OMG IM SCARED.

[girl0319]

Well in the morning my daughter was crying so  I put her into bed with me to feed her. We both fell asleep so I just left her next to me. At 6am I woke up and she was on the floor crying. I was freaking out and picked her up and she stopped crying. Im not sure if she fell off or rolled off but I am still freaking out. It's now 10am and she is asleep and seems fine. What to I do? Please any advice..

[Kim1989]

im sure shes fine that she just rolled off. try and get more sleep. i kno i need to do the same. shes fine now so im sure shes ok. i know you feel horrible. when my son first came home from the hospital...i was feeding him sitting upright, but him on my cest to burp and we feel asleep. we stayed that way when i woke up but i was so uspet! i felt like a horrible person

[Jenny100]

I really don't think any baby makes it through baby hood without falling off the bed at least once. I know all of mine fell off something once, (couch or bed) and they were all fine.You should definitely keep an eye on her today though. Watch for any strange signs or strange behavior. Check her often when she sleeps.
Did she fall onto carpet? Or hardwood?
I know the feeling--its so scary. If you notice ANYTHING even a little out of the ordinary I would take her to the Dr. Better safe than sorry. But I guarantee you, millions of babies have fallen off the bed and have been fine, so don't panic.
BUt LISTEN to your GUT--if you feel you should take her to the Dr regardless, do it.

[girl0319]

Thank you ladies.. She fell onto the carpet but it's still really hard. And the bassinet was right next to my bed so Im not sure if she hit her head on it or what..

[RockRose]

girl,  I don't think you should have her in your bed again while you sleep.  Babies DO roll off of beds all the time,  but not 2 week olds.  They're immobile.  The only way for her to have fallen is for you to have perched her on the very very end of the bed (unlikely) or you pushed her off in your sleep (very likely).  

She's probably okay for the time being,  but be careful in the future that you aren't sleeping with her - the unthinkable could happen.

Don't mean to sound harsh - accidents happen - but now that you know you don't have that sixth sense about where the baby is while you're sleeping,  don't let this turn tragic.

[spade22]

Sorry, but I agree with Rockrose. People just dont realize the risks if co-sleeping until they, or someone that they know, inadvertently rolls over and kills their baby (or the baby rolls out of the bed and gets badly injured).

As for your question, have you thought about calling your daughters pediatrician?

[Nicole624]

We co-sleep, and for 9 months have been fine. My son rolled off one time when we were both awake. Go figure! I took him to the ER just to make sure everything was ok, and his brain had a small bleed. He had to spend the night in the PICU, but thankfully he is fine and it went away.I would get her checked just to make sure. Im sure everything is fine. *HUGS* I know how scary it is!

[girl0319]

shes 2 in a half months not 2 weeks

[GNicole]

I would call your doctor just to be safe. Your profile states that she was born May 13 which would make her 2 1/2 weeks old.

[Nicole624]

I have to add that co-sleeping is definately not for everyone.

[girl0319]

well sorry it was march 13 il fix it

[mami1323]

I don't co-sleep all night with my son but have done it a few times when he is sick and in the beginning when he wanted to be closer to mommy.  I have never had a problem and have always been aware that my son was there.  I know there have been many accidents with parents rolling on their children and suffocating them but it's not always dangerous.  Like Nicole said, it's not for everyone though.

[Jenny100]

I agree mami. I have coslept with all seven of mine and think it is heaven. BUT I am a very light sleeper and would go so far as to say I would bet my LIFE I wouldn't roll on them. Same with Hubby. Our bed is a King so that helps. Plenty of room for baby in the middle. So you just have to go with what you know about yourself---if youre a heavy sleeper, then its NOT for you.

[mami1323]

I too am a very light sleeper.  I hear everything.  Sometimes it is such a curse but when it comes to having to wake for my son then it's not so bad.  I have a double, ha, I wish I had a king...you are truly lucky.  My fiance is a heavy sleeper and would roll on the baby.  Once when the baby was sick I put him in the middle and had my arm blocking my fiance.  When I felt him too close I punched him.  I don't remember this of course, my fiance told me I did...lol.

[tiredbuthappy]

dd fell off the sleep. i had a stupid moment and felt like world's worst mom. she had fallen fast asleep, but hadn't finished her bottle. she was out cold in the middle of the queen sized bed. i was going to try the bottle again in a half hour or so. i ran downstairs to grab my laptop. as i was reentering the room less than a minute later i saw her roll off the bed, hit the nightstand on the way down. i was so horrified i felt sick. not a mark on her. 20 seconds of crying and that was it. i kept her up for a long time playing with her after that to make sure she had no symptoms of concussion. i will NEVER leave her unattended on anything that she can roll off of ever again. Nicole624's story scares me though. if i had read it before this happened, i probably would've had her checked out.

[girl0319]

Well Im taking her to the pediatrician at 3:45 . She's doing okay, everything seems normal but Im still so scared. I feel horrible. I am never falling asleep with her in my bed again. There's too much to lose.

