*****OPEN FORUM SUNDAY*****

[shelbert6]

Good morning.  Did everyone remember to set their clocks ahead an hour?  I posted a reminder on Friday open forum, but I forgot my own reminder until I logged on this morning and the computer clock said 6:38am, because my clock still read 5:38am.  Funny, I don't feel like I got an extra hour sleep...lol.  But, baby is still sleeping, which is odd.  Hmmm....Could the change be affecting her already?  I don't think so.

Well it is a beautiful Spring day here.  The hummingbirds showed up 2 days ago, and finally this morning they were at my feeder.  So cool to watch.  Tomorrow, I won't wear my red coat to have coffee on my porch.  It was just far too early to engage in "combat" with those little hummers this morning.

Well, enjoy.  Hope it is a beautiful day for everyone else today.

Regards,
Shelly

[capermom]

Hi Shelley, you actually loose an hours sleep last night. Yes, the baby will be sleeping late once you've turned the clock ahead. I remembered but I was still up at 6 am. Gross.

Well, sorry to say but I am still worried to death. I was so pissed at DH last night and I still am. Now I'm even more worried about being upset-can this be bad. He just pissed me off so bad. He's angry because I told some of my friends that I'm pregnant. I thinks it's childish and I have every right to tell whoever I want. It's my choice. He can hold any excitement in, well sorry, I can't. I swear he thinks because I told them it will bring bad luck or something. I didn't sleep well last night at all and I woke up exhausted. He still hasn't appologized and I refuse to talk with him. Ya, this is all I need right now. I'm so mad I could throw something at him. AHOLE!

I'm still not having any symptoms. I really think things aren't good. I just have bad feeling.

Well, sorry for venting, I'm just really upset.

[capermom]

When did you start getting your pregnancy symptoms and what were they?

[shelbert6]

My very first pregnancy symptom is hyper-gag reflex.  If I brush my teeth and gag, I'm pregnant.  Then, the missed AF with low cramps that say "you're gonna start" but never do.  I also fall asleep at inappropriate times, like in the middle of class when I'm doing training sessions.  These are symptoms I notice after the fact, before I realize I'm pregnant. (The missed AF is a sign rather than symptom).  Then, as soon as I get a BFP I usually start feeling yucky, although this pregnancy was the only one I ever actually had "morning sickness" with vomiting lasting the whole 9 mos.  Usually just feel a little queasy on occasion with an increased appetite.

Regards,
Shelly

[Melissa Prevost]

My husband and I both have a stomach Vires, I was wondering if we need to try our hardest to find a baby sitter or is he going to be ok I'm thinking he had it and gave it to us because the other day he was throwing everything up anyways advice is much appreiciated..

[shelbert6]

Thanks for pointing the lost hour of sleep.  Now I need a nap!lol.
When I found out I was pregant at the end of May last year, we weren't TTC.  So, my hubby was shocked as heck.  But the very first thing he told me was not to tell anyone I was pg.  I couldn't understand why.  I, too, thought it was ridiculous.  Like those people I tell wouldn't somehow notice in the next few months anyway.  But, reflecting back, I believe he didn't want to tell anyone until HE felt the pregnancy was going to be ok.  I had m/c the previous month.  Failed birth control, if you wonder how someone who is not TTC can do so 2 times in a months time period.  He didn't feel like going through the grief stage with everyone else in town.  We live in a small community in Alaska with 80 people.  So, everyone in town is no exaggeration.  But, at 3 mos. he started telling his friends, so I felt that was the "go ahead" for me to tell mine.

Anyway, just so you know you aren't alone in the hubby department.

Regards,
Shelly

[Melissa Prevost]

I was just reading Capermoms first post and well my Seth sleeped until 9:30 because of the clock switched back I think I like this lol...

[hther]

How far are you? roughly 5 weeks? There aren't many symptoms that go with 5 weeks other than AF type ones. The vast majority happen later for most. I understand your point about Dh. Tell who you want, believing in jinxes is pure superstition. God determines the end result so worrying yourself over it won't change anything. I really do think you are stressed too much and a day of R&R is in orer. Another reason why some doctors want their patients to wait to TTC after a m/c. I know it's hard. I have had as many m/c as you. If I was pregnant right now, I'd be a wreck with worry, but I'd have to calm down for the baby's sake. I am wishing you lots of luck.

