Low sex-drive during pregnancy

[Jenny77]

I've been reading a lot of pregnancy books and it seems that most women have heightened sexual experiences and higher sex-drive while pregnant.  I am 19 weeks now and I still feel like I rarely want to have sex (just not in the mood). Before I was pregnant I felt like I had a good sex drive, I thought the low drive was just due to the morning sickness I had during my first trimester, but I'm no longer sick but still just don't have that urge like I used to. Has anyone else felt like this while pregnant or am I the only one? Any advice?

[Trentonsmom]

I know exactly what you are saying. Before my husband and i got pregnant with our first child, we had sex pretty much every night and when I got pregnant, it seemed as though all of the desire was lost. I know a lot of it has to do with your hormones being all out of whack while you body is adjusting. I guess it all depends on how your body reacts to the added hormones.  I had my husband do a lot of the same reading I was doing. It gave him a little more understanding as to what my body was going through. Just be patient and ask your husband to do the same. Make sure you have an open line of communication. I know that my husband didn't understand at first why he wasn't "getting any" and I felt guilty because I didn't feel like it.

[Angiconda]

I have experienced the same thing. I think in my case it just dosent seem to be as good and as you get bigger you have to get creative to find a position that works and we just cant seem to find a good position. I beleive it is normal to have a lower sex drive it can go either way. I am sorry I dont have any advice on how to make it better. Good Luck!

[ni-ki]

i just wanted to share my thoughts. When i found out i was pregnant i was 9weeks along already and for the entire 41 weeks i was pregnant i did NOT have sex. My baby is now 18 days old and i still have not had sex. I think i completely lost my sex drive LOL just kidding but i seriously had no desire to have sex while pregnant and even now (still recovering) i don't have the desire. I am sure you will get it back so don't worry

[sweetthing]

HI I am 31weeks pregnant and i dont have a very good sex drive either I believe this is normal I have had 5 pregnancys before and I have never felt this way I believe it will come back after the baby is born good luck!

[blessed06]

I know exactly what you are going through.  I am 19 weeks pregnant and during my 1st trimester, I had a really good sex drive.  For the last 5-6 weeks, I don't even want to kiss or be touched at all.  I was thinking about asking my doctor for some advise, because it has truely taken a toll on my husband. I still find him to be very attractive, but I just "don't be in the mood."  Nothing works.  It has become stressful for me because the more I try to explain to him, the more fustrated he gets.  Any advise someone???

[prettyenough]

i am 32 weeks pregnant and i went through ups and downs sexually. in my first trimester i was uncomfortable everywhere and didnt want sex at all then in the beginning of my 2nd trimester i wanted it all the time and the orgasms were amazing-physically and emotionally. from then to now i am so-so about feeling sexual..if it happens, its nice, if not, then its alright. it gets more uncomfy for me physically which takes a toll whether im "excited" or not. my bf also has a fear that if we have too much sex it will put me into labor. ha. as far as my own feelings go, as i said its been up and down. its hard to answer whether its "normal" or not to have a low sex drive or high sex drive during pregnancy. so much is going on inside of us. however, it is always something you can talk to your doctor about or do research on. hope you feel better.

[Dawnicole]

i am 3 weeks pregnant.  WEll i just found out that i was pregnant about 10 days ago but for the last 2 or 3 weeks i have had absolutely no desire to have sex is this normal. i mean it beginning to be really stressful for me and my boyfriend. anyone have any advice

[ImmortalOne]

3 weeks late for your period?  or 3 weeks since your last period?

[apaulinaria]

I am 14 weeks pregnant and I have had no sex drive since I got pregnant.  Nothing turns me on anymore. I think it could be your body saying "He got you pregnant, and now you're changing in a drastic way.  Why would you want him to make you go through that again?"  I guess it's kind of a joke, but you never know...  Like your body knowing that being attracted to him and turned on by him (or by man/anything) is what caused the nausea and whatnot, and then having a natural aversion to him.  After you get wasted, do you want to drink the next day, or does your stomach turn if you even think about drinking?  But luckily, it goes away after a while because you "forget" how "bad" it was and so does your body...

[megamom19]

I'm haven a baby and im 36 weeks along an i feel as if i have sex drive at all
it's not that my husbands not good or anything it's just i can't bring myself to want it as much and i think he feels like it's him but really it's just i can't bring myself to want it as much as i use to and trust me i husband looks good in every way there is his bodys banging and his parts are fine to lol
but i need help getting this sex drive back before i have no one to get it back for!!!!!!!! please help please