[Jenny100]

Really sweetie, don't feel so bad!! I promise it happens to EVERY mother!! And now that you know you sleep deeply, you won't do it again.There are lessons we all have to learn when it comes to parenting. I think you are a VERY good mother for admitting what happened, and asking for advice. AND for taking her to the Dr because you just feel you should. THAT is a GOOD mommy!!! :)

[AndiJ78]

I co-slept with all of mine, never rolled over on any of them, never even close. They, too, had their roll-offs of the couch, but while awake as well. I have seen just as many stories about moms falling asleep in a rocking chair while bottle feeding and dropping their baby or smothered them. As others said, it is not for everyone, but most I know do it safely.

[jenstam]

We co-slept and still do for the most part. Brody rolled off the bed when we were both awake also, but I keep one eye open all night long when he is next to me and I know where he is at all times. I could bet my life also, that he would never fall while we're asleep or that I would never roll on him. I just have a sense and don't deep sleep like that. For deep sleepers I would not recommend co-sleeping. But, accidents do happen. I'm sure she is fine.

[girl0319]

She's fine! Thank god! The doctor said she is functioning normally. I am so relieaved! Thank you ladies!

[kjbutcher]

1.  my doc said that as long as baby doesnt throw up he should be fine for falls off of normal size beds.
2.  as far as smothering a baby...FOR THE MOST PART adults have the ability to sort of know what they are doing in their sleep.  I dont remember what it is called but it is the reason that we dont roll out of bed.  
3.  for anyone who has had a child fall, you know how horrible of a feeling it is.  Do you really need to preach and make them feel worse.  I know I felt like the worst mom ever when it happened to me and could not imagine getting lectured too.  She was just here looking for a serious quick answer and she got told how she should have known better.  Dont you think she at least figured that out and wont ever do it again?!  Come on, use your head!  She really didnt need to be told what she obviously just learned.
4.  I'm glad everything went well at the doctor.  It really does happen to everyone.  

[Jenny100]

I don't think anyone was harsh on her at all. I went back and read all the posts because I thought I must have missed something....and I thought everyone was very nice.Who are you referring to?
I would never want to make anyone feel horrible for a mistake I have made myself! :)

[mami1323]

I know who she was referring to...don't worry Jenny it wasn't you.  

[Joyce49788]

it happens to everyone, no matter how much we try to keep everything safe...it happens and as long as there are no ill effects..we learn from it and go on.
dont beat yourself up for it, you did the right thing and everything is fine.
hugs and luv

[girl0319]

Hey ladies! I am glad to report that Ayla slept the whole night in her bassinet!!! Yay! She's never done that!! So anyways she is getting close to 3 months now ... should I get a crib or stay with the bassinet a little longer?

[melanie594]

i have a 4 month old boy, and for the first two weeks we had him home he slept in an item that the first years makes, its alled a close and secure sleeper, if you wante to switch from the bassinet but didnt want her out of the room yet then thats a good idea(providing your baby didnt grow to like double his size in a matter of  a month) its for 103 months i think, wal mart has them for like 50 bucks(can) and this thing  goes everywhere! you can put it in your bed and no one can roll in out out and it has mesh sides so they dont suffocate, its really neat. and when you want t go somewhere and know she will be needing  anap, it folds into a likke carry case and off you go! it has a nightlight so you can change them at night and so on. look into it if you think it will help!

[girl0319]

Thats cool. What's it called??

[melanie594]

made by 'the first years' close and secure sleeper(or co sleeper some people call it but it sayas close and secure sleeper on the box)

[kjbutcher]

No I was not refering to you.  I think you answered the question at hand perfectly.  I think on this particular subject and some others, you just need to answer the question and no additional advice is needed.  She just wanted to know that if she should take her baby to the er immediately or exactly what she should do.  She needed an immediate answer to make a correct decision.  Once something like this happens, you obviously blame yourself.  It is the most horrible feeling in the world.  You have ahd it happen, you know the feeling.  Do you really want someone coming up and giving you advice on how you could have prevented it.  Come on.  No one likes the "I told you so" and it is even worse hearing advice after the fact.  She knows she could have prevented it and now she knows how to prevent it in the future.  there was no need to make her feel worse and if anyone would have thought about it, the question was not answered by particular people, making it harder for the original poster to sift though the information to find the answer to her time sensitive question.  

[RockRose]

kbutcher,  I think you were referring to my post.  Sometimes,  you have to put all the cards on the table.  This mother was VERY upset,  and VERY worried about her baby,  we all get that,  but sometimes you just have to say the near obvious to make sure something like that doesn't happen again.  At the time of her post,  her profile stated the baby was 2 weeks old.  No,  a 2 week old doesn't roll off a bed.  They don't.  Which leaves you with two choices - she purposely hurt the baby and is now trying to float a lie to see how it passes (don't believe that at all in this case) or in her sleep she pushed the baby off the bed.  Finding out the baby is 2 1/2 months,  it's possible the baby did one big flip from back to front and ended up on the floor.  I don't know this baby.  That's possible for a 2 1/2 month old.  Still on the table is that she shouldn't sleep with this baby again - this baby can flip off the bed without her knowing it.

That's good advice, and I stand by it,  and I stand by others who say they co-slept (as I did) and had no problems.  If you sleep feather light,  and you always know in your sleep where the baby is,  it's safe.  If you are a very sound sleeper or have a very narrow bed,  it's not safe.  That's not a condemnation,  that's just helpful stuff.  Like when the pediatrician said when your baby crawls out of the crib by himself the first time,  don't ever put him back in the crib again - because he will crawl out and could get seriously hurt doing it.  Good advice.