~~~~~~~OPEN FORUM SUNDAY~~~~~~~~~

[cmn]

Very quiet today so i thought that i would get Sunday's forum started, hope you all have a wonderful Sunday will chat will you all on Monday again.

[nanny318]

Good Morning everyone! Well my questions is this. do anyone have any advice on getting a tubal done. Because here is my situation. i have a 3 week old daughter, a 4 year old daughter and a 7 year old son also, a 10 year old nephew that I'm basically helping raise. because he lives with my Mother and when my kids are here he's here. so i'll say I have 4 children. being that my last pregnancy was so hard i would like to get a tubal, but then i think about I may wanna have another baby in a few years. My husband is like whatever I want because he doesn't want me to get it done then He saids in 5 years I'm depressed because i wanna have another child and can't. Because as all you Mothers know you look, smell, touch those darling little angels and you get that feeling again. Because my daughter is on;y 3 weeks old  and i look at her and think about in about 5 years when I'm 31 and ant another one and can't what will I do? so any advice would be great. Actually some pros and cons will do. Because i think i want to have it done because you know how some people (Mothers and Mother n laws) can be. with the "You are getting your tubes tied after this one?" So i don't know if i mostly said yes because of that or what?

[capermom]

Nanny, I wish I could tell you. It's a decision you really have to think about for a long time. Make sure you are SURE!

Hey CMN, how are you doing today!!! Finally it's actually warm and sunny and NOT windy here today. It's 10 am and 20 degrees already. It's going to be wonderful!! FINALLY!!!

Emma, I knew it, I knew you had an infection. I swear, I have esp. I was trying to think of the name of it, UTI. AHaaa. Well, glad it's nothing too serious!! Hope you're feeling better already.

All is going well with me. Still busy picking colours and flooring for my  new home. Wow, so much to do. I'm back to work for a bit now.

I was listening to the baby's heartbeat today, it was so loud. I can't wait to feel movement. I'm 15 weeks today. Yuppeee!!!! Just 25 weeks to go and counting.

Well, have a great Sunday everyone. I have to go get ready for Church.

[nurse12hr]

You should NOT get your tubes tied if there is any possibility of wanting another child.  Tubal ligation is considered permanent sterilization.

Sometimes (and I stress sometimes) expensive surgery NOT COVERED BY INSURANCE can reverse it, but there is also a good chance it can't be reversed.

Discuss less permanent effective methods with your doctor until you are sure you are past the baby urges.

And remember this--sometimes the urge to have another child is REALLY the desire to have a BABY...very different story.  A baby is only a baby for a short time!  Ask yourself if what you want is to raise another CHILD and deal with all the issues that go along...colic, potty training, preschool, elementary school, school problems, puberty, the teen years, etc.   Not to just hold and care for a sweet cuddly infant.  

We had a baby the last 2 nights in the nursery who screams 24/7.  I swear to GOD.  There was NOTHING we could do to calm her...we tried walking, rocking, swaying, swaddling, warm blankets, the infant swing, infant Tylenol, pacifiers, everything.  We had to pass her around all night as no one could stand it for long.  I feel sorry for her poor parents. Sometimes you don't get the peaceful, sweet baby you picture....

Take it all into account before giving into that longing "to have a baby".

[Kassimom]

Emma has an infection? What did I miss? I hope she is okay.

Capermom! Your pregnancy seems to be moving at a race horse pace!! LOL I am sure it doesn't seem like it to you though, huh? When is your actual due date again? ISn't it beginning December? How are you feeling? Have you felt the little baby yet? I haven't been feeling much anymore. There at first it seemed like the baby was active, but not so much lately. I am a little disapointed but then I read about blondie and those who the babies are so active they are painful and I think I will enjoy the next few weeks of just flutters and not knock-the-wind-out-of-ya kicks!!

Christie-I coudln't have said it better myself. I have a friend who is going through that right now. It took her 7 yrs to get prg with her DD and they thought she was a miracle baby and surely wouldn't get preg again ever. WRONG. When DD was barely a yr old, SURPRISE! BFP HPT. She was so unprepared and shocked and had settled her mind to having only the one child that her whole preg she had her mind set on a tubal after that 2nd baby was born. Well, now 5 yrs later she is SSOOOOO regretting it. And her insurance does NOT cover reversal. She is remarried to a successful man and they can afford to have several children. All she wants is one more and she can't even have that. I feel awful for her.

YOu're also rigth about the whole "baby" thing. I am always shocked when I hear of someone having bay after baby jsut to get a "baby fix". These babies grow up and need college tuitions paid for one day. Many people never think of the long term when getting pregnant. YOu are so wise and we are fortunate to have your input!! :)

[capermom]

Hey Kassimom. I am due December 6th, maybe a bit earlier. Ya, time is flying for sure. Glad to hear you are doing well. Let me know when you feel the real hard kicks!! Good luck!

[msklar]

hey just wanted to tell you I was in South Lyon today. We were looking at kittens. We didnt get one though. All the kittys were outside, dirty and didnt look very healthy.. And they had fleas...

Anyhow, it didnt take long to get there, like 25-30 minutes...

Dont you live near a big metro park..I cant remember the name of it..

[nurse12hr]

Yeah--I live just down the road from Island Lake State Park.

Right across the street from EG Nicks in Brighton.  

Lets get together this weekend.  His Majesty is going out of town, and I'm not working!

[msklar]

let me talk to dh and see what he says... maybe wecould meet at the park, my kids could just play then....

[Still_AndiJ]

Are you sure you weren't taking care of my newest bundle, Christie : ) I love him to pieces, but he is a fussy one!! If he could, he would be latched onto me 24/7!! As is he seems like is latched to me 40 minutes of every hour, definitely a comfort nurser.

Jonathan was such a peaceful baby. Barely ever cried, in fact I can count on one hand and have fingers left over how many times he cried his first 2 months of life! Not so with Tristan, I knew the moment he came out screaming he was going to be a tough one. The nurses where I delivered him got a break, it is mandatory all babies room in, so they would just come in, **** him off by waking him up and taking his temp and then leave me to put him back to sleep! Oh well, the joys of motherhood, you never know what to expect. I am a glutton for punishment though, I still want one more (but I plan on waiting for at least 3 years!)

Andrea

[nanny318]

it's not that i want to have  a nother baby as soon as possible. i'm talking maybe four to five years from now. Also, i understand about college and all the other aspects of having another baby.  i don't want a "quick baby fix". because Ilove all three of my kids very much and if I did decide to have another one it wouldn't be just to hold and smell her/him. also I'm aware of all the finances it takes to raise a child. it's not like  i'm a teeenager an just want a baby for all the wrong reasons.I'm not trying to soung snappy either. it's just  thatI would like everyone to know that it's notfr selfish reasons. i'm only 26 yrs old and I don't wanna do something that will decrease my chances of getting pregnant in the future if I choose to.