Open Forum # 2 (TGIF)

Good morning ladies.  I thought I would open another "Open Forum" to use when the first Open forum Runs out of space.  

Hope everyone has a wonderful day.

[Tiffy81]

Good morning ladies. Today is 14dpo for me. Tested yesterday got bfn. Feeling sick today. Too nervous to test. My bbs are still sore. Af is supposed to come today.

[stacci2bme]

Hi ladies, well i'm on day 25 and am positive af is on her way:( just wish she would hurry up and come already.
Have a nice day everyone****************************************

[baby4Staci]

Tiffy:  Good luck!!  Wait a couple more days and then test. You arent going to see much of a difference between yesterday and today.  you will just get frustrated.  Back when i took my hpt i got a BFN 11 DPO and my BFP 17 DPO.  SO it took a while for me to get that BFP.. (i miscarried 1/5 w/ D&C)  So good luck to you, wait it out, Relax.  BABY DUST TO YOU!

Staci:  Do you spell your name like ME??  Sorry about your AF.  Did you try this month?  How are you so sure AF will come?

[luv_babies]

I hope you see this, I saw your post down there form yesterday.
AF- aunt flo (period)
BFP- big fat positive
BFN- bug fat negitive
BD- baby dance
CM- cervical mucus
EWCM- egg white cervial mucus
CD- cycle day
DPO- days past ovulation
DH- dear husband or damn husband :]
BBT- basal body temp
Hope this helps!

[slund]

Hi everyone:

Just wishing all of you ttc the best luck.  It will happen evetually, just give it time and try to relax.  I didn't think it would happen, but now I am currently 5 1/2 weeks pregnant.
So keep the spirits up and baby dust to all.

Staci L

[stillwaiting]

hey all. I have a question. Do progesterone suppositories make you stop spotting? I have and I was just wondering about this. Yall I feel really gassy and bloated and like I do when I'm going to have really bad af. My legs ache and across my back like whan you have the flu. I read that that was common in prog therapy. Has anyone had this? being silly I guess but I just feel so rotten.

[baby4Staci]

I am so excited to see other Staci's that spell their name like me.. :-)  Staci L CONGRATS on the BFP i hope you have a happy/healthy 34.5 more weeks...

Stillwaiting-How are you feeling today?  I am glad your HCG went up up up!! Also, what is the date of your LMP??  

How many people out there have no kids??  

To those who have Miscarried- Do you find it easier after your miscarriage if you already have children???

Thanks everyone..
TGIF!

[luv_babies]

I have no kids :[, just one angel in heaven.

[anxioustobeamom]

I have one angel boy in heaven and none here on earth.

i hope to work on a brother or sister for him soon, but the doctors want to run more tests.

hooray for everyone who go BFPs and sticky dust to you!

[amand221]

I have no kids , but I do have a 2 1/2 year old dog that's been filling the void for the time being.  Hoping I'll be able to give her a human brother or sister someday soon, but I need that BFP hopefully by the end of next month.

Congrats to all the BFPs and good luck to all the TTCers. :)  
Amanda

[slund]

We are pregnant with our first.  Hopefully all goes well and we can add more to that.

[Harleygrl]

No kids yet, never been pregnant but am sure working on that. :)

[royal76]

We have no kids but one little angel in heaven.

We just got our BFP on Wednesday though!  So here's hoping to healthy 9 months!!

[Dawn16]

I have 2 kids (15 and 11) and had a m/c on 11/18. I don't think that it was easier since I already have children. I am trying for 1st with df and he does not have any "biological children yet"

I am on CD 16 and if it does not happen this month I will be so upset(we worked really hard this week lots of BD all around o) so keeping my fingers crossed and praying for the almighty BFP!!!

[baby4Staci]

Congrats on your BFP!!!