[bbymkr]

Thanks for mentioning the hour change. I didn't realize it until i logged on and read todays open forum

[SharShar]

Hello Everyone, I have a few questions, I just found out a few days ago that I am pregnant.  5 weeks according to the computer.  My doctor won't see me until May 5th.  Does this seem okay that they would wait a month?  And also, they said to stay on the precare conceive vitamins until the appt then they would switch me to a prenatal vitamin, does that seem okay?  I don't mean to be second guessing them, but everything I have read on the internet says to see the md right away.... Also, I will be visiting my Grandma at then end of the week and she is in the hospital receiving her second round of chemo.  Is it safe to see her or could I be exposed to something harmful?  Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.
SharShar

[shelbert6]

My first prenatal wasn't until I was 8 wks, too.  It seems times are changing.  I remember when I was pregnant with #2 (6 yrs ago) and coming in for my 1st exam within a week.  They gave me prenatals, info on diet.  They did a basic health exam, Blood pressure and such.  I miss the old ways, I just felt more connected with my dr. when they did it that way.  I felt like I was in control from the beginning.  This time I actually felt foolish, because I insisted on a prenatal at about 4 or 5 weeks, and all they would do for me was a blood pressure (I have chronic high blood pressure).  They couldn't figure out at age 39, chronic high bp, baby #4, and history of very recent m/c why on earth I would want a prenatal before 8 or 9 weeks.  To me, a prenatal is so much more than just being far enough along to hear the fetal heart beat.  Mom has to be healthy and cared for before you can successfully get to the fetal heart beat.  Anyway, not second guessing either, just my opinion.

Regards,
Shelly

[shari13]

Hi everyone!
I am a little over 11 weeks and my symptoms have been very light in comparison to what I have read. I have the "gag" thing when I brush my teeth. I feel dizzy when i get out of the car and going downstairs. When my dh is cooking, I want to puke!

Here is something for you though,
I used the Belly Beats at week 10 and found the heartbeat on my right side under my pelvic bone. Then later on in the week, it was under my belly button (more toward the pelvic area), then this morning, it was on my left side. Is this little guy/girl supposed to be traveling this much? Ha! maybe I have a traveling salesman! LOL

[stanya]

Two things: my pregnancy symtoms started almost right away, with fatigue, peeing all the time and sore breasts. My breasts have continued to be sore and grow larger, the fatigue has stayed, so has the relentless peeing, and now when i wake up i have faint nausea. my food cravings/revulsions are starting to increase. I only seem to want to eat oranges, red leaf lettuce salad, and cupcakes. (not all at the same time, thankfully!) I'm just heading into my 7th week.
About telling: Sorry for your disagreement with DH. It's an old tradition to wait until three months have safely passed before telling people beyond your intimate circle. But bottom line is, it is up to you to feel it out and do whatever you feel like doing. My partner and I discussed it FIRST, so there was no suprise to come. We both happened to agree to only tell our closest people first. Its hard to hold it in, I want to tell everyone, but I'm choosing to wait because, hey, I'm 35, anything could happen, maybe it won't work...If I miscarry, I don't want to have to relive the pain of explaining that to everyone, etc. My best friend told everyone right away when she was pg and all was fine. Follow your intuition and maybe try and talk it over with DH so his fears are addressed but so is your joy. Good luck.

[S.TTC#1]

Don't say that! You need to stay postive.  I'm sure everything will turn out okay.  Try to put your mind on other things...know its hard, but it can help.  Also you are still very early in pregnancy and it can take several more weeks to see symptoms and even then they can be very minimal and light.

Something positive to look at is that you say you're not having ANY symptoms at all, well that means no cramping or back pain, right?  And those two things aren't a good sign (if they are strong and last for longer periods) so its good to hear that you are NOT experiencing that.

All of us here are praying for you.....just be happy and enjoy the moment.  Keep us posted.  When is your first docs appt?  Are you getting one earlier than most people?

[prcsjenn7]

I am new to you guys and would sure like some advice if you all have any.... A year ago I stopped getting the depo shot to try and get pregnant.... the last 2 months my periods have been finally regular and there... usually the day before and of my period I had lower back pain... severely.... And my last period was the 16th of last month in march... Well today on april 4th I am having serious abdominal cramping.... serious!!! I am not used to this at all and don't know why its happening so soon... It hurts to cough or sneeze or pee... It doesnt hurt the pee actually coming out, but theres shooting pains in my abdomin (abdomen) when I release it... any clues as to why or what this is?  Your help is greatly appreciated....

