated.  My prayers are with you, wishing you the very best!

[tatorbug40]

Pumping the milk could have delayed your cycle from starting-  some women don't ovulate while they are brestfeeding.  

I am so sorry for what you are experiencing---  it is something that no one should have to experience.  

I had a friend who had a stillborn birth at 20 weeks,  she was pregnant the very next month-  it was an accident that she got pregnant so soon after,  but that baby was born last April, and is a healthy little boy.  

Best of luck to you and your ttc, and a healthy pregnancy.

[MissingMyAngel]

Im soo sorry for your loss. i know how you feeling right now and is very very hard you never think it will happen to you and it changes your life completely. When i lost my lil girl i did not what to do with myself i thought i was going to go crazy i kept asking god why?why me?how did i not notice something was wrong? and till now i think about her every second of every minute is like you say words can't explain how much we miss our lil angels, its going to be a year on february 27 of next year and  time has gone by so fast but it feels like yesterday is so fresh. I been taking it every day as it comes when i need to cry i cry i can't hold it i got her earn in my bedroom when i need to hold her and hug her she is there. When we were arranging the funeral that was the most hardest thing we ever had to do i coulndt burry her because i thought she is so little and she going to be alone..i probably would slept there i just couldnt thats why she is in my room with her taddy bears i mean everybody has the right to do what they feel more comfortable doing but in my case i couldnt burry her. After 3 months i got pregnant again with another baby girl and its going good im now almost 26 weeks and praying to god to make everything to ok. This pregnancy its been full of up and downs i try my best to stay strong for my precious angel and this new lil baby..if you need someone to talk to im here you are not alone..Thinking of you and my prayers are with you, love kathy

[MissingMyAngel]

i forgot to tell you i had to wait 3 months to conceive again but i had a c-section the best way is to ask your ob for you can be sure but when you get pregnant again i know you want to get pregnant very soon but that won't take your pain away. Just see it as you are making the family grow.. when you get pregnant again the new baby won't ever replace your first. I tell my lil angel that she is having a lil sister and making the familly bigger and that she is my first baby and thats the way it will always be and that one day we will be together.

[MissingMyAngel]

I wanted to ask you since with my first pregnancy i had a problem with the amniotic fluid level when you had the tear on the amniotic sac did you had amniotic fluid? The reason i ask if b/c i did not have amniotic fluid and i dont know what caused it?

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I am so sorry to hear that you had to go through that. I went through the same thing with my oldest son.  I was full term (37 weeks) and went into labor, when we arrived at the hospital he had no heartbeat.  After delivery we discovered he had the cord around his neck twice so tight the cord was flat.  That was EXTREMELY devastating for us.  As for TTC again, we didn't really start TRYING again, we just didn't prevent it from happening.  I delivered my still born son in August of 2001....in August of 2002 we ACTIVELY began trying again and by October I got a postive preg test. Our youngest daughter was born healthy 9 months later.  15 months after she was born our second son was born healthy.