[PleaseGod]

THANK YOU FOR THE KIND WORDS, I DO NEED TO GO TALK TO SOMEONE. I REALLY HAVE TRIED ALL OF MY LIFE TO ALWAYS DO THE RIGHT THING. I KNOW I AM NOT PERFECT, BUT I TRY AS HARD AS I CAN TO BE A GOOD PERSON. I AM ASHAMED TO HAVE EVER DONE WHAT I LET HAPPEN A FEW YEARS AGO, ESPECIALLY NOW AGAIN AFTER READING HOW MANY WOMEN ARE HOPING SO BAD FOR A BFP. HONESTLY, I FOUND THIS WEBSITE BY ACCIDENT, AND I AM VERY WARMED BY THE WAY THAT YOU ARE ALL SO NICE AND SUPPORTIVE OF EACH OTHER, WHICH IS WHAT I ALWAYS NEEDED/WANTED. FROM THE VERY BOTTOM OF MY HEART, BEST OF LUCK AND ALL MY LOVE TO ALL OF YOU TRULY BEATIFUL GIRLS!! LOVE, DENISE

[royal76]

Thanks!  Still in a state of shock though!!

[baby4Staci]

Denise,
I read your comment on yesterdays forum about your abortion and about how you are feeling now.  First of all, i want to say how sorry I am about your first baby and that whole experience.  I sat here reading that with my mouth wide open.  I would also be haunted if i went through that.  Secondly, If you are pregnant again, seek support from family/relatives.  You are old enough to know what is good for you.  If you want to have a baby without being married, who is anyone else to tell you otherwise?  Third, you cant think that something bad will happen to you know because of what you did in the past.  I have seen many people who have done terrible things go on to have perfect healthy children/pregnancies.  I also believed the same thing when i miscarried my baby 3 weeks ago.  I thought because i had an unwanted pregnancy when i was 18 that God was taking this child from me because of what i did.  Many of my friends/family who have no idea of my past say.. Why did something like this happen to such a good person?? i know in my head what i have done, i also, am not proud especially since i want a baby so bad now.  You have to muster up the strength to forgive yourself for your past.  No one can tell you that you will be ok, you have to believe it yourself.  As far as your ex boyfriend goes you dont need a man like that around your child anyway.  You will be amazed who will support you if you only ask.  You have all of us here.  Good Luck and i hope you feel better.  Try not to worry yourself to death.  You will be ok.
Staci

[greenpixie]

Congrats on the BFP!  I'm really happy for you.  I hope the next nine months are good to you!

[SJ99]

I am about 8 weeks pregnant. I had my first U/S  last 1/16 and I will be due for another one on 1/30.  My husband and my 6 year old daughter were with me when they saw the baby's heartbeat...it was pretty cool to see that.

anyway, I have a question about hair coloring while being pregnant. do you think it would be harmful to the baby if I were to color my hair while I am early in my stage of pregant?  whatcha all think?

[greenpixie]

Personally, I would avoid it, but I am paranoid.  I think that I've read it's still safe to color your hair.  Do you do it at home or at the salon?  Ask your stylist if you have one.

[mammasita]

Well, I just finished up my first cycle since my D&C in December. Doc said to wait one. We are so excited to ttc again. I joined Fertility Friend and according to it, it says I will be fertile on the 6th, 14 days into my new cycle. How accurate is this site for all you expierenced girls out there?? Last time I concieved on day 13 of my cycle...

[royal76]

Ya, I'm paranoid too!  I did with my last pregnancy (which ended in miscarriage) obviously that didn't cause it but I'm taking EVERY precaution this time.  My hair dresser knows we've been trying and just said to let him know.  He says the dye shouldn't touch your scalp but there are a lot of differing opinions on that.

[greenpixie]

I'd say FF is pretty accurate.  I stopped using it though.  I'm pretty sure it miscalculated my O day on a couple of cycles. Some women love FF, but I just chart on my own.

[blsusal]

How truly sorry I am for both of you. I too know what that feeling is like. I was 18 also and found myself in the same situation. For a long, long time it hurt and you still hurt but you do find the way to go on and not blame yourself. I often ask God to forgive me and ask Him to take care of he/she until I am hopefully there, in ever after. I also thought I would never have another child because of being punished for what I had did. Isen't it amazing how many of us have gone through the same things, but yet we still feel like we are the only ones? I mean, you think that only you have done something "that bad." I will at times still think, about different things, that "gosh, no one else has probably done this or that." We are ALL human and have made mistakes/sinned, but it is what we do after in confessing and moving on to being a better person that gives us Grace and makes us the people we are.

