Miscarrying - need some advise...

i went infor my 3rd scan today and i was supposed to measure 7wks - but they measured the sac and said it was still at 5 wks and no signs of fetal poles and a HB was out of the question. I was on progesterone suppositories and they have asked me to stop them to induce the miscarrige.

My question is this - how long beore i start miscarrying and what is the intensity of the bleeding. Should i avoid that and go in for a D & C directly?

I'm still hoping for a miracle - but i guess its a bit too late for that now

[pearl451]

What did they see at your other 2 scans? I tried to wait it out but after 3 weeks I had the D& C. It is up to you. Talk to your Dr. See if he will let you wait it out for a certain amount of time & then do D& C. it is your choice though. Everyones body is different. you could MC tomorrow & be done with it. I am so sorry for your loss. the same thing happened to me in Feb.  now am 7 weeks preggo so don't give up hope!

[Berko]

i'm so sorry you're going through this. my personal opinion is to try to m/c naturally rather than run in for the d&c. I don't know why the drs. are so ready and raring to get the d&c done. obviously if it's necessary and m/c isn't happening naturally or not full then you would need the d&c, but why put your body through that until you know can't rid itself naturally. when i had my second m/c i was also on progesterone suppositories. the dr. though told me to continue them until he saw me at the next appt. (i had gone in on a Wednesday and told me likely to m/c and then back in on monday) but by the time i got into to him on monday i had m/c the whole thing (on Sunday) - even on the suppositories. i think he wanted me to stay on them just in case everything really would be okay and i guess they didn't slow the process down. thinking of you.

[jenvan]

First let me tell you how sorry I am that you are going through this. I was on progesterone suppositories and when I went in for my u/s on 6/2 the fetus had stopped growing at 7 weeks and I was 10 1/2 weeks into pg. I stopped taking the progesterone and my doctor said I could start miscarrying the next day or a week or two from then. I elected to have a d & c but not until 1 week later 6/9. The reaseon I did that was I was a wreck and couldn't function knowing that I was carrying a baby that wasn't going to be.  I'm glad I waited a week because my miscarraige (miscarriage) started the night before the d & c and it sort of eased my mind and made it a reality. It is a very personal decision and the ladies here helped me make a decision. The advice that I got I will share with you.  Do not have a d & c until you have emotionally and mentally come to terms with your loss. Good luck to you and my heart goes out to you.

[JDLAWSON]

I had a blighted ovum with my first pg.  I opted for a natural m/c--it took about three weeks for it to happen--but my dr recommended this as an option--for there can be complications with a d&c--he did say that the choice was mine--he did give me a time period for it to happen--if a natural one did not occur then I would have the d & c--I think it is just better for your body--no chance of nicks from the tools or anything.

[Tia Lucila]

I am sorry you are going through this.  I've never had a natural m/c, so I can't compare.  The only thing I do know is that in the two days between when I started to miscarry and when I had my D&C I literally could not stop crying. My eyes were nearly swollen shut.  Then after the D&C I cried, but like a person in mourning.  I think it helped me to get some of those hormones out of my body more quickly than I could have naturally.

[Bellyboo]

I had a natural m/c at 9wks 4 days.  When I went for my 1st appt They asked if I had soptting and I said no, so they sent me down for my 1st u/s. When I cam back up to the office they told me there was no hb and the baby stopped growing at 7wks. That day I started bleeding and by the next morning I had passed the fetal tissue. I was cramping really bad for 2 days and bled only for 6 days but very heavy until the end. I got my next AF exactly 4wks later. I am so very sorry for your loss but you will become pregnant again soon! I wish you the best for what you're going thru.

[sameerah73]

You ladies are champions - an unoffical medal to all! I had my first scan at 6 weeks, but the sac was too small, so they asked me to go to a specialist and he said it was 4-5 weeks. I could have O'd later, but I had an IUI, and the days couldn't be offf by that much as they has done an US before the treatment. I went in for my secong scan a week later, and they couldn't see anything, but some 'tissue' and this was the 3rd when i was supposed to be 7 weeks. My only concern is that the specialist said 4-5 weeks which my Dr took as 5 wks, i could have been 6 wks in this scan.

I've had an MC 2 yrs ago also at 6wks, and then had a D&C, but i was all alone as hubby was out of the country and i still get goose pimples when i think about the post recovery - it was bad for me. The Dr has prescribed the TORCH test which rules out 5 virus in women that have no symptoms but can cause a MC.

I guess the only reason i didn't want a D&C is because I'm hoping against hope something will show and beat - sigh! This is harder than it looks!!