[S.TTC#1]

Actually not sure what it could be.  Note we are not nurses or doc here- this is just our opinions.  Well mine is that you may have some kind of infection or a ovarian cyst.  Cysts are normal for every women to get each cycle but they usually disolve w/ period.  But sometimes they persist and get bigger.  THey aren't really anything to worry about too much.  Some symptoms of them is the cramps and sharp pains you speak of.  But again, this cramping could mean other things as well.  Cysts are the only thing I know about, that's why I'm giving cysts as a 'possible' reason for the pain. Also, are you having any pain during intercourse? (like stabbing sharp pains sometimes?) When I had a cyst, I had that feeling during intercourse.

You should visit your doc and have a pap done.  Whens the last time you had one?  After that they may do an ultrasound to chk for others reasons for the pain.  Then again this may be nothing at all and will go away.  Hope things go well.

[prcsjenn7]

Hey Thank you for your advice... its been a year and a half since i have had a pap... i have an appt. for later this month... It hurts to sit down... like theres pressure that comes from below to my abdomin (abdomen) when i first sit....or if i try to suck in my stomach its bloated feeling and stabbing pains... no pains while intercourse, but this morning we did and it was right after that this all started...  thanks again....

[prcsjenn7]

by the way what is af? and other abbreviations that are used mean? thanks...

[capermom]

Thanks for the vote of confidence guys. I'm really sorry to keep bringing it up but it just won't leave my mind. I've been painting and stuff and I now have lower back pain. I think it may be from moving around and twisting my back. I hope anyway. Every little thing is making me worry. I barely talked to DH today, only if I HAD TO, I'm still pissed at him. I won't talk to him either until he really appoligizes to me. He can make his own luch for work tomorrow too, I'm not. Don't care if he starves! MEN............

[S.TTC#1]

Capermom- well DON'T be sorry for bringing it up...that's what we are here for. For you to vent and let us know what's on your mind.  We just want you to take it easy and don't want you to stress and worry over something that could very well be NOTHING.  I'm wishing you the best.  And as for DH...."yeah, what you said!" lol.  I know how they can be so insensitive at  times, I'm sure it'll blow over. With my DH,its kinda of opposite, he's the one that would tell the world and I want to keep it a secret. With first pregnancy he told EVERYONE and I acutally didn't want to say anything just yet.  HE didn't understand why and that just made me all that much more P.O. at him.  Its my body....this is happening to me directly so if I don't want anybody knowing than that's what's going to happen. He also told a couple back in Oct. that we were trying which I didn't want.  Men, they just don't think all the way about things.  We are more sensitve and practical.  Anyways, I didn't want to tell anyone we were TTC cuz every month that I don't end up preggo, is every month someone whispering "she's trying and STILL not pregnant, there must be something wrong with her".  Okay they may not be saying that, but that's what I think and its more pressure on me. So I know how you feel.  My DH didn't know why I cared so much that he told friends we were TTC but it REALLY bothered me. Even though it takes 2 to make a baby, I'm ultimatley the one caring the stress (carrying and holding the pregnancy), so I'd rather not let the world know how many pregnancies I've miscarried. Okay- stop rambling now.  Sorry for this sooooo long. Take care! ;o)

[S.TTC#1]

Is your pain just in your stomach? Or 'down there' in the vaginal region? ;o)....When I had a UTI (urinary track infection) it hurt just to sit down a certain why and was very uncomfortable.  That's another possibiliyt.  Either way, I'm sure you're fine and whatever it is causing you pain can be treated.  

Acroynms:

AF: Aunt flow (your period) aka "THE WITCH".
TTC: Trying to Conceive
DH: dear husband (or dilrious hubby, dumb hubby, whatever fits....jk. lol)
DS: Dear son
DD: dear daughter
LOL: laugh out loud.
M/S: morning sickness
BFP: Big fat positive
BFN: big fat negative

[Melissa Prevost]

My son isn't sleeping tonight I don't know what his deal is he usely sleeps from 9:30pm to 7:30am and its 12:30am now why is he doing this...

[shelbert6]

My 2 month old is fighting sleep tonite, too.  I think it is the time change, I'm sure of it.  It is 10:20pm right now, and she never can stay up past 9 oclock.  I'm running the batteries low tonite on the swing!lol!  And tonite of all nights, I am just plain ready for bed.  Tomorrow it will be better, hang in there.  

Regards,

Shelly

[TONIA24]

That is weird my 6 week old baby girl was fighting sleep really bad lastnight aswell has to be something to do with the time thing or maybe in the air lol

[Still a mom]

Just wanted to know if anyone else knows the possible cause of my "problem." I am about 2 1/2 weeks into my cycle and on Friday I had some cm with a little streaking of blood. We are ttc but if I am pregnant that would be to soon for inplatation bleeding, right? It wasn't a lot of streaking, just enough to notice it and happened about 3-4 times. Any ideas?