Hugs to you both and much love! Michelle

[ReneeReed]

Yes, congrats on your BFP!

[workingmom4]

i have a 4 yr. old son, a 22 mo old daughter, her twin sis in heaven, and 14-15 weeks pg.  i sure enjoy the site, thanks for all the good advice.  i never ask too many questions, but i get a lot of good info from the others.  good luck and baby dust.

[ReneeReed]

Yes I need all the baby dust I can get.

[blsusal]

Forgot to say that we have a almost 14 year old daughter (Feb.13) and a 12 year old son.

[baby4Staci]

Yes Michelle, Fortunately for me i have moved past that.  It took me a good part of 3 years to forgive myself.  I am confident in my choice. I have a wonderful life, marriage, education, job, and friends that would have never had if i had my baby.  I miss that baby, and i mourn for him/her.  But now i am going to be forever faced with the dreaded questions.. How many pregnancies? 2.  How many live births? 0.  When i went for my ultrasound on 1/3 she asked me what pregnancy am i on. I said 2nd.  She said, so you have a little one at home? I said, No.  She said, Did you miscarry?  I said yes (didnt feel like explaining myself).  After she couldnt find the heartbeat i had to tell her i terminated the first one.  SO that will be my history forever.  It will never leave me.  My husband was father to that baby too..

We have two little angels in heaven.  

Workingmom4, I am sorry that your 22 month old will be missing out on her twin sister... Also.. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smooth!!

[workingmom4]

thank you for the kind words.  when i lost my daughter...to prematurity (she was the one in the torn amniotic sac that became infected...her sister just had to deal with the prematurity)...i blamed myself so much.  one time i cleaned my room during the pregnancy, and wore myself out..(it was so messy!) lol.  i blamed it on that, or that i might have missed a vitamin, or whatever.  i still blame my body for messing up royally!  its a natural thought process i think.  someday, we just move on, but i think it takes awhile.  however, we never forget.
im sorry for your losses.  you sound like you will be a wonderful mom and i shall pray for a bfp and a healthy 9 months to you.  good luck.

[april73]

Thanks. I did feel like I was scolded for that. Pretty much everyone does it and it never bothers me if they need to ask a question on my post. Hollywood did not mind so that is all that really matters. Any way I was taking 200mg but dr put me on 100mg. She said maybe the dosage was to high for my weight. So well see. I go to see my obgyn Feb 8, so hopefully we will get to the bottom of it. Thanks for answering!! And good luck with ttc.

[Kel Kel1]

I went to the doc yesterday and he used a Dopler thing and couln'd hear the heart beat (im 12 weeks) so he did the sonagram and we saw the pic of the baby and it did grow from the last time i saw it (9 weeks) and he said it was moving around so it was fine. But i was thinking if he was putin pressure on my stomach wouldn't it have moved anyway?

Thanks for any imput!

[stacci2bme]

Sorry for all of your loses ladies:(
Stacci, i guess we do spell or name the same way:) I am ttcing and was just saying i wish af would hurray up and get here because i know it coming and am fed up with her tricking me. I went from being a 24 cd girl to a 24 to 30cd. Oh well i hope it work s out.

[msQ]

good morning ladies,

Hey, I was reading a few post on the open forum and Staci your post to Please God had me thinking.  At first I was not going to put my story on this forum but it may help who ever is reading this. there is 2 parts to this post.  1st is my story the 2nd is my 1st boyfriend's story

I was 18 and also got preg. I was a senior in high school and it was my 1st time having sex with my boyfriend of a year we were going to get married when we found out we were preg. but I knew I was not ready for a baby and the responsibly this was in 1983.  In 1886 I got Married the 1st time at 21yr,  Got preg twice  1st time I was 22yr Oct. 1987 My husband was not ready to be a dad so we abor. I understood where he was coming from. Then in May 1988 the next year we got preg again, and again we had an abor.. Please keep in mind all 3 times I got Preg I was on the pill.   I was dead inside when we abor the 2nd time my marriage was falling apart and I was hating my husband everytime I looked at him for what he made me do twice.  But my vows ment a lot so we stood married.  a year later 1989 we got preg. But I put my foot down that we were not going to abor. this baby.  Well for 9 months I carried this baby all by myself.  I went to all the doctor's appointment.  I now have 16 year old daughter 100 % perfect.  My marriage was over in 1994.