[kris123]

I think you should have a natural m/c.  I had my m/c on the 16th of June.  They also did not see anything in the sac, which measured 6w6d.  I should have been 9w.  I started out spotting on the 13th and on the 16th had the m/c.  The bleeding was heavy for six days, tappered off to light spotting for another 7days.  I did get bad pain on the 16th.  I think the only time you should get a d&c is if you can't take it emotionaly or if the tissue has not all come out.  It can cause infection.  I am so sorry for your loss.

[Janbaby]

I'm sorry for what you are going through.  I too miscarried only 6 weeks ago.  I would miscarry naturally to avoid any kind of scraping of my uterus.  I started bleeding on a Saturday and passed the sac on a sunday.  The pain was pretty intense.  My doctor offered to prescribe me some pain medication but I just took midol.  It helped a little bit.  The bleeding was rather heavy but mostly on those two days because I was passing large clots.  I bled for two weeks and I'm just finishing up my first cycle.  I can't wait to start trying to conceive again.  I wish I could say something to you to make it better but I know I can't.  It's a tough thing to go through and many people just don't understand how devastating it is.  I hope you get pregnant again really soon!!!

[mslkpage]

oops sorry, didn't mean to hit submit yet. Choosing the D&C does not make it any easier emotionally. Just wanted to clarify that.

[mariea]

Hi.  I should be 7 wks 6 days.  Devastatingly, I scheduled a D & C tomorrow.  I was told the pregnancy was not vialbe, baby stopped growing and there has been no heartbeat.  I personally decided to elect for the D & C because we lost another baby in February due to an ectopic.  It was truly a devasting experience and was given methotrexate to pass it naturally.  I had an awful experience, bleed for weeks until I finally hemorraged and had the D & C anyway 4 wks later.  I cannot visually, emotionally, or physically take the pain of witnessing another miscarriage.  Losing a second baby is so traumatic for us and we are truly devasted.  Does anyone have any uplifting words to get us through tomorrow and the next few days??

[kris123]

I am sorry if I sounded firm in that.  I did not mean that it was easier emotionaly.  It is just as hard.  Sorry if I sounded mean.  I did not mean too

[kris123]

I guess what I meant was that some woman can't take the duration of time that it takes with a natural m/c.  I got this from the many posts on this website.  I know there are other reasons and a d&C is just as hard.  Sorry if I sounded firm in my answer.  take care

[kris123]

BTW they told me I had a Blighted ovum, ask your dr if this is what happened.

[sameerah73]

Hi there,

They said it wasn't a blighted ovum but a non-viable pregnancy - that ffor some reason the fetus just stopped growing.

[mslkpage]

There are other reasons for choosing the D&C besides the two you listed. Trust me, choosing the D&C does not

[newlywed05]

There is a post a few up from yours, you may want to take a look at it. It is similar. Alot of good advice and info. I am sorry you are going through this difficult time and wish you the best.

[mslkpage]

Ah, it's okay. After I hit submit (twice), I figured that's what you meant.

[mslkpage]

I went through almost the same thing last year, except my m/c was in Feb, and the ectopic was in July. I'm very sorry- I know how hard this is. I think I was better prepared the second time, but it didn't make it a whole lot easier. Xanax helped at first, and time helps you heal. Coming on here and sharing my experiences has helped too. When I need to vent, cry, breakdown, etc, I have a great support system. And several of those women in my support system are friends I made here.

[kris123]

Maybe they and you got the dates mixed up.  Maybe you are only 5w really, it would be very hard to see anything or pick up a hb then.  My doctor told me it can take up to 8-12w before you can see the baby or pick up a hb.  Some may disagree.  I am not an expert, I am just telling you what I have been told.  Wait it out if you are not sure.  I went to one ER and they told me d&c, out of hope I said no, but ended up having a natural m/c.  Your body knows when things are right.  Go to another doctor if your not sure.  But it did take 15days to complete it all.  I waited it out even after they told me what your doctor is telling your.  I will pray for you

[flower2]

I pray you are only 5 weeks along and that next week or so you will see heartbeat. I m/c 2 weeks ago. I was 6wks 6days and spotting. Hcg levels were rising slowly. I saw the heartbeat and the dr gave me a copy of u/s. HUGE MISTAKE - THE VISUAL. The next weeks levels were dropping and no heartbeat. I had a natural m/c and passed the sac.

I was a mess but hormone levels and blood levels are leveling off thank g-d. I am sending baby sticky dust to you. Liz