In 1994 I gave a Kidney to my mom and my boyfriend from high school showed up at the hospital because a family member told him I was there, and hear I had a 4 year old Daughter.  He wanted to see me because he had been married twice & divoiced and had 3 kids between the 2 marriages.  All 3 kids had problem. Mental & Psy.  He felt all this bad luck was because we abor. the baby we were carring 11 years prior.  But after seeing that I had a perfect little girl he could not use the excuse of us having an abor. as a reason that his live was not lucky for him.

I've now remarried I have my son who is now 17 months.  He was two months early weight 3 lbs 2.7 oz.  I just M/C a few months ago and hoping to get preg again soon.  I'm now 40.

I hope the message you take for this post is because you had an abor. does not mean that you are going to have problems getting preg.

Also Thank you for letting me tell my story...

Pagona

[amand221]

I just wanted to say there's still room (only 13 posts thus far) in "open forum" posted 1/25/2006.  Just incase anyone needs it.

I would like to thank you ladies for all of your inspiration and for sharing your stories.  There are many people who read these threads without responding or asking questions, that get a lot of answers and help from you all. Thank you for being candid about your experiences.

Have a great weekend- Congrats to everyone that got BFPs this week and to those who will get them this weekend.  My thoughts and prayers are with you all, including those ttc and those with little ones at home.  
Amanda

[ihavdestiny]

I JUST WANTED TO SAY HAVE A GOOD WEEKEND TO ALL IM NEW TO THIS SITE BUT BABY DUST TO ALL***************************************
AND NEVER EVER EVER GIVE UP HOPE AND TO ALL YOU TTCERS DONT GIVE UP HOPE YOUR DAY WILL COME!!! I PROMISE JUST DONT CONCENTERATE ONLY ON THAT K CAN BE STRESSFUL!!

[ihavdestiny]

I ALSO HAVE NO KIDS YET ONE ANGEL IN HEAVEN AND ONE ANGEL INSIDE ME THANK THE LORD IM 25 WEEKS PERGNET LOST MY FIRST MARCH 05

[blsusal]

msQ~May God Bless you! I had tears in my eyes and sorrow in my heart for all you have been through. How difficult it must have been and I can imagine only a small part of the pain you must have felt. Take care and thank you for sharing your story, we all need to hear these things.....real life. Everyone here has something that hurts or that they have been through that can help others, knowing that they are not alone. HUGS Michelle

amand221~ much love and God's blessings to you! Michelle

[Morgan277]

i took progesterone when i was pregnant last time and had no side effects.  i am starting to take it again now during my luteal phase and will let you know if anything occurs.  we are all different so you might want to confront your dr. about any questions you have about it.

good luck!

[baby4Staci]

I think what is funny for me, I cant speak for others, is that when I gave my baby back to God (sounds nicer) I was devistated.  For the past 7 years I have kept it my secret.  A few of my close friends/family know about my first baby.  I never ever talked about it because of the negativity it carries.  I wanted a tattoo to remember my m/c and i asked my husband if that means we are betraying our first baby.  I think it is. But i am not going to do something like a tattoo and not have to explain it.  I wanted both babies, I just wasnt ready for the first one.  The second one i wanted more than words could say and she was taken from me.  So the morning of my D&C i was in the shower talking to God.  I said, ok, now we are even.  I took yours, then you took mine.  I know that isnt why I had a m/c, but since i am catholic, i cant help but be guilty.. All you other catholics know what i mean HAHA.  But i want to thank all of you for your support in my story, now i have no shame sharing with all that i have my 2 angels in heaven.  I cant wait to have an angel in my arms..  I will keep all of you in my prayers this weekend...

MrsQ-I guess we have more to talk about :-D

OH you cant imagine the relief i felt when i read that having a bicornuate uterus can cause miscarriages, i thought to myself, maybe my first baby wouldnt have made it.... Hey, whatever gets you through the day right?

You are all wonderful people.. best of everything for everyone.